We Have To Lose Our Selves To Find Our Way @asilentmurder - Tumblr Blog

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shhhhh not right now, i’m fantasizing about financial stability

photoshamanism

....and then came Georgia and invented spring....

Happy Equinox!

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people with chronic pain will go “ why can’t I sleep well? Why am I crying for no reason? Why am I getting frustrated easily ?” Not yet realizing their pain got worse

littleoil

Every time I look back You're there

juhatake

chan's details 🫀

bluejutdae

Michelangelo’s David

#beautiful men who break my heart #meesa's fave khotties #channie baby #bang chan #stray kids #skz

nankingdecade

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love

the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities

the idea that you should meet your partner’s every need, and if you don’t, you’re either inadequate or they’re too needy

the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else

the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity

the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship

the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on

the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life

the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself

nothorses

Today I explained why I can't really travel to Florida right now to my dad & watching him get increasingly frustrated with the realization that Transphobia Exists was honestly something else.

him: "well if you're not allowed to use the men's bathroom, just go to the women's! that'll show them."

me: "yeah but I'm just as likely to have the cops called on me for 'using the wrong bathroom' in there. have you seen me lately?"

him: "but if one of the options is wrong and not allowed then the other one has to be the right option. what do they want you to do?"

my grandma, helpfully: "I think they want trans people to not go to Florida"

my dad: spluttering frustratedly

me: "I think the thing is that you are more logical and reasonable than Ron DeSantis."

the face of a semi-reformed(?) conservative when realizing with dawning horror that laws can be unfair on purpose is truly special tbh

2012earthnoises

Tshirt idea I had

timsplosion

had to draw this cos its so fuckin real

let me know if it should be an actual shirt

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“you just find gay subtext in everything” no the fuck i dont the gay subtext was presented to me on an ornate silver platter

rebeccawangart

Nori (2024)

This is a longhaired calico cat named Nori. Her portrait was done with Derwent pastel pencils on 30x40 cm (12x15.5 in) pastelmat. The original color of the pastelmat was buttercup (a light yellowish color) and I completely covered it with pastel because the background was too light for the cat to stand out. I love working with pastel pencils!

hatimoon

“I didn’t say I liked it. I said it fascinated me. There is a great difference.”

— Oscar Wilde (via lucysbasement)

homunculus-argument

The thing about ADHD is that the "lack of reward chemicals in your brain" doesn't just mean that you don't want to do any tasks that don't feel particularly yummy :(, it means that your brain will look at chores and tasks that need to be done like "doing this would be painful and tedious for absolutely nothing to gain from it, Do Not Do That." The same thing that your brain tells you about everything else that would feel really bad and hurt the entire time that you're dying. The part of your brain that stops you from doing the thing is the same part that keeps you from shoving your arm into a wood chipper.

With unmedicated, unmanaged ADHD, "I have to do this assignment or I fail and my life will be ruined and I die" feels like a SAW trap, every single time.

ladyshinga

it's practically taboo to still talk about covid but god i wish we could acknowledge the worldwide trauma it's clearly still causing in people. like, it's flat out just. not "polite" to talk about how a mass deadly event might, JUST MIGHT, emotionally affect us a little bit. how an airborne invisible-to-the-eye thing can just BE anywhere now. how abandoned we still feel by our respective governments. how we've lost family, friends, either to death or misinformation and cults, which they cling to because they're ALSO afraid but often refuse to admit it because it'd mean admitting covid is real and ongoing. we just. can't talk about it i guess.

annabellehectorworldofweird

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Why am i laughing so hard?

drawnsnake

THE FUCKING HANDS

only-knives

chronic fatigue from mental illness and neurodivergency isn't something you can just will your way out of. your nervous system is part of your body. your brain is an organ. the fatigue is real. you're not lazy. so be kinder to yourself. be gentler with your bodymind.