that's ADHD, babey!

I'M TRANS FRIENDLY! 💛🤍💜🖤 this is an adhd sideblog (+ other disability/queer stuff!) yuki ✿ 27 ✿ bi/pan/enby ✿ multigender/systemfluid ✿ adhd-c.ocd.pf-did.bpd.autism ✿ my main blog is thekawaiibutterflygirl ! I may interact from there!

[adhbabey]

Hewwo! Welcome to my blog, are you looking for the directory?

My friend's go fund me!

Here's my ADHD checklist!

If you think you have it, here's a reblog of "what now?"

Also here's an update of some things I've missed in the original post!

How to identify whether you have adhd compared to autism (and stuff about other comorbidities).

How this post should be taken.

Opinions on:

Self diagnosis (and why it's important)

Why we shouldn't have to be nice or palatable to be respected

Ableism in the community

Also here's multiple posts on executive dysfunction!

ONE

TWO

THREE

FOUR (this is the masterlist one)

Here's a couple of really important comics on ADHD stuff!

ONE

TWO

Dissociative disorder stuff!

Post on some symptoms of it!

Reblog about catatonia

Reblog Chains

Stim Music

Same Foods

Defining features of ADHD.

Post about sensory processing disorder.

ADHD iceberg 

ADHD Spectrum Test

How ADHD and ASD are both affected by dopamine deficiency.

Tone Indicators

Flowchart of "I feel bad" for those with autism/alexithymia!

Important stuff on ADHD.

How to deal with Triggers.

Careful if you want to watch Welcome To Nightvale!

ADHD Pain Recognizer

Non-Stereotypical Autism Symptoms

The Artic Spectrum

If you have anymore posts you want me to link here, send me a message or an ask, with or without that post. I will need an accurate description if you can't find it, though!

[fandomsandfeminism]

As we barrel into another Pride Month, we will inevitably all see the stupidest, coldest, most reductive, exclusionary, assimilationist nonsense discourse simmer to the surface of social media again like scum foaming up on a long simmering soup.

And when that happens, whether it's garbage takes about trans people, or ace people, or nonbinary people, or neopronouns, or he/him lesbians, or bi women with boyfriends, or furries, or *what the fuck ever*- remember-

You do not need to quibble over the details. You do not need verbally spar on every hill that dipshits want to die on.

Just stop and ask- hey, does this fucking matter?

Does it matter if some queer people do _____? Does it cause any actual, measurable, material harm? Is this *actually* a problem? Be specific. Beyond just 'it makes me uncomfortable' and 'but that doesn't make sense' - does it actually *matter*?

Because if the answer is no, then who the fuck cares?

I don't care if something is confusing, or illogical, or weird, or makes you uncomfortable. Does it actually harm anyone? No? Then mind your fucking business.

Its not your responsibility to Lincoln-Douglass debate every overzealous puritan and under-informed tween on the complex nuance and inherent political context of the queer experience. Focus on what matters . Ask them what, if any, harm does ____ actually do, and THAT is all you need to address. (Oh you wanna defend ___ spaces? Which spaces specifically? What are you worried about happening? Oh is ____ normalizing ____? Does it? Does that...matter?)

Because even if other people dont like it, Queer People will continue to be weird, messy, confusing, contradictory, illogical, and strange as we all do our fucking best to be ourselves as best we can be. The way we survive and grow and thrive is by giving each other the grace and space to do so, whether or not we deeply, logically resonate with whatever others have going on.

And we don't talk shit about each other. We don't take pot shots at the queers who are queerer than we are. Throwing other queer people under the bus has never made things better.

So. Circle the wagons, close the ranks, and get comfortable rubbing elbows with people who are, you know, freaks and weirdos.

Happy Pride.

[winklhuh]

PRIDE MONTH HAS BEGUN YEEEEEE 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💪🏻🎉

Most importantly, remember: you don't have to be ashamed of who you are 🫂 Unfortunately, with the news this spring, it's becoming harder to achieve equal rights for the LGBTQIA+ community, but we're not giving up – we'll just be even louder 🗣 And I hope that one day each of us will feel accepted by those around us, won’t be afraid to open up to our loved ones, and that everyone will have the freedom to be themselves on an equality with others

This year I drew myself, free and joyful in who I am; I’m with you, my sunshines ✊🏻 This profile is and always will be a safe space for everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community: we matter, hugs 🫂 💗

[adharathestara]

the like button is gay!!!!!

[lgbtqiatext]

[lgbtqiatext]

[adhbabey]

Happy pride! remember to read more yuri!!!!

[pavizi]

trans women i love you

[pavizi]

disabled trans women i love you

[mxjackparker]

This kind of response to things I say about sex work, which isn't always phrased like this but almost always focuses on me being male or a man or my pronouns, shows a fundamental misunderstanding of why mansplaining is bad.

I am a sex worker. I have been for a decade. The majority of people I know are sex workers and I'm embedded in sex worker community. I started before 18 and have done it in brothels, cars, my own home, clients' homes, saunas, and hotels.

It's absolutely reasonable to criticize men who speak on issues they don't experience like an authority, especially when they speak over women to do it. It is not reasonable to raise someone's gender (or in this case, pronouns) as a reason their thoughts aren't worth hearing when the issue is one they do face.

[mxjackparker]

I see people bringing up that I'm trans in response to things like this, as a way to legitimize my speech. The reason I refuse to do so, despite many of my experiences selling sex being pre-transition, is that I equally do not want cis men who have done sex work to be silenced on the topic.

We need more active and former sex workers to speak out. That won't happen if we're dismissing those who do.

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

The reason why so many of y'all's feminism sucks is because you still believe deep down in your hearts that there are only two kinds of people in the world: precious, ethereal, fragile dollthings called "women", and violent, lustful, rage-fueled apes called "men". Until you throw that idea away, 3rd-grade-tier "girls rule boys drool, girls are princesses and boys are stinky :(" is as feminist as we'll ever get-- and I hope it's obvious that that's lightyears away from the bare minimum of where we need to be.

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

I don't know how I'm supposed to explain to ostensibly trans-friendly feminists that "women are beautiful soft things made of glass, men are obsessed with violence and sex" is exactly what the patriarchy wants you to believe. Patriarchy wants you to believe that being a woman and/or having a vagina (patriarchy generally believes those two things are synonymous) makes one shatter on impact with reality. It makes you easier to control if you are scared shitless of the other half of the population, and it makes you more compliant with your lot in life if you believe it is in the nature of the other half of the population to rape and kill rather than realise those were choices those individual rapists and murderers made. There is no way to make gender essentialism progressive and feminist, because it is one of patriarchy's tools of subjugation. Stop trying to make it progressive.

And I can scream all of that from the rooftops over and over again, and what I hear in reply is "Trans men really are men because no woman would ever decide to become an inherently evil repugnant rapist ape", and "You're so right. Trans women are women because they too are pretty delicate little objects I can fuck", and "You're non-binary? So are you fucktoy non-binary or sexpest non-binary?", and my patience runs ever thinner.

[rudavoidish]

Y'all if you're American please email AND CALL your politicians and senators against the parents decide act. I'm fucking begging because we're reaching a tipping point.

[solrin]

We tried to warn you about the "adult content" bans. Now Kickstarter is starting that shit

[problematic-faves-appreciation]

"It must have serious value!"

Staight up sounds like obscenity law/Miller Test-type crap.

[asaflowerblossoms]

"Fetishized imagery intended to arouse" well it's a good thing oppressed and vulnerable communities are never fetishized.

[solrin]

I know many of you have already liked and reblogged this post, but I'm going to attach a couple of links for resources on how to contact payment processors and whatnot. Hopefully they can get spread around a bit. It includes how to contact the payment processors, scripts, and various links to other (at the time ongoing, these websites haven't been updated in about 8 months and 1 year respectively) petitions and forms that might be useful to you.

Protect Queer Creators and Sex Workers - Tell Payment Processors to STOP

TELL VISA, MASTERCARD, STRIPE, and PayPal to STOP

I'd also like to ask people to be willing to bring this conversation into spaces where things like "politics" aren't welcome and more forcefully draw attention to the ever growing issue of censorship. Some of you may only have those communities to draw on but we've long since run out of peaceful/polite/non-disruptive options.

[this-is-trans-joy]

I don’t know if this is an obvious take or a hot take, but I think people need to start re-framing feminism as the fight for body autonomy as opposed to whatever this second wave revival gender essentialist bullshit we have going on right now. Once you reframe it in this way, it’s easier to understand intersectionality and why cis women are not the only people who need feminism. The lack of body autonomy effects cis women, trans people, intersex people, disabled people, poc, homeless people, sex workers, etc. and your feminism needs to include and prioritise all of these groups of people (which will include men btw) because feminism is about autonomy, not about establishing a matriarchy. Body autonomy is the biggest threat to the patriarchy, both with reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and even the right to not be drafted into military services. Once body autonomy is established for everyone, the patriarchy no longer has a leg to stand on.

And body autonomy does include things that you don’t personally like either. I was prompted to write this post after a series of bad takes from progressives, but one of them was re-hashing the Sabrina Carpenter album cover drama with “I don’t think it’s conservative of me to think that the album cover is a bad look when we’ve seen images of women being abused in this way” because I do actually think you’ve failed to understand feminism by projecting your morals onto a woman who was consensually expressing her own autonomy just because she expressed it in a way that you didn’t like or that made you uncomfortable.

Body autonomy also means unhealthy choices. Body autonomy also means regret rates. Body autonomy also means freedom of sexuality. Body autonomy also means mutilation. If you believe body autonomy has limitations and exceptions, then your feminism is most likely surface level.

TERFs are some of the biggest opponents to body autonomy, and if you find yourself thinking “oh people can do whatever they want with their bodies as long as it doesn’t harm them or make others uncomfortable” then you are far more susceptible to TERF propaganda than you think.

[penumbralwoods]

every time someone realizes they dont have to pick between being a boy or a girl an angel gets its wings btw. and also extremely loud cheering can be heard in the distance from me specifically

[penumbralwoods]

btw if you've ever wondered why i make posts like this and get really obnoxious about nonbinary positivity. this is why

and for all of yall that are still figuring it out or aren't getting the support you deserve:

[this-is-multigenderphobia]

One of my pet peeves is when posts go like "boys, girls and theys". I cant fully articulate why, but it feels so weird in a bad way. Like I get it, you're being funny because you dont know what to call people who arent strictly girls or boys but like.... We got words for that. Enby, enbies, enban, enben,,, we're people.

You're not being inclusive by saying "theys", it feels dehumanizing. Also not all non binary people use they/them pronouns. I really feel like I'm begging here to be treated and talked about as a person and not a funny concept.

Doubly peeved about "they/thems, she/theys, he/theys" because it's just like, okay, pronouns have nothing to do with indicating someone is non binary or not, but even if, why are you calling other people "they/thems". We're literally right here. We are gonna see your post, we're not that rare, and I really cant explain the feeling it gives me better than just dehumanizing. Like Im not a person, not a human being, Im just some sort of joke, because this always comes off to me as a mockery since a lot of exorsexist people use it. (Even if there are therians/otherkin people who are non binary, or in general people who are okay with being dehumanized, it is certainly not something you should do when talking about an entire group of people. So even if someone you know is personally fine with it, it's not an okay thing to do beyond that one person)

[eepygirllava]

I'm not even enby but this is something ive thought/wondered about a lot and you're absolutely right, this is WAY to good of a take to only have 22 notes

[this-is-multigenderphobia]

It just feels so weird because you (general you) dont call girls "she/hers" or boys "he/hims", like that would be very strange, so the whole highlight on our pronouns while also making us stand out from the rest of the phrase, "boys and girls and theys", just very much feels like singling out non binary people. Like, even inavertedly, it ends up making us "the other" from people. Neverming that exorsexists and people with biases towards enben will use "they/thems" derogatorily and in a mocking manner to point to us as people who think they're special or smth.

Anyway thank you, Im glad to hear it's not just smth Ive noticed!

[this-is-multigenderphobia]

Guess what, saw someone refer to enbies as they/thems again, you know what that means! Im bringing back this post!

[adhbabey]

I suggest we take from thomas sanders and say "guys, gals and nonbinary pals".

[cyanide-sippy-cup]

For anybody not caught up: Tennessee just passed a new map that pretty much makes it so black neighborhoods have no power in local votes. Two things about this. While protestors were chanting "No Jim Crow", white Tennessee lawmakers were caught laughing on video. On top of this, Representative Justin Pearson and his brother KeShaun Pearson were arrested for trying to give their takes on the matter (which is not only their legal right but literally his job). If you give a shit about black people, help fight this. We can't allow a return to Jim Crow.

[ephxmera-a]

You feel like shit: An interactive self-care guide

“This is meant to be an interactive flow chart for people who struggle with self care, executive dysfunction, and/or who have trouble reading internal signals. It’s designed to take as much of the weight off of you as possible, so each decision is very easy and doesn’t require much judgment.”

I hope this might help some of you struggling lovelies out there!

[howilearnedtocope]

This is kind of a choose your own adventure style prompt. It will ask you a simple question and then give you advice based on what option you select. I like the fact it asks only one question at a time, so it’s not cluttered, and they use a large, readable font with simple language. This is perfect for days when I have a really bad flare of symptoms from my TBI. 

[miss-nj-writes]

Just remembered this exists and it helped me into a better place tonight. Reblogging for anyone else who might need it