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♤Maya♤ | filipino•aroace•she/they | An aro side-blog for all my aro ranting needs. | PFP made with this Picrew |

[aro-bird]

My name's Maya and welcome to my aro/queer focused side-blog!

Quick facts about me:

Am Filipino

Am living in the Philippines

Am an adult

Am aroace

Am multiply disabled

Am struggling with SJS

[just-aro]

sometimes it's so very draining that the majority of aro content is about fictional relationships.

irl, i live alone. irl, i am disabled. irl, that intersection and my lack of interest in partnering actively makes life really hard. everything is expensive. i can't always cook when i want to or have fresh ingredients, because my symptoms don't care if I want to cut up vegetables and eat something homemade before they go bad. if I have a bad flareup and getting up is not in the cards, that's it. i have what's next to me. the lack of social support for single folks, for disabled folks, for folks whose family care is inadequate or damaging... it's impactful.

I talk about how i once visited a place with an ex partner. i mention how our relationship started because i was pressured into it, and i wasn't really into the level of seriousness and 'forever' she treated it with. everyone says it's weird that i agreed if i didn't want it to be serious. i remember being 16, saying no, and a chorus of people telling me i was stupid and immature, that her family was rich, that we would be cute and to listen to them, not my heart. my heart was saying nothing.

i look at my current age and life goals. for many of my peers, dating and marriage and eventual kids are common goals. i am watching my rights erode and trying to practice good mental hygeine. my five year goal is to be alive. my next major life milestone is a nebulous desire to find a life i can tolerate living.

being aromantic significantly impacts my day to day. i want to see aro people living their lives, and doing so with joy. i want to see aro adults making it, ones like me. i want aro people to thrive. i want to live, aromantically.

i scroll the aro tag. it's fandom and shipping and asexual posts.

[just-aro]

okay to reblog! if i didn't want folks to reblog, i would turn off their ability to do so!

[creatingblackcharacters]

In general another pet peeve of mine about whitewashing is how we're expected to believe that it was not visible to the artist.

Like, if it's maybe a tad bit lighter? Okay. I usually let that slide. God knows my mobile and my monitor look completely different, solutions ineffective so far. Maybe you're still learning skin tone vs background. Okay. I don't get upset at that.

But you had to go all the way to the other side of the color wheel for some of these whitewashings and you're gonna look me in my Black ass eyeballs and tell me you "couldn't tell". 😐 Especially when all the other colors are the exact same 😐 It's almost insulting lmao like do you really think I'm stupid enough to go for that, or are we all just socialized into knowing I'll be forced to 🤣

[creatingblackcharacters]

Visible difference, but, I can let slide with exceptions. ✅

😑 so I must truly look like Booboo the fool, to you. ❌

[t4timekeeper]

“we shouldn’t be holding indie creators to the same standards as bigger media“ i agree on principle but like this only seems to ever come up when the indie creator in question is being racist for some mysterious reason. So

[t4timekeeper]

idgaf if youre transgender stop saying the n word

[starryhoundbloo]

Shout out to my mom who explains my transition as "Having a daughterpillar turn into a Boyterfly". It doesn't erase the fact I was an adorable little girl, and also affirms my gender now. I love my mother.

[stephexmachina]

when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.

[stephexmachina]

AND SO IS BEING SOMEBODY'S MOTHER‼️

[narcpolar]

Any character can be aromantic if you try hard enough. Be the change you want to see in the world.

[aromanticofficial]

official aromantic post

[sawed-on-shotgun]

Im glad they made up romance for stories and music but can you imagine how scary it would be to deal with all that for real

[sawed-on-shotgun]

this is a certified AROMANTIC POST!!!!!!!!!!! NO yearning on my shit..... GO ON . GET

[queerintheuk]

Just met a trans man who's going on T because he specifically wants to be bald and i'm afraid to say i think i'm just never gonna meet anyone cooler than that ever again

[peach-paradox]

having being anti death penalty as one of my core beliefs is fun because it really makes me realize how even progressive people want soooooo badly for there to be a category of people they can kill. I'm sorry but "group of people okay to kill" does not exist.

[hopepunk-humanity]

[bloggingboutburgers]

I saw someone else mention Romantic Killer and I love that anime so here's some yapping about it.

MC is definitely depicted as someone who does not need romance in her life to be happy. It is literally mentioned multiple times that, if not for the wizard making her life into a romcom and forcing her into romantic situations (which is treated as the fucked up thing it is - MC spends the whole runtime avoiding romance at all costs and spiting the wizard), she would've continued romance-less her entire life.

The only people she had gotten crushes on before were videogame characters. She befriends the love interests pushed onto her and just genuinely leaves it at that. She's also a great friend and I would give examples but that's a bit too spoiler-y.

Very good to know èwé That sounds promising! (...I'm just hoping the "she would've continued romance-less her entire life" sentence doesn't mean she somehow gets "fixed" at the end? Legit that's always a fear I have and I tend to get VERY cautious on such things. But ye TwT)

[tinyuglyworld]

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL ROMA DAY!!!!

fuck racism, shoutout to romani people

[tinyuglyworld]

left to right:

romanian roma, romanichal (england)

cale roma (spain), domari (palestine)

kale (finland), romanian roma

domari (jordan), ruska roma (russia)

turkish roma, argentinian roma

[imjunebitch]

u gotta get less misanthropic I'm not kidding

[imjunebitch]

especially now with all the bullshit going on in Kansas, in Texas, in Iran, with Israel and Palestine, this ICE shit, this Epstein shit, it is essential to remember that evil and violence is not the natural state of humanity. this is not what humanity is like. if it was, there would be no reason to be disgusted or fight against it. most people are good and decent, and are victims of this, and by reducing it to a "carte blanche humanity is fucked anyway" you are casting aside the good, decent, loving people with rich inner lives who these cowardly fucks think are disposable

[demigirl-in-christ]

being real for a second, i struggle with this so much. with everything going on it's hard not to think humanity is just evil by default, or at the very least apathetic to evil. it feels like nobody cares.

[isuggestlandback]

The world is really really REALLY fucked up right now.

It's so fair that you feel like no one cares, we live under media conglomerates that preach anger and fear non stop.

I promise you there are people out there working as hard as they can to change things, and to help each other, and even though they don't get the attention that the evil and the hatred gets they are real and they are out there!

Refusing to stop caring is an act of rebellion. I'm sorry the world is so fucked. Things are awful and I'm scared too, but I absolutely refuse to let them convince me that there's no hope.

I promise there's a better world out there! I see you and I wish you an easier world ♡

[papercranesandpride]

I wonder if alloplatonic aroaces will ever figure out that when they want to support aplatonics, they don't actually have to add how friendship is so important to them and they don't understand aplatonics at all, but they still totally respect them and everyone else should too.

Like. Okay. Step one of allyship is "I don't have to understand it to respect it," yes. Step two is "I also don't have to tell everyone how much I don't understand it." You don't have to say "yes, these people are super weird and abnormal and foreign, but I still think we should be nice to them and support them." You can in fact just say "we should be nice to them and support them." That is in fact significantly better, because you're not spreading the idea that they're super strange and different from everyone else. Especially because, you know, they can hear you.

If you initially had weird feelings about aplatonics existing because alloplatonicism is so important to your aro/ace identity, you don't actually have to say that! At all! You can just keep that inside your head! And maybe you should consider that if you're using the word "aplatonic" in your post, aplatonics are more likely to see it, and we probably don't want to hear you talk about how you reacted negatively to the very idea of us.

[leidensygdom]

Having PCOS is great because you'll find medical articles that are "People with PCOS are gross fat yucky hairy freaks who can't even properly have babies ://" and then continue with "they also have much higher rates of depression, for unknown reasons"

Surely it isn't due to the fact every time people with PCOS try to get help for their symptoms they instead get recommended hair laser removal over it?? Or get told weight is the problem when PCOS is specifically making any weight loss much harder??

I've straight out been called a hermaphrodite by a medical professional because I mentioned I'm not bothered by my body hair, for fucks sake

[isuggestlandback]

I have a baby cousin who's Two Spirit.

Their parents are leftists, open minded, pro LGBTQ+, learned to use the right pronouns (to their face at least) all that jazz.

Their Auntie grew up in a remote area, little old fashioned, doesn't really "get" the non binary thing, and hasn't quite got the hang of the singular 'they' yet. But she tries.

When my cousin got injured and couldn't drive their parents shrugged and told them to quit their job.

Their Auntie drove them to and from work every day until they got their cast off.

Which family member do you think they'll ask next time they need help?

Do you want to be ideologically perfect, or do you want to help?

[probablyapinecone]

[isuggestlandback]

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