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Welcome to Sugar Silk 🌹

A sacred and safe level up space —— explore all things feminine in their highest form to honor your inner goddess... from the material to the spiritual.

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• elegance & high standards

• spirituality & empowerment

• self-care

• dating & relationships

• sugaring tips & experience

for more in-depth tips, extensive insight, and 1-1 chats join me on patreon to enhance your divine feminine and attract the life you deserve! a holistic and high vibrational level up experience xx

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I’m amazed I just logged back in after months to see I still get daily notes on my posts. wow. it’s like my thoughts are immortalized in a way, but anyways…

Happy venus day aka Friday! 🌹 I hope everyone has been thriving and feeling fulfilled with life ♡

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Truth be told I started avoiding this tumblr as it grew because in this world of duality all the love you receive is balanced out with hate! The hateful accusations of spreading harmful content “that benefits men” or whatever turned a fun blogging experience into annoying.

I’m older now and care less about any body’s trivial bitter feelings. Cry to the moon about it! I’m being me regardless of who it offends. I know what my intentions are and the people who appreciate my insights understand them too.

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Logged back in after months and 🥺

I love to see how much appreciation my words receive! That inspires me to return with more content for you all, although the femininity community has expanded significantly since I started this blog. I have new ideas and wisdom gathered from the time past!

Always a few steps a head of the crowd, check my patreon to see my recent holistic femininity content 🤍

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Thank you to you cuties who tolerate my tumblr disappearing acts and support me regardless 💞

I am much more active on twitter and committed to posting weekly on my patreon!

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Reminder: you’re deserving of all the wonderful things your heart longs for and you’re divinely supported, so remember to call upon your spiritual guides in times of need.

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@sugarsilk her page is a blessing to this earth 💗

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Thank you! <3

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Level Up Daily Tip

stay ready so you don’t have to get ready!

the beginning of the day is the time to do your skincare, fix your hair, apply some makeup, and find a cute outfit to wear.

don’t wait for when an opportunity arises to rush and scram to get ready half as well as if you were to have more time. this will make you feel more inclined to go out to make connections and turn heads.

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Don’t Be Bitter, Be Better!

He upset you? What to do? Don’t disturb your peace & grace to pop off on him... cut him off! Then watch what happens when you don’t argue or cry to a man who did something that shows he doesn’t care.

Make Space for Bettter

A new date, lover, or a long term boyfriend doesn’t deserve an explanation after doing something as inconsiderate as sleeping with some one. Act accordingly with the respect you deserve and part your way. If anything he just gave you away to better, higher quality suitors and potentials. He will be shaking when you act like the prize you are and not insecure and attached!

How to Get Him to Chase

Let’s say he’s not a cheater and wasn’t committed to you, you can detach and apply the push-pull tactic. He will be surprised you’re not crawling to him in distress like he’s used to in the past with his repeated uncorrected actions. So he will come to you now! He’s chasing you. The power is in your hands here.

Now you can set the bar higher and make your bid for what it takes for him to win your full-interest again. You don’t have to say anything directly, just imply through your standards, boundaries, and behaviors to him.

Starve Him of Sex

You use to have sex, but now he doesn’t deserve it. Deny his invites to his house. Suggest how you’ve been wanting to go out or say you’re too busy. Don’t go to his house anymore or have sex until he shapes up and pleases your new demands, reaching the bar. If you do end up there, leave before the evening.

Make Him Have to Win You Over

You want him to earn you, show his deep interest through the time he invests, and do it all better this time! A man who does not honor this after messing up has no business to be enjoying repeated and consistent sex with you. You are the prize, not him! I discuss this in more depth here.

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explored on my patreon “How to Handle Ls like a Goddess” perfect for

applying elegance to conflict

expressing aggression/anger peacefully

know how to turn losses into wins

pulled a card to inspire a goddess reading for my patrons and the 5 of wands pops out... mars rx energy.

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deprograming the shame received for being a “bitch” when it was just boundaries, standards, and self-preservation being applied. take away the inner bitch to find myself being used, walked all over, and having the feelings of others put before my own. talked more about this on my patreon here.

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Wine Glass Ettiquette ✨

🍷 When it comes to red wines, the glass needs to be held by the stem. Red wines are served a bit below room temperature. Holding the glass by the bowl warms the wine quickly ruining the flavor and experience

🥂 White wines and rosés are served chill, so they don’t need to be held by the stem instantly. Though if they do warm up the flavor difference will be more distinct. White wines don’t taste very good room temperature, almost how flat drinks become unappealing, so most people familiar with wine and the etiquette still hold the glass by the stem

(Incorrect on left; correct on right)

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Toxic vs. Divine Masculinity ⚔️

Divine masculine nature rejects and corrects toxic masculinity. When the toxic attacks, the divine protects. Keep this in mind when evaluating which type of energy a man or person is operating with.

We talk about toxic masculinity, but what does divine masculinity look like? The healed and empowered feminine shifts focus from the toxic to begin to recognize and visualize the divine in order to better attract it.

Toxic masculinity —

over aggressive

combative

cold + apathetic

lazy + lacks ambition

stingy + cheap

fears, controls, hurts the feminine

Divine Masculinity —

protective

calm + confident

considerate

works hard

loves to provide

honors and protects the feminine

i wrote more about the difference between toxic and divine masculinity, plus the importance, on patreon.

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“Women are emotional in order to feel the divine energy at the highest levels and be supreme healers and lovers and mothers. Not to drive men insane. Her deepest spiritual connection to feelings is to inspire a man to his spiritual heights as well. She is an oracle.”

— Raja Khan

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How to Tap into Your Sensuality 🌹

Sensuality is about the connection you have with your physical senses. Our sensuality emerges from comfort and presence in the body. How you connect, honor, and tap into the present senses reflects the quality of your sensuality.

Feel the present sensations and take in your surroundings to tune into the body. This sensuality creates space for sexuality to be embodied and expressed with more ease. When you slow down you’re able to take in the moment, relax into the body, and take in the sensations. You know what pleases you and avoid what brings distress; you identify the standards satisfying to your sensual nature.

This is where you feel free to safely be a sensual feminine being and allow it to blossom within you. This dynamic of having your comforts fulfilled in order to unwind into vulnerable sensuality is displayed with how men or people create satisfying environments when they want to inspire sensuality in a woman. They tend to her needs to activate and receive her sacred sexuality. The wining and dining so to say.

Activate your physical senses — touch, taste, smell, sight, and sound ✨

massage your body when you moisturize

enjoy regular bath soaks

eat nourishing and pleasing foods

burn fragrant candles, incense, diffuse

choose fulfilling entertainment & aesthetics

listen to r&b music

honor your authentic feelings

dance without judging yourself

& more

I wrote much more about this with additional tips on my patreon — even shared insight on how venus ruled taurus energy plays into this and how to determine your taurus sensuality by reading your birth chart.

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Etiquette for Asking Questions 👄

When you first meet someone and get to know them it's natural to ask questions especially when you're interested and want to display it.

Rule Number 1 — Avoid asking people what they do for a living.

It's important to know that asking people questions about their career, finances, or personal life can set you both up for an awkward exchange. Personal questions can be nosy and feel invasive. Nosy as in, not really our business. Invasive as in, prying and intruding on someone's privacy.

Asking what one does for a living —— What is the reaction when they say a cafeteria worker or ceo of multi-million business? People will usually adjust their perception and behavior towards them at least on a subconscious level. Manners help people avoid being rude, not be a snob.

I explained this deeper on my patreon sharing the why’s, questions to avoid, what to do instead, then I explained why it’s rude on a psychological and spiritual level — Holistic femininity and elegance is what I love to share <3

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How Goddess Applies Masculinity ☯️

Being familiar with divine masculinity uplifts your divine feminine expression, creates the standard, and even reflection for the divine masculines you attract.

It works the same way for the masculines. They have their own divine feminine connection solidifying their god self. Since the world is dualistic by nature both are necessary.

In psychoanalytical jungian psychology this dynamic is acknowledged as the anima or the inner feminine psyche of men then the animus or inner masculine psyche of women. This pattern is reflected in the ancient Tao Yin Yang symbol, a perfect example of balance and union between feminine and masculine.

So what are divine masculine traits & how does a Goddess embody this?

A goddess is the being resonating with the highest, most divine, and unconditionally loving form of a feminine woman since love is the highest vibration.

1. Strength + Protection — Being a Mamma Bear for her cubs, and cubs only... not defending able bodied men.

2. Leadership, Not Control — a Queen Bee intuitively influences, not directly controls and calls shots.

3. Not Being Overly Expressive — Knows when to be vulnerable and when not to, think of the popular rap female artists and how bad ass they are emotionally.

4. Sharing + Providing — Being generous with natural abundance, gifts, love, affection, not being generous from laboring.

5. Ambition + Will Power — Making dreams come to life by pursuing them, otherwise they remain in the heart and mind. This is the material world we can’t snap things into existence.

6. Independent — Knowing how to be alone in a world that encourages individuality and even self-isolation for quarantine is vital. Goddess understands interdependence and independence.

7. Honors Femininity — A goddess recognizes and uplifts other goddesses. She doesn’t get envious (toxic feminine) or violent (toxic masculine) towards her. She instead is inspired (divine feminine) and offers her hand in defense when threats are against her (divine masculine).

This is just a recap of my full post on patreon 🌹

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Make sure to be taking care of your eyes, neck & hands ladies 🧖🏽‍♀️🧴💅🏼

These areas of skin are the most thin and delicate, therefore first places to show signs of aging aka wrinkles, spots, & veins.

Vitamin E, sunblock, & sunglasses are our best friends!