Doing my best

I just want to be outside 

[todaysbird]

why are you guys using ai to make collages of stolen art when you could be cool like this

[adhdisgay]

in honor of pride month coming up, i have a few things to say:

if u a terf get off my blog and don’t interact with my posts, ur not welcome here

ace-/aro-/bi-/panphobia will not be tolerated here. everyone belongs

if u see a couple who looks straight at pride and that bothers u, smile and keep ur mouth shut. gatekeeping is stupid

don’t forget the black and brown trans women and drag queens who started pride

look in advance to see how accessible ur pride is. if ur involved with organizing pride events this is especially important! make ur events accessible, and be upfront if they’re not. don’t put people in a tough position bc u advertised incorrectly. apologize and do better in the future

learn from identities u don’t hold. allyship isn’t just something cis straight people practice. we should be allies to other lgbtq+ people with different identities

being lgbtq+ doesn’t mean u can’t be racist, sexist, ableist, etc. check urself. be open to criticism. learn and improve. be intersectional in ur advocacy

can we stop hating on allies for going to pride. idk about y’all but i want allies? i love their support. i love same-gender parents raising their cis straight kids in our community. i love locals stopping thru our festivals to donate money and celebrate with us. i love queer folks bringing their friends with them. i love allyship. stop sending them away. if u don’t want allies i’ll take them

be critical of corporate pride. yes i love that we’re at a point where businesses have rainbow stuff at pride for me to buy. that’s exciting! bUT those same companies also donate $$ to anti-lgbtq+ campaigns cause they’re really just there to make a buck. support ur local queer folks! support local business! fuck capitalism!

dress as godawfully tacky as u can. please. wear that orange jumpsuit and holo sandals and neon fannypack and skeleton baseball hat all at the same time. go wild. nothing can stop u and u look amazing

celebrate!! learn our history!! get involved in the community!! if u have time and are able to volunteer for ur local pride festival!! let’s have a nice month :)

[jisuch]

Send me a ❓ and I’ll give you a random fact about myself.

[owlmylove]

can we like…. talk about what a healthy relationship with technology looks like? not just for us, but for future generations: its super easy for us to accept tech unquestioningly bc many millennials and gen-Zers grew up alongside the growth of tech, and had a naturally evolving level of exposure to it. but what about the 5 year olds with tablets? the 8 year olds with perfectly curated instagrams?? i’m as obsessed with my phone as the rest of us, but can we please stop simply bemoaning how none of us read as much as we were kids and start exploring how all these screens might be affecting the kids growing up right now?

[owlmylove]

i work in customer service and please know that i am not baby-boomer aggrandizing when i say i have seen so many children, literally toddlers, dead-silent and completely, utterly absorbed in tablets bigger than their heads. i’ve seen a shitton of pre-pubescent girls posing for pictures together, planning their angles and backgrounds, and checking what shots their mom took bc they’re worried “they might look fat.” like. i’m talking 7 year olds. this isn’t meant to be some holier than thou bullshit, this is me being legitimately terrified about a problem i really haven’t seen any of us discuss or even acknowledge

[natura-non-facit-saltuss]

In one of my psychology classes the teacher told us about a study that showed that toddlers nowadays have a hard time learning how to write and do fine motor things because of the skip the stage of learning with their hands and all they do is swipe and click.

[owlmylove]

oh!! my god!!! that is an incredibly literal/physical symptom of these newfound techno-reliances we’ve formed. a professor of mine referred to it as our “tech fetishization,” this expectation that all updated forms of tech are innately and unquestionably good things. we see technology as an amorphous, abstract concept vs. a substantive influence in our mental, emotional, and physical states but holy shit it really, really is

[mixingpumpkins]

@ y’all in the notes completely missing the point and thinking this is about millennials turning into the ‘Thomas Edison was a witch!’ or ‘kids these days!’ crowd…

Look, I fucking love technology. I love what the advancements in my lifetime have been able to make possible. The sheer amount of information and communication and creative tools available is incredible, and I often wonder how different my life would be now if I’d grown up with all these things available and accessible. (How many more things would I know how to do? How much more music could I have written? How much more art could I have produced? Could I have started my own businesses sooner? How many more people from how many more places would I know?)

But the things in the above posts are problems. I see plenty of bitching now about the effects that ‘TV / video game babysitting’ had on you - you think handing a 2-year-old a tablet to shut them up isn’t just another incarnation of the same thing? 

We bitch about how fucked up algorithms are all over the internet, and you don’t think kids having nearly unmonitored access is a problem? You don’t see a potential for how this could be fucking someone up? Open a YouTube page as a new user (with zero history, cookies, etc.), click on an innocuous video, and let autoplay run for a bit. It gets weird real fast. (Even with filters.)

As difficult as ‘don’t worry about looking like the people in the magazines, they don’t look like that either’ was for us, you don’t think there’s a potential for more damage with social media etc. now? Everybody has access to filters and photoshop etc. The whole ‘influencer’ thing is that ‘anybody can be a star, you can make yourself, you don’t have to wait for a studio etc. to discover you.’ Seven-year-olds obsessing whether they look fat or if their instagrams can compete with some random person who’s edited the shit out of their photos (and they’re not a movie star, just a random person, so it must be real!) is messed up. 

Kids coming into schools with lower vocabulary levels because they haven’t heard as many words from people by a certain age - because it’s easier to sit them in front of a pretty, addicting game to keep them occupied and behaving than spend the time interacting with them person-to-person - is messed up.

There are so many amazing tools we have now that are awesome for helping kids learn and grow. (I would have killed to be able to have ‘how to’ videos on YouTube when I was a kid - there were so many things I wanted to learn that if my parents didn’t know or the school / library didn’t have resources on, I was SOL.) But I’d love to see actual conversations about the problems growing up with tech is causing - without it devolving into the usual thinkpieces and comments that do just break it down as ‘tech is bad!’ or ‘tech is fine, ya loser dinosaurs!’ There’s absolutely a healthy balance here somewhere. I just don’t think people are all that invested in finding it. 

[kitduckworth]

not enough voluminous skirts with pockets big enough for apples

[tokkeki]

[afrodesiacworldwide]

[muppethole-deactivated20240312]

[glyphsmash]

*eats a berry* *eats a berry* *eats a berry* *eats a berry* *eats a berry*

[tchaikovskaya]

[siraxta111]

Beltane blessings

[bandrui-deactivated20200403]

[heckyeahlolitafashion]

Baby, the Stars Shine Bright Charmaine one piece dress

[oracle-fae]

[hiddenhearthwitch]

Sometimes the hardest decision is choosing to live. That pivotal moment of realizing that you don’t want to die, you just don’t want to live the way you have been living. Choosing life after wanting to die is much harder than people believe because it’s a rebirth. It’s painful and it’s uncomfortable. Just know if you are hurting right now it really does get better. It’s a fucking hard battle but life is oh so worth living and you deserve to be here and to live and to love.

[queen-of-limbs]

[listentothestories]

Emily Howarth

[petitesaffron-blog]

I wonder what he is dreaming about.