[astripperbitch-blog]

man its been a minute but

i revisited this blog and i have to say

im happy im not this person any more 

she was necessary, at the time, but thank god 

for growth

[astripperbitch-blog]

everything

is a repeat and falling

apart

once again,

nothing i said was ever mine.

another boy another blog another year, they all find me and it’s time i got off this website for good. 

[delicatejamaican-deactivated201]

A man pulled his dick out when I did my champagne room last night.

I was fucking pissed, I walked out.

Men are fucking disgusting and tbh I don’t want to deal with them anymore than I have to.

I’m tired of assholes who think they can do shit like that.

The next time that happens, I’m kicking the asshole in the balls with my 7 inch Pleasers.

Seriously, follow 👏🏾 the 👏🏾 fucking 👏🏾 rules.

Strippers are not escorts, and people who break the rules like that endanger me to getting arrested and fired. As well as violating my space and opening me up to physical disease.

If you want to pay for sex, get an escort. Stop using strippers as discount escorts. No stripper wants to fuck you, suck you or give you a happy ending. That isn’t our job.

😡

[gothicstripper]

Am I the only one who’s mainly bothered by the fact that they never ask first? I work in a club where extras are the norm upstairs so it’s not shocking if guys ask for sex. But how are you going to take your dick out just out of the blue?? Without fucking asking if I’m down with it? To me that’s just super rude and fucking creepy. There are a ton of girls who would be down to do whatever for money in the club, but shouldn’t you ask first to make sure you’re on the same page. wtf?

[astripperbitch-blog]

it might be my club being only topless it might be minnesota nice but this has never happened to me and ive never heard of it happening at my club so bless all of u for dealing w/ that shit on the reg... u are all strong angels. step on their dicks with that stiletto tho for real 

[subconscious-substance]

I really need advice

So, my partner is a sex worker who hasn’t been able to work due to other things. However, she has been presented with the possibility of being a sugar baby. I’m really happy that she has another way to work but there’s one hiccup, and it’s on my end. I have insane jealousy issues that I still don’t have under control. i.e. they are instant moments of jealousy sadness and anger that all get mixed together in one big clusterfuck. I have been doing a really good job (I think) of managing it when she was able to work at her club. But, this (to me, should be noted) is different. I don’t know if I’ll be able to handle the emotional stress of her sugaring.  I want to reiterate that I know it’s entirely her decision, and I won’t even attempt to dictate her choices based on my emotions. This issue is entirely on my end and I know that. My emotions are my problem and that’s why I’m writing this.

I am looking for advice and help from sex workers in general on how to manage my rampant emotions so that this relationship doesn’t crumble because we both love each other enormously. I want what’s best for her. This opportunity means a lot to her and I don’t want to ruin it by being selfish and needy.  Basically: my partner has an opportunity to sugar instead of stripping, since she can’t work at her club right now, I don’t have any idea what sugaring really entails, and I don’t know how to handle/ if will be able to handle the emotional stress I create for myself.  Thanks in advance for any advice

Inbox me or something? 

[gothicstripper]

You shouldn’t feel force to be okay with it if you’re not. You’re not a bad person for being uncomfortable with your girlfriend being a sex worker and having sexual relationships or contact with another person. Not all SB/SD relationships require sex, but there is the emotional aspect of the relationship. I think you need to talk to her a discuss boundaries; what you’re comfortable with her doing, what you’re not comfortable with her doing, and of course what she is or isn’t okay with (since she’s the one doing the job).

[astripperbitch-blog]

learn to measure the quality of your love towards your partner as something separate from who touches her body

understand that your emotions are valid 

but that you cannot place your clustered moods at the feet of her livelihood and make her responsible

my bf and i are in the same boat right now. im the sex worker. were working on it. ask yourself if you’d get jealous of your gf’s office if thats where she went to work. this is a job for her. she still loves you. take a breath. 

the emotional stress of her sugaring should be on her and her only, i know this sounds mean. but it’s true. support her. this is not about you. she’ll support you back when it is about you. 

separate work from love from jealousy. you cannot pay all her bills or pay for all her things. she can. if she is willing she should be able to without additional stress. kiss her when she gets home and dont ask for specifics. it’s fine.

[astripperbitch-blog]

besides just wanting to get thru my physics class w/o failing i would like to learn some law that applies to radiation waves and learn how to microwave my food in the best way

[jxxtin]

She’s back.

[astripperbitch-blog]

when you wake up to a bloody nose and sorority girls outside your window

[clearheelsanddollarbills]

When you Google your club it’ll show you popular times. Doesn’t look like Tuesdays are poppin days to work.

Just trying to remind myself that at this club it only takes one guy to make your night.

[livenudegirl]

This is fucking amazing!!

[sexworkinallitsglory]

holy cow, i just tried it with my old club and it had the popular times listed too…although I’m curious how they figure out that information, like do they go off what the club reports or how valid is it (clicking on the question mark states “based on historical visits to this place,” what is considered a historical visit lol)

[astripperbitch-blog]

Yeah this info shows that some clubs are way busier than mine on most days but esp. weekends. I might look into switching clubs if I wasn't in school but just because it's busier does not mean you'll be making more money. Sometimes it's just busy af on Saturday nights with losers bar hopping who are going to complain about cover fees and drink prices. But if it says Tuesdays are good, I would ask some bouncers or girls you know work weekdays, worst you can do is come in and see for yourself? Also the club in mpls that shows busier times rubs me the wrong way because the waitresses wear stripper heels. Idk I hate that.

[astripperbitch-blog]

i haven’t even done half a thing today even w/ 30mg of adderal and half a caffeine pill. i feel fuzzy at the part of my brain where my eyes meet. i’m really tired. i went through my old blog;s archive and my manic 17 year old self scares me and i miss her at the same time. i miss a lot of things. im in a circle. 

[househunting]

Are you pro-gentrification or against it?

100% pro gentrification fuck poor people

[snoia]

i literally have no idea what im gonna do if i dont end up rich

[astripperbitch-blog]

this is great b/c i will be buying all y’alls perfectly good clothes at the thrift shop sporting my pre-owned vehicle and buying a small home i can fix up myself. thx guys for making it easier 

[astripperbitch-blog]

why did i just see a photo of sandra bullock with the comment “thats what being an unproblematic white girl gets you” please stop commenting on women’s appearances this way 

stop making womens appearances have to do with any trait u can assign them

i.e. compliment some1 on being fucking pretty or being unproblematic but stop acting like physical appearance is the goal and u get it by being nice/unproblematic/accepted by someone arbitrarily 

[willowraith]

tonight is one of those nights that makes me wish I was a barista or a waitress because the sheer amount of physical labor and the bruises and cuts all over my legs just don’t feel worth it at the moment

[astripperbitch-blog]

online writing prof’s comments on a student’s “weekly update” right before me:

     “one way to think about claims is to reflect on...”

on a student after me:

      “feel free to contact me with questions about...”

me:

     “that sounds exhausting. remember to rest...”

[commander-ledi]

can we stop pretending that adhd is

always “10 yrs old white boy who wont stop screaming and wont sit still” disorder 

 fake disorder that is designed so medicine factories could milk money out of white moms

liek im such randum xDDD lol tacos rawr!!!!!”11

[theduckinthetub]

Wait then what is it

[commander-ledi]

anyone regardless race or gender can have adhd. also, its not only about hyperactivity. it is a combination of different symptoms and everyone with adhd tends have different combination fo symptoms. here are some example symptoms ones:

difficulties in impulse control

difficulties in keeping things organized

lack of motivation

difficulties in time management

difficulties in starting and completing tasks

memory issues

difficulties in focusing

difficulties in relationships

easily getting distracted

anger management issues

[halloweenpjs-deactivated2016060]

focus rather than mechanic based hearing issues

Cannot Sit Still

[closeted-queer-witch-deactivate]

Yep.

[paradise-goth]

I was diagnosed ADHD as a kid and I’ve had people say things about it as if it’s a fake thing to have and I’m like lol okay you try and have it while siting in a lecture class as a kid/adult and see how you like it. It’s not a “cool” thing to have and it made/makes school for me 10x harder.

[astripperbitch-blog]

Here are some important things my last therapist mentioned to me which finally pushed me to get my diagnoses after 7 years of focusing issues b/c multiple doctors just shrugged me off when I reached out for help:

            - ADD is less diagnosed because if you are not bouncing off the walls they dont really pay attention to you because youre not disrupting anything

            - Girls who have ADD are so often overlooked b/c boys say “I can’t do this” and girls say “I need to try harder”. I’ve wasted so many hours of my life just staring at my books or reports and just telling myself to do it do it do it even though I couldn’t

I have a lot of mixed feelings about ADHD/ADD b/c just getting used to owning something I never knew I had (but also sort of always knew I had, in a way?) but these days even doctors are pretending it’s a fake disorder and I was tossed around so much just trying to get diagnosed. 

If you know someone or you are a person that is constantly late, constantly forgetting important deadlines (or constantly re-checking deadlines over and over, in my case), always seems a little messy and a little crunched for time, spends a ton of time on things that shouldn’t take long, can’t or doesn’t hear important conversation in busy environments or shuts down in busy environments they might have ADHD/ADD and should see a (IMO) private psychiatrist and speak about their struggles! 

[househunting]

$1240/2 br

Minneapolis, MN

[astripperbitch-blog]

i literally love Malcolm in the middle so much