love girls

a positivity blog for ace & aro spectrum wlw

[soft-sapphic-love]

Support wlw from Chile, Argentina, Guyana, Ecuador, Bolivia, Peru, Columbia, Bouvet Island, Paraguay, Guiana, Suriname, Falkland Islands, Uruguay, Venezuela, and Brazil!

[bi-lesbian]

if youre aro, ace, or any other sexuality, and you end up having an exception to your attraction/lack thereof, do not worry about "playing into/promoting" the sterotype of "oh you just havent found the right person yet :))!" because you arent.

sexualities are fluid and not often set in stone, so sometimes you identify as x but later realize youre y. or youre still x but you just ended up having a Single exception (or very few) to your identity- that oddball situation doesnt automatically define what your entire identity is. exceptions are common in life, they happen for tons of things, its okay to have them in your sexuality.

the thing is is that people need to understand that sometimes there Can be exceptions, and also that exceptions should NOT be ASSUMED out of people.

perhaps this one lesbian ended up having feelings for a man Once in her whole time of identifying as lesbian. they date. yet never after this point she finds attraction to any other men. it was an exception, and not a defining part of her identity (unless she wants it to be). it Happens.

the issue is that other men should not then see this and go "oh, so then lesbians Always can have an exception :)!" bc that is not how it works. and the fact that some people stupidly twist that around to think this way is not a fault of the person that had an exception to their sexuality, and its completely unfair to push the blame of that onto them. its solely the blame of the person misinterpreting the situation of one individual to be representative of all individuals of their identity. focusing the blame of that onto anyone besides ppl actually thinking those beliefs is not only a waste of time, but also harmful. everyones experiences with sexuality and other identities are different, its never okay to be policing others about them when there are no rules about these things. either leave people alone about their identities or get out of the community, bc this is supposed to be a place where we band together and protect each other from harmful things against us, not pitting blame at each other within the community.

[hyacinthhavoc]

                     💜🖤Ace isn’t a white thing🖤💜

Inspired by  johncribati’s Ace of color flag

[aspecwlw]

To wlw wondering if they’re identifying wrong, or people who are questioning whether they might actually be wlw,

You’re not alone. Questioning is a normal process. You have a place in our community for as long as you need it. 💗 Please be patient with yourself!

[enby-posi]

This blog supports bi and pan lesbians!

You've got your reasons why these labels fit for you. Sometimes there's no label that really fits on its own so you've got to combine labels and that's completely valid. From an outside perspective it might be confusing but if it makes sense to you and you feel comfortable with it that's completely valid.

I as a non-binary lesbian can relate to this a lot. You're safe with me!

[aspecwlw]

hugs to all the asian a-specs out there. hope you’re hangin' tough.

[bilesbianpositivity]

people were angry when we said lesbians can be attracted to nonbinary people and not just women. they were wrong. 

people were angry when we said bisexuals don’t have to be attracted to both or even either of the binary genders, and can just be attracted to a handful of nonbinary genders. they were wrong, too. 

now, people are angry that we’re saying the ‘lesbian’ and ‘bisexual’ labels aren’t mutually exclusive, nor are any lgbtq+ labels as clear cut or strictly defined as they might seem. and guess what? they’re still wrong. 

it takes time for people to learn, especially when their anger stems from a long history of unjustified erasure and pain, as well as fear that accepting new identities that don’t make sense to them will result in more pain and erasure. 

one day, people will realize there are better things to worry about than people who use two labels that were never really mutually exclusive in the first place. 

I promise ❤️

[aroacelesbians]

people were *also* angry when we said you can be both aroace and a lesbian. we faced a shit ton of backlash for identifying this way. but there hasn’t been a constant stream of discourse about us for a very long time. 

[aspecwlw]

💛 TBH, I’m most proud of my identities when I see vocal acceptance like this from my communities. Isn’t it a good thing, for us to be open to the diversity of experiences and identities in our communities?

[splashing-stims]

About to upload these to my redubble (link in bio)

These are the only pride ones I have so far but I take requests!

[mushi-and-junior]

muslim wlw moodboard (requested by @definitelynotclayface)

[soft-sapphic-love]

If you're a wlw with PTSD, I want you to know that you're incredibly strong and resilient. You have a bright future ahead of you.

[redheadedl]

Really?

[soft-sapphic-love]

Yes. Really.

[wizardlovingwomen]

Lesbian ring of claddagh pictures (icons? I don't know!)! The ring of claddagh is used in Ireland (and elsewhere) to represent love, both romantic and platonic. I thought it would be cool to make some pictures with it!! These can be interpreted as showing either solidarity or intersecting identities : )

[sapphic-aroace]

Sapphic aros who want meaningful relationship(s) are good, deserve happiness and to find girl(s) who will accept and love them for who they are.

Sapphic aros who don’t want a meaningful relationship but prefer casual ones are good, deserve happiness and to find girl(s) who will accept and like them for who they are.

Sapphic aros who want no relationship whatsoever are good, deserve happiness and to live their lives the way they see it without people annoying them with “it’s unhealthy” “you’ll get lonely” or such other thing. These girls or nb girls know more than others what they want or need to be happy.

[bottomoftheriverbed]

[ID: a picture of a black cherub with green hair and wings aiming a bow and green arrow saying 'no romo' labeled 'aromantic Cupid' from pink news Instagram. End]

Not gonna lie, seeing mainstream LGBTQ+ organisations celebrating arospec awareness week makes me very happy

[enigmaticpink]

Bi/pan solidarity icons

[ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity]

Um? Yes, I would like to say that I love queer women and queer aros and queer aces and queer aroace women? 

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Attraction can vary depending on the individual. It’s OK if the attraction you do experience doesn’t line up exactly with how someone else experiences it.

[raavenb2619]

[ID: At the top, text reads “Every so often it’s like”. Below is the two buttons meme. The first panel shows two buttons labelled “it’s actually romantic attraction for real this time” and “no it’s not”. The second panel shows a man trying to decide which button to press. End ID]