Iâve written many songs and blog posts about women. Iâm in a unique position in my life and career to spread some positivity and empowerment to my fellow femmes! And if you were me, wouldnât you do the same? Iâd like to elaborate on our song âDear Daughter,â which started out as more or less a jotting down of things my mother and father told me as a kid. What it became was so much more than just me quoting my parents. The song has taken on a life of its own and is such a personal reflection of what I think a young woman should hear growing up.
As girls in this world, we are taught to balance being safe, quiet, and pretty. Find a partner, settle down, donât state too many opinions lest be viewed as having too much baggage, and whatever you do, donât age or stop being cute! But what about being smart, loving yourself and taking a risk to follow your dream? Those were the breed of conversations I was lucky enough to have growing up. It was never about beauty or the end goal being a white picket fence and 2.3 kids. It was a question of what could I offer uniquely to the world⊠what was I passionate about and what would it take to be able to make my passion into something I could call my job.
My mom never worried that I was a tomboy. Iâd climb trees and I even asked for a toolset for Christmas one year. As a mother she understood that as a young girl there was already enough pressure from the world, so she encouraged me to be happy and myself
I was 13 and my little brother was 10 when we started Halestorm. I had been playing piano since I was 5 and Arejay had been playing drums since utero. If any of you have ever seen my little brother play you will understand why I put in that way. We wrote a handful of songs and set out to be the rockstars that we watched on my parentsâ VHS tapes and listened to on their vinyl records. Little bro and I had tunnel vision for music, the lightbulb more than switched on; it was red hot! Itâs all we talked about, dreamt about and all we wanted to do after homework was done! It was so much more than a âthis is what I wanna do when I grow upâ passion. It was our identity. He and I even started introducing ourselves to complete strangers as âIâm Lzzy and Arejay, AND weâre in a band called Halestorm.âHa! We just started forcing our dream upon the world!
My parents never let on that they were actually terrified for their kids to be pursuing this career. After all, this unruly, unpredictable career was the last thing anyone would want to encourage their precious daughter or darling boy to do! It didnât guarantee security, in fact, quite the oppositeâthis music business exposes a lot of danger and heartache into your bubble.
But my parents knew we were going to do it anyway; they saw the fire in our eyes. They witnessed the passion and the near obsession that possessed us when we picked up our instruments. My mom always wanted to play guitar, but her stepfather told her no, so when I told her at 16 that I wanted to step off the piano and sling a six string, she and my dad bought me my first axe.
It wasnât easy for them, My parents were not rich and gave up a lot of comfort for us to pursue this. They also caught a lot of sh*t for encouraging us to go for it. They got nasty letters from my teachers who thought I was going to end up worshipping the devil. I heard them on the phone trying to reason with my friendsâparents who would never encourage their own kids to book gigs in the corner of bars, malls, coffee houses, a funeral (yes, that happened once).
I was never a bad kid, in fact the only time I was ever called into the principalâs office was because I was giving away our first Halestorm cassette tape "Forecast for The Futureâ in the halls of my middle school. I truly believe it was because my parents had my back that I remained a good kid. If they hated or discouraged my passion, maybe I wouldâve acted out or started hanging with the wrong crowd, doing drugs, etc. But my parents were brave enough to say yes to my journey.
Over the course of many years, both of my parents worked for us, helped us get shows, and cheered us on as we raised this monster we called Halestorm. When things got tough, instead of turning to us and saying, âWell, that was fun, now itâs time to get a real jobâ. Theyâd pose questions, like, âWhat are your end goals, and how can this hurdle help you grow?â These are questions I still ask myself when I come to a crossroads in my life. My personal goal in my music career wasnât money or to be famous, nothing frivolous like that. My goal was simply to continue to do what I loved everydayâwhich was being a part of this band. My parents knew this. Weâd have many conversations about how that nine to five âreal jobâ everyone said I should have will always be there waiting for me. But the opportunity to follow my dreams and be able to call my passion a career? That I would have to fight for.
And we did, and now Iâm proud to say that Iâve kept this dream alive and growing for almost 20 years. Iâve toured the world, performed with my idols, bought my first house, and even won a Grammy! Ha! I remember calling my mom when we were nominated for a Grammy. I reminded her of an on going joke we had when I was a kid just starting out. Weâd always joke about how if I ever got nominated for a Grammy, my mom was going to be my date to go. She had forgotten about this, so when I told her that I was going to keep this promise, she burst into tears over the phone. I know Iâll never understand until I have my own daughter just how much love and pride she felt when we were recognized by the Recording Academy and won that Grammyâa feat I might have never achieved without her support and encouragement.
So this song, âDear Daughter,â is my own way of passing the torch. Because I think that the words I grew up hearing are something every young girl deserves to hear. They were always simple, yet profound. Hold your head up high, and be you. Always remember that you are like no other. This world is indeed full of pain and fear but thereâs also hope and love; itâs how you choose to tip the scale that matters. And no matter what happens, I will be there, and I will always support you.
Iâm hoping that through this song, I can spread the inspiration and empowerment that has been instilled in me. Carve your own path, ladies (and little gents too), Iâm living proof that nothing in life is impossible.
Love,
Lzzy Hale
P.S. You can see the brand new music video for âDear Daughterâ at www.halestormrocks.com
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