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@autisticmagali
I need advice. I'm going back to university soon, but my friends at uni aren't very good at social distancing (so I won't want to hang out with them irl). What excuse can I give so that I don't have to hang out with them but they're not offended? I considered "I'm not feeling up to it" but then they might think I'm sad all the time when I'm actually not
Nathan pyle’s newer comics are delightful
Also...these panels
show off your rolls!!!😁🎉☀️
If someone can lift 100 pounds, would you expect them to carry it with them everywhere they go?
If someone can sprint 20 miles per hour, would you expect them to be able to maintain that speed for a long distance?
Of course you wouldn’t. Being able to do something does not mean that you can do it for a long period of time.
So if a wheelchair user can stand to reach something or walk a short distance, why do you assume they don’t need the wheelchair?
why is everyone pretending like things are back to normal now? governments wanna open up schools and universities again, the news is no longer reporting the covid-19 pandemic the way it was a month ago, people have started having get-togethers and birthday parties again and meanwhile scientists think that covid-19 is airborne now?! like... we're still in the middle of a fucking pandemic and it's worse than we thought. people are dying because they think things are "back to normal" again. no they're fucking not!! the government and the businesses just want your fucking money!! this is just capitalism at play because as usual, they don't give a fuck if you die as long as you just give them your money. so please wear a mask, please wash your hands and please socially distance!! and remember things are not back to normal!!!
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The notes on this are starting to fizzle out. Don’t let this fade into the background!
Anti-romanyism is FAR too common, and there’s a certain, hippie side of tunglr dot hell that needs to see this
I don't know if this is an autism thing or not but my father yells at me a lot because he said he told me to do something and I didn't, but like he doesn't tell me to do these things he sugests it or he says it needs to get done, but it doesn't click in my mind as: I need to do that.
Yes, that is exactly autism.
Autistics need clear, precise, direct instructions. Allistics communicate often by “reading between the lines”, which autistics struggle to do.
I have listed 4 examples below where an allistic parent tries to ask an autistic child to clean their room. Granted if you are an adult, you’ve probably already figured this one out, but I wanted an easy example to illustrate the points of allistic-autistic communication, and where it can break down.
Example 1: Implied direction
Allistic Parent: “Your room needs to be cleaner.”
Autistic child’s thoughts: “That is a true statement.”
Autistic child outloud: “Yeah.” *continues doing what they were doing*
Here, the allistic parent thinks they have told the child to clean their room. But they haven’t! All they’ve done is stated that the room should be cleaner. This is not an instruction- it’s a statement. Most autistics will fail to “read between the lines” and read the parents’ mind that what they want is for the child to clean their room.
Example 2: Direction with no details
Allistic parent: “Please clean your room.”
Autistic child: “Okay.” *continues doing what they were doing*
Here, the allistic parent has given an instruction- but they haven’t given any details, such as when do they want the room cleaned, or how?
Example 3: Direction with some details
Allistic parent: “Please clean your room, right now.”
Autistic child: “Okay.” *Child goes into their room and picks up dirty laundry off the floor, but leaves everything else.*
In this example, the parent gave even clearer instructions, and you can see that we’re getting somewhere! But they didn’t tell the child what “clean” meant, and so the child had to guess. And they made a pretty good guess! Picking up dirty laundry is certainly part of cleaning. But the communication still broke down, as there are still objects on the floor and the room does not look clean to the parent.
Example 4: Directions with complete details and explanation:
Allistic parent: “Please pick up the dirty laundry in your room, and put away anything else that is on the floor, so I can vacuum.”
Autistic child: *Picks up the dirty laundry and puts away any other objects that were on the floor, making the floor clean enough to be vacuumed*
In this example, not only does the parent explain in clear detail what they want, they also explain why. That why is extremely important, because autistic brains will draw different conclusions than allistic brains from the same sentences.
If the child knows the reason they are being asked to pick up items on the floor for the purpose of vacuuming, then if they find an object that they’re unsure about, and don’t know whether they should pick it up, they can think “Will leaving this object here impeded vacuuming?” and then they can answer the question themselves, and follow through on the parent’s wishes.
Conclusion:
This communication breakdown translates into all areas of allistic-autistic communication, and it can be worked at from both sides. Autistics can learn to ask questions, in order to get the details they need. Allistics need to offer more details, and need to be patient when answering questions. Both sides need to learn from each other, as every autistic person is different- and so is every allistic person.
If, when communication does break down, both sides sit together and discuss where the communication went wrong, then it can be improved for next time. This is a lot of work! But it’s worth it, because eventually, both sides will learn each other’s nuances and expectations, and then there will be waaaay less misunderstandings, and far fewer arguments.
A caveat:
A lot of allistics, instead of working towards improving communication, whine that “But why do I have to tell you, why can’t you just know what I want!”
The answer is “Because I’m autistic.” And that is never going to change. It has nothing to do with intelligence, levels of paying attention, interest, or level of caring. An autistic could be a genius, be paying 100% attention, be 100% interested, and care with all their heart, and it would not change the result. Autistics need clear direction, with details. That is how our brains work. Give us what we need, and the reward is beautiful communication between both sides.
Not shaving and not wearing make up are literally nonbehaviors. They’re a complete lack of action. But doing nothing is considered masculine because women are not allowed to just be. this goes double for trans women.
reblog this version because transmisogynists don’t know how to fuck off.
Parents should never fucking threaten their children with how hard life is going to be later on. Threats do not help anyone, they do not prepare or motivate, they terrify and paralyze. If a child is already struggling they do not need to be told it’s going to get harder, it’s the same as telling them they have no chance of making it, and they should just give up. What the fuck do you expect children to do? What the fuck do you want from them? You don’t know what life is going to be like for them much less than anyone else knows! Let them do their thing! Don’t fucking act like whatever they’ll want of life will be unachievable, you don’t even fucking know what they want! They don’t even know! And if you think this society will make it hard for your child to survive, then start working on fixing the society, not terrifying your child! If all you want is to see your child discouraged, scared, mortified and blaming themselves on it, at least have the decency to admit they deserve a better parent than you are.
but really though, this pride month, shout out to straight trans people. it’s gotta be rough sometimes listening to people constantly complaining about “the straights” and how “it’s gay month if you’re not gay go home”. you’re not contributing to heteronormitivity just by being yourself. you 100 percent belong at pride and all of you make this community a better place.
Not sure who needs to see this, but if a Service Dog starts backing into you, pushing you away from their handler, or they sit down at a leash distance from their handler
You Should Move Away.
They are performing a task known as “spacing” or “blocking” that helps reduce or prevent anxiety in their handler.
They are NOT “asking for pets” or being disobedient or asking to be spoken to. All you have to do is stay back from the dog and handler.
This is not a capslock PSA because I’m not sure how many people that don’t have a SD actually know this is a trained task.
I did NOT know and this is both very cool that SDs can be trained for this, and very important that we all know how to respect it.
I did not know this, now I do. Passing it on.
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where are those startups that are disrupting the glasses industry
zenni and it’s amazing and i love it 40 dollar bifocals fuck yeah
Hey I’m reblogging this again because if you need glasses here’s what I do:
Go to Costco/Sams Club/WalMart - wherever they’ve got that $58 eye exam. That’s with no insurance, btw. Just $58 cash on the counter, you get your eyes examined.
They’ll give you a copy of your prescription. ASK THE DOCTOR TO MEASURE YOUR PUPIL DISTANCE. If they don’t it’s not a huge deal, you just have to have a ruler around that has millimeters so you can measure it yourself and it won’t be as accurate but being off by as much as a centimeter isn’t a problem.
Make them give you a copy of your prescription - you are allowed to have this, they have to give you it, you don’t have to buy glasses there. If anyone challenges you say you need a copy for your records and you’re not going to buy glasses today.
Go to https://www.zennioptical.com/ and start looking at frames/glasses that you like. If you create an account it’ll let you upload a photo and based on your pupil distance the site will estimate how well various frames will fit you.
Add the frames you like to cart and start checking out - the checkout process will ask you for your RX details that will be written in the boxes on your RX page. It’s pretty intuitive to copy it over but if you get lost use the livechat feature on the zenni page.
Start selecting your glasses details. Your RX will determine what kind of lens you get (go with the one zenni recommends for materials and thickness) but your needs will determine the other stuff. I make sure to get the fancy oleophobic coating because I’m a slimy bog monster. I also get the cheapest pair of sunglasses possible because bog monsters hate the sun. You can get transitions lenses or anti-scratch coating or super lightweight lenses or whatever works best for you. The extras will add up in cost but you gotta do what you gotta do - my life is much better with a pair of sunglasses than it is with some clip-ons for my regular glasses; your life may be better with transitions lenses instead of carrying a second set of glasses. DO WHAT WORKS BEST FOR YOU.
Don’t bother paying the rush shipping, this is going to take two weeks regardless.
GLASSES ARRIVE. WEAR GLASSES.
If the fit isn’t perfect see if the place that did your eye exam will adjust the fit for you. They often will free of charge.
GLASSES. GLASSES. I CAN SEE.
PROGRESSIVE BIFOCALS THAT COST $40 WITH CUTE FRAMES AND NICE COATING.
SUNGLASSES.
FUCK
It costs less for me to get two pairs of bifocals, one tinted and one clear, with special coatings and nice frames than it would cost me to get one pair of single-vision glasses from Warby Parker.
The cheapest frames available for adults on Lenscrafter’s site is $69.95. That is JUST the frames, not the lenses. The lenses are like $200. The anti-glare coating is like $70. THE ANTI GLARE COATING IS FREE AND INCLUDED WITH YOUR PURCHASE AT ZENNI. Just the frames and the coating at lenscrafters costs more than my two pairs of glasses AND my eye exam.
I can’t articulate how many literal headaches Zenni has saved me because I just used to wear my old prescription until I had trouble keeping my eyes open from the strain. Now at the first hint of eye strain it’s like “Not today, Satan!” and I can plan for the $100 expense that’s going to last me potentially years.
For all my glasses wearing followers - I definitely recommend Zenni glasses because for $2 you can add text to them and have rainbow glasses that say “be gay do crime”
Just a reminder that it’s pride month which means Zenni has rainbow frames! Proceeds from all rainbow frames go to the It Gets Better project.
Your acceptance of people who are “weird” or don’t follow social norms should not be conditional on them disclosing neurodivergence.
Rethink homelessness
But also, please, please keep in mind that all people have intrinsic value.
These people shouldn’t have to perform or have marketable skills to “not deserve” homelessness.
People are worth more than what they produce. Absolutely no one deserves homelessness.
Hi Jake, this seems like something people should be aware of: Youtube is auto-deleting comments with "autism" or "autistic" in them. I follow Nathan Selove who does a series "you might be autistic if..." and asks for our contributions in the comments. Twice my own comments were auto deleted and he's made a short video addressing it here: watch?v=NvF6_43FJAE I know you're setting up a youtube channel so thought you would be interested.
Oh, I'd actually heard of that I think. An autism youtuber I follow, Connor Ward, made a video about the same problem 2 or 3 weeks ago. Hopefully it doesn't affect my video that I'm doing.
You see? This is exactly the reason “Autistic” should not be used as an insult. After a while, it only becomes associated with bullying and people discourage its use without remembering what that word is actually for. If the very concept of autism is only associated with negativity, where does that leave REAL autistic people?
Holy shit.... Never Again Action (the group who started #JewsAgainstICE) had an ICE detention truck drive through them while they were shutting down Wayne Detention Center in Rhode Island this evening (August 14th).
Like they were holding the line across the entry gate and refusing to let night shift guards in and a massive truck just, fucking, drove up to them then slowed as the protestors got up from where they were sitting, alarmed, then the truck accelerated into people.
It doesn't seem like there are any serious injuries. The people who were around the truck after it stopped accelerating into people were pepper sprayed.
EDIT: Wyatt ICE Detention Center, not Wayne
SOURCE: Never Again Action's twitter livestream of the action and the car attack
The truck was driven by an ICE guard.
As this information is publicly available, the law in the US does not consider this doxxing, which is why it was on twitter on the first place. Here's the guy.
Its the same people. If you can stomach working for ICE its because you're a right-wing fascist. Same tactics, different day.
Fun fact, y’all!! Jewish protesters have been surrounding and shutting down ICE detention centers for weeks now, and we’re getting absolutely NO media coverage. None. In the slightest. And by jewish protesters I mean THOUSANDS OF US HAVE BEEN PROTESTING FOR NIGHTS ON END AND OVER 250 HAVE BEEN ARRESTED AT THIS POINT AND WE ARE GETTING ZERO COVERAGE. This is probably the biggest protest movement in american jewish history and it’s getting no coverage. We got hit with a truck DRIVEN BY A DETENTION CENTER GUARD and pepper sprayed and many people ended up in the hospital - one man in his sixties has a broken leg and a potentially broken back because of it. PLEASE REBLOG THIS. THOUSANDS OF YOUR JEWISH SIBLINGS ARE TRYING TO SHUT DOWN THE CENTERS AND WE’RE GETTING ZERO COVERAGE. PLEASE PLEASE SPREAD THIS AROUND.
