fr. “Disorder” by Vanesha Pravin

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fr. “Disorder” by Vanesha Pravin
Well actually one could argue that it mainly benefits people in the US
I know I'm being annoying but not one day goes by without people leaving "in America, where we all live..." type comments on my posts
This
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in a way i am my own dead wife
So real
Demand more.
Stop tolerating stupid behavior from men.
Act like you’re the fucking prize by walking away from men who think they can treat you any sort of way.
Stop kissing men’s ass. Not only does that make you less respectable but you look desperate.
Desperate bitches aren’t valued, cherished, etc. They’re only used, taken advantage of and never respected = making you feel like shit.
Wake tf up ladies!!
"This morning when I woke up and the sky was all dark and cloudy, I knew right then and there that this was going to be a lovely day."
Carolyn Jones as Morticia Addams in The Addams Family (1964-1966)
listen to me. stop doomscrolling. put down your phone. you need to get your shit together. take an edible right now. a big one. take a big edible immediately. now go turn on the scariest movie you can think of and get comfortable. got all that? good. this will be good for your mindfulness and cognitive behavior.
you don't just marry a person. you marry their ecosystem. their food. the temperature of their house. their sleep schedule. their friends.their family. their way of moving through the world
This made me think about all the “I can change them” people and how in reality, it usually ends up changing you. The reason we become those people isn’t just control but the hope that love can create the safety we are craving. That we never got or aren’t giving to ourselves. It’s attaching to potential instead of reality. Believing that if you can fix what feels off, you won’t get hurt later. That if you can shape the situation, you can finally relax
Sometimes it comes from old patterns where love to you meant earning, proving, or holding everything together. So you start adjusting yourself your standards, your needs, your routines,trying to make the relationship work. But you don’t change someone into alignment, you choose someone who already is because that “ecosystem” isn’t a small detail. It’s your everyday life. It’s what you wake up to, how you feel in your own body around them
And if you constantly have to reshape yourself to fit into theirs, you’re not building a life together you’re slowly abandoning pieces of yourself just to stay. And this expands to everything else in your life. Just to avoid looking inward, and really going for the love you deserve