[expensiveity]

imagine the woman you want to become. think of what her daily life looks like. her habits. her routines + her actions. start showing up to these commitments. start building upon them. step by step. day by day. you don't become her overnight. you start somewhere. anywhere. you become so invested and consistent in everything you do to build her.

[csuitebitches]

Chic Girl series

Part 1: Mentality, discipline and emulating your best self

Part 2 : crafting a personality

[csuitebitches]

Hello, Can you please list some resources on the art of storytelling when it comes to communication?

[csuitebitches]

started calling my goals “scheduled accomplishments” instead - and i feel that a simple rephrasing has changed my mentality towards those goals positively.

[djmobwife-deactivated20220329]

It’s not filler and surgery and restricting and shopping. It’s walking and circulation and spicy food and exfoliation and always burning a candle when you can and learning new languages and reading and sharing your products in the bathroom and talking with your hands and having strong convictions and stretching and regular dimly lit dinners and 3 hour long conversations and splitting dessert and offering your friend a hand massage. Hotness is not consumerism girls.

[financeprincess]

Get over the shame and the lack of confidence and the fear of failure and the imposter syndrome. Nobody cares. Some people are cruel and mean and love to watch others fail. So what? Do you really want to prove them right? Get the fuck up, we’re chasing our dreams like our lives depend on it because, in case you forgot, they do.

[financeprincess]

I spent, at a minimum, at least $500-$1,000 a month exclusively on my self improvement. Here is most of what I spend on, in no particular order:

Education (classes, books, courses, certifications, college tuition, seminars, etc.)

Private lessons for languages, musical instruments, sports, etc.

Personal hobbies and passion projects

Crest whitening strips (great when in a pinch), Invisalign, professional whitening, preventative dental care, prescription whitening products from my dentist

Investments such as index funds, REITs, ETFs, CDs, individual stocks, commodities, appreciative luxury items, precious metals & gems, etc.

Organic food, vitamins, supplements, high quality healthcare, therapy, massages, prescriptions (Rx skincare, etc.)

New glasses & contacts (getting some bayonetta glasses from Burberry soon, very excited)

Sports, gym membership + sauna, hot yoga, Pilates, kickboxing, tennis, skiing, dance, etc.

Personal care such as bath/shower products, body care, haircare, skincare, makeup, brightening eye drops, perfume, etc.

Travel, events, concerts, festivals, etc.

Shopping (clothes, accessories, home goods, etc.)

Eating out at restaurants and going to coffee shops

Beauty treatments such as manicures, pedicures, waxes, brow tint & threading, salon blowouts, hair cuts & colors, facials, lash lift & tints, vitamin IVs, etc.

Regular visits to my dermatologist, dentist, psychiatrist, eye doctor, primary care physician, gynecologist, and any other specialists

Semi-regular appointments with a personal trainer, holistic nutritionist, and dietitian

I don't do all of these every single month, but most of these are recurring throughout the year and budgeted accordingly. Eventually I might add in more intense cosmetic work like medspa services, Botox, etc. If you can find a workplace with a great benefits package such as high quality healthcare, an HSA/FSA, health & wellness reimbursements for the gym, disability & life insurance, etc. I would highly recommend it and max out all the benefits you can.

[soundcarvings]

“That isn’t who I want to be so I will simply not become it” are words I repeat to myself often these days.

[dreamgirlvibes]

[theambitiouswoman]

[tahyal]

Some personal tips / habits for Ramadan :

- Keep social media apps off your phone, and if you’re going to check them on your laptop do so only after Iftar

- Try to give charity at least every Friday of the month, or on Mondays and Thursdays

- Try to pray Tahajjud at least twice a week, do more if you can

- Be mindful of what you listen to and what you watch, the company you keep and the words you speak. Fast from anything that is disturbing to your peace and highly distracting as much as possible

- Spend some time in silence whenever you can, and strive to be in continuous communication with the Divine throughout the day

- Write « forgiveness letters ». If you’re holding grudges or are still hurting from past events or things that people did to you, write them out and ask God to release you from it. Create space for deep healing and renewal in your heart

- If you’re dealing with an issue in your life or are indecisive about something, make istikhara and free your mind from it, at least during this time. Release the matter to God and focus on your wellbeing instead, don’t spend this month torturing yourself from within. Be open and receptive to miracles

- Drink plenty of water at Iftar, and enough at Suhoor

- Try to consume liver, bee pollen, and colostrum when you can to maintain your nutrient levels

- Eat complex carbs and protein at Suhoor, and simple carbs and protein at Iftar

- Deep belly breathing during the day and gentle movements (qi gong for example) at night

- Prioritize hygiene and cleanliness, this should be throughout the whole year lol but put an emphasis on it during Ramadan : Cleanse your body with the spiritual intention of purification, keep your environment clean, smoke your rooms with incense, have foot baths, respiratory and facial steams, wash your hair more often, perfume yourself

- And finally I really recommend listening to Hamza Yusuf’s lectures, they are packed with knowledge and he has an incredibly soothing presence

Wishing you all a wonderful Ramadan 🤍

[tahyal]

I think one of the most important things to ask for in prayer is discernment, it is so incredibly vital, especially in the world that we live in today.

Ask for clarity, ask for the ability to recognize truth from falsehood, ask for the wisdom to know what is yours and what isn’t. It’ll save you from so much confusion and trouble.

[riley-free-deactivated20251209]

I was literally just talking about this last night.

All About Love x Bell Hooks

[sugarsilk]

take care of your appearance, dress well, wear perfume, and use manners even if you’re just staying home. beauty and elegance isn’t only for the public, it’s for you in your privacy too. a finer way of living.

[llleighsmith]

“Wash every bowl, every dish as if you are bathing a baby - breathing in, feeling joy; breathing out, smiling. Every minute can be a holy, sacred minute. Where do you seek the spiritual? You seek the spiritual in every ordinary thing that you do every day. Sweeping the floor, watering the vegetables, and washing the dishes become holy and sacred if mindfulness is there. With mindfulness and concentration, everything becomes spiritual.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh, in “How to Eat”.

[tahyal]

Hi Tahyal, I was just wondering how do you personally stay optimistic when it seems like the world is falling apart? Thank you. 🤍

Hi!

Honestly divine remembrance has been the best cure for me! Getting into God’s presence lifts off the fog of panic/ overwhelm/ sadness in a way that makes you perceive situations with clarity and serenity, it also awakens a peace in you that you never thought you could have amidst the chaos. Surrendering and letting God be your strength is honestly life changing, it is freeing.

One thing Ive also come to realize is that its very important to let yourself feel the pain, cry if you feel like crying, don’t repress anything. We’re often scared of letting it « submerge » us but by repressing our emotions we actually allow the pain to take deeper roots within, and it prolongs the process of healing. Let emotions flow through you, feel it all and at some point you’ll see that it starts to decrease, and you’ll gain more clarity on whatever it is that you’re going through. It’ll also prevent you from developing all kinds of diseases due to trapped / unaddressed emotions.

And finally, what brings me the most joy in difficult times is remembering that God is a perfect Planner, that no matter how circumstances may look like in the moment, it is all working in my favor. I can look back on my life and every time I felt like my world was crumbling it was actually being re-built and re-arranged in such a sublime way. It has taken me a long time to fully accept this but once I did everything became so much easier, you flow through life with grace and ease when you trust the Creator.

[tahyal]

One more thing, once emotions have settled and you start to regain a sense of stability, it is important to look at the situation with an inquisitive mind and ask « what is this trying to teach me ». Every obstacle or hardship is meant to teach you something about yourself or about life, it is sent to mold you into a better version of yourself, to open your eyes to truths and realities that you weren’t able to see before.

Journal, write things down, go back down memory lane and see if anything similar happened and how did you react, ask God for clarity on it, ask what it is trying to teach you, and ask to be equipped with the wisdom to integrate that lesson perfectly.

This will not only bring you a sense of peace, but it’ll also help you to (hopefully) never experience the same thing again in the future. Life really is a school, everyone and everything is your teacher, and once the lesson is learned the test stops repeating itself.

[this-is-good-bye]