[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Learn to articulate how you're feeling without accusing anyone of having bad intentions. You can say "I'm afraid of being alone" without saying "you're just going to leave me like everyone else." You can say "I need some reassurance" without saying "you probably don't love me anymore." You can say "I'm afraid I've hurt your feelings and I'd like to talk it through" without saying "you don't even like me anymore." You can say "I want to spend more time with you" without saying "you've gotten tired of me." You can say "I feel misunderstood" without saying "you always judge me." Try not to let your emotions get the best of you. Have a conversation focused on finding solutions instead of escalating the conflict.

[mioxenoblade]

People will accept eugenics so long as it proves them valid in some way. Like "if scientists prove there's a gay/trans gene or something we'll finally be recognized as legitimate by all" like nah dude that's fucking eugenics bud that'd be used to get rid of us

Or mom's being like "I can't wait till one day when we can find the autism gene and stop autism once and for all" like bitch that's eugenics is your kid having a sensitivity to touch and not wanting to be hugged such a big deal to you that you want to get rid of all autistic people? That's so incredibly selfish and terrible.

Eugenics isn't a morally gray area. It's all bad. All of it. "We can stop families from suffering :(" suffering what? A unique individual? Fuck off.

[precioustranswoman-deactivated2]

There’s so much info about tucking and gaffs (less so) but to all new trans girls.. just get some cotton panties like boyshorts style and push it back gently.

 Like you might have to do slightly (slightly) more for tighter clothes or different fabrics but like… ya don’t need to tape yourself every day… or ever… and gaffs are good but unless you’re wearing something tight n thin cotton boyshorts or some other strong underwear will do the trick.

 Like all this info pretending like you need special gaffs, tape, to shove ur testes up into your inguinal canal, etc. is classist, physically harmful, and preventatively daunting information to be spreading without disclaimers like this.

[polyhedralprincess]

Idk if this has been said before but a long time ago another trans lady and I kinda realized we could just wear 2 pairs of underwear and call it a day without taping or anything fancy. Its definitely a cheap alternative and Ive been doing it for 6 years 👍

I wear jeggings to work and when im out and about and I never get looks or comments, idk if this is helpful to anyone tho 😅

[drumandbassdoll-deactivated2023]

to every transfemme person: please read this it will save you so much time, money, and energy

[low-or-no-dyspho-ria]

I had a friend who wore some layers compression shorts and called it a day

[lordelmelloi2]

[gigantomachylesbian]

Being alone is just like: *makes a weird noise* *talks to myself* *makes a weird noise* *makes a weird noise* *talks to myself* *doesn’t talk to myself but does the hand gestures to what I’m saying in my head* *makes a weird noise* *makes a weir

[dearbisexual]

dam…….. that website “you feel like shit” (it’s like a questionnaire / troubleshooting guide for when you feel like shit) really works………………….. im not even all the way thru it and i even half-assed a lot of the suggestions and i already feel loads better

[dearbisexual]

for some reason, with this website, i was able to complete small tasks ive been fruitlessly bugging myself to do for weeks??

anyway, i feel almost good now :^)

[dearbisexual]

im glad this got some notes!!!! i hope it helps y’all find some measure of peace or comfort <3

[crtter]

Sometimes I hyperfocus so hard on something, I forget I’m a person until someone interacts with me. I feel like some wild animal seeing a human being for the first time. I’m like “oh yeah I’m supposed to speak and stuff”

[crtter]

Me: *doing something for hours on end without stopping*

Someone: Hey, are you there? I was just wondering if you’d like to-

Me:

[gay-for-fingerless-gloves]

For every single person in the notes going “yeah” or “same” or something like that…

[letgoness]

Your very presence is a guesthouse. Everyday, there are new, unexpected arrivals; contentment, depression, hope, anxiety. Keep your door open and welcome them all. Even if misgivings pull the shades or sorrows clear the furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. 

Rumi

[knivesplushearts-deactivated202]

at the goblin market: i mustn’t buy a little goblin treat

when i get home: i wish i had a little goblin treat

[impulsivemischief]

[onlytwitterpics]

[afieldinengland]

im the most gender non conforming farmhand in this wheat field

[selznick]

can someone explain lack of object permanence and autism,,, i tried to look it up but it only talks about babies and called them the r slur?????

like,, ya ik theres something there even if you put a blanket on it??

[lonelier-version-of-you]

Yeah, that’s why I call it having a weaker (or even just different) sense of object permanence rather than a lack of it. (Unless I’m joking, in which case I’ll gladly say things like “I have no object permanence, I’m practically a baby!!” just to be funny.) That’s more so just me being pedantic, though.

A lot of autistic people (and people with ADHD, and I’d suspect probably other conditions too but I don’t know what exact ones) tend to sort of… forget things exist, if we can’t directly see them. (If you want to get technical about it, this is probably an executive functioning issue.)

Like, I’ll put something away somewhere to use it later, and almost immediately just forget about it. Or I’ll get an ask on here and go “oh, I’ll think over this for a couple days so I can give a better answer” and then I’ll get distracted by something else and forget about the ask.

That’s the sort of thing people usually mean when they refer to “lack of object permanence” in ASD. We know that the thing hasn’t stopped existing, but we tend to forget it ever existed in the first place, and “object permanence” (or in this case, impermanence) is just the easiest way to refer to that.

(From what I can tell, this is pretty much how it works for a lot of people with ADHD, too, but I don’t have that so I can’t say for sure.)

[swagpaws]

if uve ever infodumped to me or rambled about an interest to me i need u to know that i love you. i am so in love with the excitement in how u share ur interests with me and seeing u get excited about ur interests literally makes my day!!! i love u!!

[crayyola-deactivated20220827]

apparently ur last 5 non face emojis are ur aestuetic. ❤💞🏳️‍🌈🏃‍♂️💔 AWWW

[lonelyroommp3]

voted time magazine’s fragile little teacup of the year

[normal-horoscopes]

CARING FOR THOSE WHO CAN GIVE US NOTHING IN RETURN IS WHAT MAKES US HUMAN