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18 🧡 she/her 💛 sideblog for aro ace stuff 🤍 i like film/tv 🩵 inactive mostly 💙

[aroacefurb]

privated last post cuz i just reread and realised i articulated my point quite badly and i cba to fix it

[daliborsdelight]

I love how people like JK Rowling swear that us folks of the Alphabet Mafia™ persuasion are overly sensitive sissies but the moment she hears a basic rundown of what being asexual means, she has to whine on Twitter about a community that has done absolutely nothing to anyone.

It’s also very funny to me that she considers herself a feminist when she is so incredibly nasty towards everyone she thinks is too different. That’s not what feminism is. If she were a real feminist she’d acknowledge intersections and how society hurts different types of women in different ways. If she actually gave a shit about women’s liberation, she would care about all women, and she’d shut her swollen jowls long enough to learn the very real violence that women on the asexual spectrum face.

It’s not that hard to guess how a woman who experiences little to no sexual attraction might be treated in a society that allows men to treat us like inanimate sex toys with zero disregard for our personal sense of safety and dignity. Now, kids, let’s put our brains together and think real hard about what often happens to women when we reject men.

[starbqsauce]

Being asexual while playing smash or pass is so fun bcuz I just be lying

[hanalia1257]

Exactly :)

[gr3at-s4ge]

a mutual of mine mentioned that the aroace community feels pretty white-centric (amongst other spaces in the queer community) so i made a black aroace flag

feel free to use it, you dont need to credit me unless its in a design :)

[sergeantsporks]

"Aro/Ace person gets given a love potion" story but instead of them being immune or whatever, it DOES work, and they realize IMMEDIATELY that they've been fed a love potion because this feeling is so wrong and foreign but everyone keeps laughing off the idea of it being a love potion because "they were probably just a late bloomer" or "no, you just finally found the right person!" and it's just a horror story about how no one believes them even though they know, they KNOW this isn't right and they can't stand it.

[aroacefurb]

man sorry for everyone following me seeing me spiral in real time.. kinda just ended up using this as a vent blog for a bit but im tryimg to feel better now.

[hymnhades]

I’m sorry I wish I could be normal for you I wish I could want like you I wish I could love like you I wish I could give you anything I wish I wasn’t swallowed by shame I want to be in love with you

[polyamorousmood]

It really says something that a lot of monogamous people consider polyamorous and aromantic to be "opposites" but every polyam person I know took one look at aromantics and said "they're just like me for real"

[silosworld]

Poly folks x aro folks in the sense that "alloromantic heterosexual monogamous people view love and sex as an entirely different entity than me, and that makes life kinda strange"

[aroacefurb]

saw a post about polyamory on twt and oh My GODDD people are so VILE over there abt it?? the qrts were insane actual losers holy shit gtfo

[aroacefurb]

does anyone have any good song recs for asexual and or aromantic songs ? any genre rlly, i just really wanna listen to music that is by and for aro/ace ppl

[aromantic-spinda]

Love as a word is like slang to me. It's very useful for getting across what I'm trying to say but very rarely do I use it literally (and even then I bend the understanding of it as an emotion). Oh I love the weather today. I love my hobbies. I love this art. Sometimes I get annoyed with how love is used as a synonym for practically every positive emotion under the sun, but other times I get it. It's all just slang.

[brionysea]

hearing someone say they don't feel love and scrambling to prove them wrong like noooo haven't you ever seen a bee land on a flower!!! you know perfectly well that's not what love is. existing in the world and experiencing joy isn't love. wanting to help strangers isn't love. if someone says they don't feel love, believe them. it's not a bad thing and if you think it is you have some internalised stuff to unpack, and that's fine, but you don't have more authority over their feelings than they do

[lovelessrage]

If you want to move forward in advocacy, you have to remove the stigma about not loving someone in any way, shape, or form. It doesn't mean you hate them, just... you don't love them. That binary of love/hate needs to be broken down for all types of love. This applies to aros and aces in relationships, yes, but goes double for aplatonics and afamilials who don't love their family or friends. Not loving someone isn't a condemnation of that person, it just means you don't feel that way about them. Lacking love doesn't mean you wish someone harm.

[nadirofamountainforest]

"aromantic people are emotionless" "aromantic people are cold" Yeah, I am. I am indifferent and apathetic and detached and frigid, so what? Let me live my life and stop trying to make me "love" the way you do. In fact, stop trying to make me "love" at all. I don't even have to love my friends and family or my cat. I can care and support for these beings nevertheless. I can understand them and be there for them. And no, that is NOT love.

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

"well actually repulsed aro/aces can still be in relationships/have sex" SHUT. UP. SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP. I know! IM ROMANCE REPULSED!! but if you even tried to ship me (and a few of you did) i would come at you with KNIVES. STOP SPEAKING FOR "all aro/acespecs" YOU DONT. SHUT UP

[radioactive-yuri]

when i say that there's a disparity in how aromantics and asexuals are treated, what i mean is that romantic asexuality is allowed to exist, but sexual aromanticism is not. what i mean is that all sexual content is expected to be tagged appropriately, and sex-repulsed people can block those tags, but romantic content is almost never tagged as romantic, and romance-repulsed people are just expected to be alright with that. what i mean is that you cannot make a single post about aromanticism without someone tagging it as "ace" or "aroace" (even if you specifically make a banner that says not to do so). what i mean is that i have gotten several hate anons from other aspecs just because i talk openly about being a non-ace aro. what i mean is that all aromantic representation is aroace. what i mean is that the aspec community is incredibly sex-negative. what i mean is that popular aspec media openly spouts alloarophobia and still gets praised as good aspec representation. what i mean is that non-ace aros are expected to seperate our sexuality from our aromanticism entirely because it might make some aroace uncomfortable to acknowledge that sexual aromanticism can and does exist.

there is a fucking disparity, you're just not listening to us.

[aroacefurb]

i think im literally just too restless (and aro) to ever have an intimate relationship with someone like,, oh you cuddled for 3 hours? sounds nice except i would randomly get the zoomies 20 minutes in and have to run around the place, i cant even sit still for 10 minutes when my cat sits on my lap i dont get how people just hold each other for ages