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Heyy guess what I made…
This is a survey for anybody on the ace spectrum!
The purpose of the survey is mostly to disprove the misconceptions about the ace community that are unfortunately ripe, and also to help me (and others) get to know our community a little better
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Any chance you guys could help spread this?
• All aces experience their asexuality differently. •
(Image description: a black background with the words “support asexual people” in purple, gray, and white letters.)
my ace/aro girls could kick your ass 😎
Something I wish I'd heard earlier
Good reason to have a sexual/romantic encounter:
•You want to
Not good reason:
•You feel like you have to
Remember kids, Your first kiss, crush, significant other, sexual encounter, romantic heartbreak, etc. is NOT some special rite of passage you Must go through in order to count as an adult or whole person or whatever. Don’t subject yourself to something you don’t actually wanna do just to “get it over with” cause you feel like you have to.
I just… wanna remind people that asexuality was classed as a mental disorder by the DSM all the way up until 2013…. Because I feel like people don’t know this or like to ignore it because it doesn’t fit into their “asexual people don’t face discrimination” rhetoric.
Asexuality was only removed from the DSM in 2013. Please, know this and remember it.
asexuality is STILL in the DSM they still have a disorder that’s literally the definition of asexuality called “hypoactive sexual desire disorder” which is what they’ve always classified asexuality as. they just added a clause that said “if the patient IDs as ace it’s fine” but it’s not like the general population knows what asexuality is and people want to complain about how visibility is such a high priority for us jesus christ
thats a very good point. i knew about that distinction, but it bears repeating for people that see this post and arent aware of it
And that’s why we need the queer community to be like ‘no really we exist and it isn’t hurtful it’s quite fine they belong here with us, the other queers, who were just de-pathologized.’
*bang gavel*
I was going to college and grad school when the fight over this diagnosis being included in the DSM-V was going on.
If I remember correctly, the big push to keep it in the DSM came from the pharmaceutical companies who need this diagnosis to exist so that they can market a drug they are currently working on to treat “female sexual interest/arousal disorder”.
This diagnosis is so fucked up. It not only pathologizes Asexuals, it also pathologizes non-asexual women for having less interest in sex than men. This disorder literally used to be called “Frigidity” and feminist psychologists had to fight like hell to get the DSM to clarify that simply having a lower sex drive than one’s husband was not sufficient for a diagnosis.
The APA throws in that little disclaimer about being a “self-identified asexual” and the diagnostic criteria of distress, but they did the same thing before they removed homosexuality from the DSM.
A lot of people think that psychologists stopped considering homosexuality a disorder in the 1970s, but that’s not entirely true. They kept it in the DSM with a slightly changed name and a criteria that the person experience distress about being gay. This was used to justify “reparative therapy” for decades.
This diagnosis is just one part of the APA’s long history of pathologizing human sexuality, especially women’s sexuality. Women who deviate even slightly from the prescribed amount of sexual interest will find themselves labeled as either borderline or frigid.
Continued reminder that asexuality is still only listed in the desk version of DSM-V, and that many countries either use the ICD or an outdated version of the DSM.
One of my closest friends was taking off of his anti-depressants and HRT because of his asexuality, since they assumed it was just the medicine affecting his libido rather than it just being his identity, and now his doctor is refusing to let him transition or take medicine he needs for his depression. Because they think asexuality is mental sickness.
I made a zine about being Ace!
Reminder that asexual ≠ desexualized
Desexualization is an act of stripping a person of their sexual agency.
For aces who also hold identities that are commonly objectified (desexualized or fetishized)… your asexuality is not harming anybody else. Affirming your asexuality can even be a way of taking control of your own sexual narrative.
It’s ok to be a black ace, a latinx ace, an asian ace, a disabled ace, an ace survivor, a fat ace, an ace woman, etc.
Asexual meme of the month: loving and supporting their bisexual brethren unconditionally
Bisexual meme of the month: loving and supporting our asexual brethren unconditionally
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Okay, so ace discourse is going on. People are doubting themselves. In wake of that, I want to put here a list of things I wish I’d known when I first figured out I was asexual. Because when I first found out I was asexual and again when I figured out I was arospec I was terrified. So if you just recently figured out you’re aspec, ace, aro, arospec, or if you’ve known for a long time but the ace/aro discourse is making you doubt yourself, here are some things I wish someone had told me before I became confident in that part of my identity.
It is a real orientation.
Your hormones are most likely not out of whack, and even if they are that doesn’t make you any less asexual or aromantic.
You don’t have to have sex or be in a romantic relationship to be “normal”
You don’t have to abstain from sexual or romantic relationships to be ace or aro.
If you have split attraction and one of your attractions is solely to people of the other binary gender you still have a place in the queer community if you want it.
It’s okay to be confused and not even know what attraction is.
You are not heartless.
You are not broken.
You can’t be “fixed”
You don’t need to be “fixed”
Because like I said, you’re not broken.
Don’t force yourself into sexual or romantic situations you’re uncomfortable with in an attempt to seem “normal”. Just don’t do it.
Don’t put up with “you’ll find the right person” comments
Correctional rape is a thing and although it’s typically associated with lesbians and gays it happens with ace people too. Be careful.
If you’re twelve you’re not too young to be thinking about that, and if you’re eighty you’re not too old to be figuring it out.
If you want to be in a romantic relationship without sex then don’t stay with a partner that tells you that you’d have sex if you loved them.
When explaining things, be calm. I’ve found the majority of people will find it makes sense and are willing to learn. If they’re being a douchebag that’s when you get snappy. Not when people are just genuinely curious.
Don’t waste your time on aphobes on the internet or people that keep insisting that asexuality is just an orientation for people who don’t want sex or demisexuality just means you want to take it slow. They are wrong. Attraction or lack thereof is something out of your control and there are allosexual people that don’t like sex.
If you want to be really loud about your orientation that’s great.
If you want to keep your orientation on the down low that’s also great.
I know sometimes dealing with a world that constantly throws sex and romance at you is hard. You can do it.
It’s okay to be confused.
You’re not a freak.
You have a place in the LGBTQIA+ community. There’s a reason the long version has an A there.
Yes, people actually do feel attraction. They’re not all pretending or exaggerating, as much as it might seem like that.
You don’t have to be good at puns, but there will be a lot. Fair warning.
Being asexual or aspec is a beautiful thing.
Being aromantic or arospec is a beautiful thing.
The love you feel for your family and friends is not somehow inferior to romantic or sexual love.
You can be happy. Anyone that tells you that you can’t be happy without sex and/or romance is lying.
Embrace your pride flag. They’re all pretty cool. And there are a lot on the spectrums.
Your aro/ace headcanons are just as valid as the gay/lesbian/bi/pan headcanons.
Be aware of the alliance with the bi and pan people. They may seem like our complete opposites at first but they understand the erasure thing and are equally bad at puns.
“listen, i’m all for ace headcanons but that character has had sex???”
this just in:
Do any other Aroace people feel that they don’t have a lot to look forward to in the future because several big normal life milestones (dating, getting married, having children and all that comes with children) aren’t things they want to/will experience? I’m only 22 but the only milestones I have left are buy my own house and retire. Plus I probably won’t even get to do those things what with how the economy and social security is going.
I just wonder how other people handle it, or if they even worry about it.
This is a real concern for aromantic asexual people. There are many things I am concerned about as an adult who is aromantic asexual, because the process to doing a lot of adult things successfully is made easier by the support of family and/or partners.
I had my parents to assist me in the process of leasing a car, and I was able to get a house because my mother and I cosigned on the house. That significantly increased the amount of money we could borrow to buy a house. That is simply not an option for single and people emancipated / alienated from family.
There is a concern as to where my resources will go at the end of my life. I don’t want to be morbid thinking about it, but I do think about what will happen when I do not have a partner or family in the traditional sense. In addition, I am worried about how best to support myself as single senior adult.
These issues effect more than aromantic asexual people, of course, but these are also issues that will inevitably and without a doubt effect aromantic asexual people because of how we tend to live our lives in contrast to the goals and recommendations of our society.
While the future may feel bleak for many aromantic asexual people, if we are able to turn our attention towards building a society that is based more on the community as a whole rather than the success of individual families who produce children, we can make these things easier for everyone.
I think moving forward, it’s critical for aromantic asexual people to integrate the goals of their community with political action that will shape our society into one that does not leave any of us behind for not adhering to the model family our society wants us all to achieve.
Sharks support Asexuals and Aromantics, sorry I don’t make the rules.
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💜💚 Being aspec doesn’t make you lesser! 💜💚
VICE JUST POSTED THIS ON THEIR SNAPCHAT AND I AM V HAPPY