Could you share tips on how to focus on myself and be more attractive? thanks š¤
How to detach and become more Attractive
If you feel anxiety or codependent tendencies with your close connections you likely have deep rooted issues with low self worth, so let's get you started with some tangible basics.
Cleanse your mental diet. Stop watching and engaging with media that romantizises sadness and heartache. Stop listening to music that validates the victim mentality. Instead be very mindful of your consumption and start creating playlists with music that only focuses on feeling yourself and high vibe energy. The lyrics you listen to are the affirmations you program your mind with. Make your Spotify recommend music that aligns with your desired self, train those algorithms. Remain intentional.
Talk to yourself nicely. How you talk about yourself inside your head determines your entire self concept. You create who you are, so when you catch yourself scolding yourself, snap out of it and remind yourself that you're a queen deserving of respect.
Practice self care religiously. Normalize rest as productivity. Make loads of time to take care of your health and looks. Take time to refine your style, scent, hair, makeup, elegance, etiquette. by doing these things for yourself you teach your brain that you are someone worth putting effort in for. Which you are, you are your number one fan, don't you ever try to find someone else to take that place or you'll be giving all of your power in someone else's hands.
Keep your own promises. Same goes with showing yourself that you're a trustworthy person. If you can't trust yourself to be there for yourself you'll end up seeking that elsewhere. Your actions towards yourself will wire your brain to perceive you as just as worthy as you show it you are. Remember that the next time you accept mistreatment.
Expand your social life. Instead of trying to find a special someone to validate your existence it's better to first have a variety of humans to share fulfilling experiences with. Not everyone is for everything and that's okay. Learn to spread your social reality to different things with different people.
Force yourself out of the shame cycle. Shame and embarrassment are the biggest killers to all of your flow. Once you catch your self-shaming patterns you can start unlearning and accepting a new path of thinking, directing yourself to openness towards the world where attraction can show up.
Date multiple people. Dating multiple people at the same time will teach you not to put all your eggs in one basket. You can choose to date just for gaining experience, this will take the pressure off and you don't have to worry about the outcome because you know you're doing it just to gain better social skills and train your charm. Practice is important and often overlooked. You shouldn't date for a relationship until you feel total indifference and you're ready to walk away.
Stay busy & grateful. A busy person with a fulfilling life is a person that doesn't live from a place of need. Once you start needing you approach life from a place of lack. Instead of this mindset try saying you 'prefer'. You'd prefer a certain lifestyle which guides your choices. But you're already contented for what you have. - No one wants people in their lives who drain their energy sources, we want people who add value. This shift in mindset will change your energy noticeably as you switch from tensity to peace. You'll have charisma that radiates self assurance that will convince everyone that you are of value because you recognize your own value. And they will react & treat you accordingly.
