//OOC and drama everyone ignore this if you don't care. I just ain't playing tag games about it. I'm tired and its upsetting Cody. But im the one they reposted from(had to tell them to let me answer)
I’m going to be honest with you, because I don’t think sugarcoating this is going to help anyone: what you posted does not read as a proper apology to me.
An apology requires acknowledging what happened, taking responsibility for your own actions, showing that you understand why those actions affected other people, and ideally explaining what you intend to do differently going forward. You cannot really do that while simultaneously dismissing everything people have brought up as “false accusations.” Some of the concerns surrounding you have come from things people have directly witnessed, screenshots that exist, or experiences people themselves have had with you. You may disagree with how those situations have been interpreted, but simply declaring every criticism false does not make the underlying concerns disappear.
Regarding the incest-related content specifically: yes, it is fiction. That does not mean everyone is required to be comfortable with it.
People are allowed to have boundaries around fictional subjects, particularly content that they find disturbing, upsetting, or personally sensitive. Nobody owes you—or anyone else—a detailed explanation of their personal history before they are allowed to say, “I do not want to see or interact with this.” Proper tagging, warnings, and respecting people’s ability to curate their own spaces are important for exactly that reason.
That also includes blocking.
If someone blocks you, they are establishing a boundary. You do not have to like the reason. You do not have to agree with what they think of you. But they are still allowed to decide that they no longer want contact or interaction with you.
The same applies to Cody. He was allowed to speak about his own thoughts and experiences publicly. You may believe he should have approached you privately, but he was not obligated to do so, particularly if he had already decided that he did not want direct contact with you. I am not interested in arguing over whether every word he used was perfect; the point is that someone blocking you or publicly discussing their own experience is not, by itself, a violation of your boundaries.
The larger issue for me is that none of this appears to be one isolated misunderstanding anymore.
There has been conflict after conflict involving different people. People have distanced themselves. People have blocked you. Situations repeatedly become public arguments, callouts, accusations, counter-accusations, and discussions about boundaries. I have personally seen people express that they felt uncomfortable or unsafe continuing to interact with you.
I am not going to claim that I speak for every person in the DC RP community. I don’t. I also will not say that literally everyone hates you, because neither I nor anyone else can honestly speak for an entire community.
But I do think you need to seriously consider the fact that similar conflicts continue happening with different people.
At some point, when multiple unrelated relationships repeatedly end in the same kind of hostility, it is worth stepping back and asking whether there is something about your own behavior or the way you respond to conflict that is contributing to that pattern. Treating every criticism as a lie, an attack, or someone else deliberately trying to cause drama leaves no room for self-reflection.
And because of everything I have watched happen, I am going to be very direct about something else:
I genuinely think you should consider leaving the DC RP community.
I am not saying that because I believe I have the authority to banish you from a fandom. I don’t. I cannot force you to leave, and ultimately you will make whatever decision you choose.
I am saying it because remaining in this community does not appear healthy anymore—for you or for many of the people who repeatedly become caught up in these situations.
There has been so much ongoing conflict that I genuinely question what anyone is gaining from continuing this cycle. If being in this community repeatedly results in arguments, callouts, broken friendships, people blocking one another, and everyone feeling increasingly hostile or distressed, then stepping away should at least be seriously considered.
Maybe that means leaving permanently. Maybe that means taking a long break, separating yourself from the current situation, and reflecting on how these interactions keep reaching this point before deciding whether returning would actually be beneficial.
But I do not think continuing exactly as things are now is good for anyone involved.
You may believe that you have been treated unfairly in every individual situation. You may genuinely disagree with what people have said about you. I am not asking you to blindly accept every accusation anyone has ever made.
I am asking you to recognize that when conflicts with different people continue producing remarkably similar outcomes, dismissing every single one as someone else’s fault is not going to change anything.
I am saying all of this because I would rather clearly explain what I believe the problem is than resort to vagueposting, insults, or simply telling you that everyone hates you. This is my own perspective, and I am taking responsibility for saying it myself.
You are free to disagree with me.
But I am not interested in turning this into another prolonged public argument where everyone spends days going back and forth trying to have the final word. I have said what I needed to say, and my honest recommendation remains that you step away from this community and seriously reflect on whether continuing to participate in it is actually helping you or anyone around you.
After this, I am stepping away from the situation myself.
Please respect that boundary.
This will be my last statement on the matter.
