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if you're my moot and you're a fandom girlie reveal yourself, I'm trying to see something

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Summer Essentials

body neutrality

some good literature ( think classics not beach reads)

a few goals that fit into the bigger picture

a beloved tv series or two to pass the time

lots of hydration

a diet rich in lovely summer produce

some cool research topics

a signature bikini that goes everywhere with you

a fun new hobby

sunscreen

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Motivation is overrated. No amount of motivation would’ve gotten me through hours of my accounting textbook. No “vision” is enough to keep me awake til the crack of dawn on an essay that I don’t even know if the professor will check. Discipline is what determines how far you go. On those days when your cute little list of #goals and vision of yourself 5 years from now aren’t enough, discipline will pull you out of bed and get you to work. I wish I knew this in high school because I thought I couldn’t work without motivation. I wasted so much time trying to find purpose before I realized that working now, albeit blindly, will ensure that I could chase any purpose I discover in the future. Sure, motivation is crucial, but it’s not consistent. It’s not reliable. You can only rely on yourself and your grit. 

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more and more normies are self-diagnosing neurodivergence because they're ignorant and chronically online. they think autistic means socially awkward and adhd means easily distracted and hold no real knowledge of either condition's symptoms outside of that. They fried their attention span on tiktok and neglected their social skills to the point of atrophy and now think this makes them neurodivergent.

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people have this mindset and then wonder why they constantly feel socially othered and like they're on the outside looking in. I implore you to remember that you are a member of a social species, that's how we've survived for so long and being dead weight with no interest in other human beings and their feelings won't benefit you in the long run.

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sometimes you do have to take a step back and undo the damage. making an effort to get your BMI out of the obese category before worrying about having a hot body, digitally detoxing and developing a reading habit before you try your hand at a being a thought daughter, learning to hold a conversation that ends well before worrying about becoming a socialite.getting the base of that pyramid built up should be your priority.

you can't fly with a broken wing.

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Love you ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚

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actually I stand to gain nothing from hating myself and absorbing opinions you came up with without my consent and I will not be lighting myself on fire to keep you and your ideology warm :)

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Muses Maidens Mavericks

I'm not really into level up posting right now and I don't think I can say anything on the matter better than @keptandkind anyhow, so I'm pausing self improvement to gush about women.

I love women and I always have and I've sustained a deep admiration for all kinds of women, there is much inspiration to be found in the stories of other women and you should always be looking up to the blueprints and the greats for inspiration.

There are so many actresses, politicians, artists and even women from fiction, mythology and lore that I've grown to admire and I'd love to share my thoughts with others in the hopes that maybe you can gain a little inspiration too!

Today's Muse: Sofia From An Easy Girl

Portrayed by the iconic Zahia Dehar, Sofia was the main character's sultry but utimately unreliable older cousin.

I remember the first time I watched this movie as a teenager because I could not take my eyes off her, not just because of her beauty and sex appeal but because of her manner.

She remained soft and civil in her interactions with people and never allowed them to antagonise her into giving them a negative reaction.

She maintained power over her reactions and I think that in the era of ragebait and crashouts it is so important to understand that starving people of an emotional explosion can do more damage to the ego of a person who has decided to be a pit of negativity than anything else.

There was one scene where she walks away from two men that are being disrespectful without a care in the world, while her cousin gets herself worked up ( understandably) and another where she calls a woman pretty after that same woman made remarks on her plastic surgery.

She never cared, she just did her thing, minded her business and swanned right past the nonsense.She was the definition of unbothered and an icon of feminine stoicisim.

I think the sexiest thing a woman can do is live her life, ignore the noise of sad small people who have nothing pleasant to bring to a social interaction and move on.

Maybe if you struggle with explosive reactions and letting others get to you, you might like to channel Sofia.

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are you still on hypergamyblr and what are your favourite hypergamy blogs?

Hypergamyblr is dead and has been for a good while now.

Hypergamy tumblr originated when dating wealthy people got you labelled either a gold digger if you were middle or working class or elitist if you were wealthy yourself. The anonymity allowed for girls to commiserate on shared lifestyles and goals as well as their methods and habits

Once the sprinkle sprinkle narrative caught on and gold digging became more socially acceptable, it also became more aspirational and tumblr filled up with women who wanted to be hypergamous but weren't and who had nothing but pinterest and a dream, in addition to the girls who were actually living life.

The girls actually living well would sometimes give advice but were eventually met with enormous amounts of vitriol and crossed boundaries, culminating in the creation of the hypergamygossip blog and her pathetic anons harping on every little thing a blogger did or said as if they weren't real women with real feelings.

Literally all the actually hypergamous girls left the platform after that including ligeia, charlotte and kitty, linsi had been dealing with this crap for years and had left long before any of this happened but I'm sure she would have too.

Actually hypergamous girls don't need hypergamy tumblr, hypergamy tumblr needs hypergamous girls who are actually who they say they are to help the ones who still only in the aspiration stage but being on tumblr with all these parasocial losers puts you at risk of doxxing and fumbling the bag and is just generally unnecessary stress.

So no, outside of my moots (who I refuse to throw under the bus and expose to the nonsense) I don't care about hypergamyblr any longer and there are no blogs I can recommend, they left for a reason and so did I. I have better things to do than look at someone's online vision board.

I also find it a bit pathetic and irritating when people get on anon, demean the people who are helping them for free, bully them off the platform and then immediately go begging other blogs to find them a replacement.

You don't need someone to teach you or hold your hand through something people have done for years, if it is for you then you will do the work and take the opportunities and get the things you want. It is actually a very simple process.

Bunni

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the prophet you need to read—

—if you had to mature too early. if you prioritize the right and the rule. if you have a softspot, nonetheless, for the vulnerable. samuel

—if you have strong morals, if you are sharp and steadfast. if your relatives strain you. nathan

—if you self harm. ahiyah

—if you are fatigued and much is asked of you. if you keep sacrificing regardless. if you are an old soul. elijah

—if you spit in heaven's face. if you love others more than yourself. if you have bad hair days. elisha

—if you feel that you have many parts. if you shift endlessly from feeling safe, to feeling hopeful, to feeling fear. if you know hoy and pain more than anything else. isaiah

—if you know righteousness. if your voice precedes you. if your heart is heavy and you know the reason for it. jeremiah

—if your visions haze. if harm is removed from hurt. if you're into that. into shibari. ezekiel

—if you are into smut and self-effacement. if you regret how you present yourself. hosea

—if something is pouring out of you. if this is a new hole. if you remember the repayment you're owed. joel

—if heaven has to feel righteous. amos

—if you are part of the resistance. ovadiah

—if it is right for you to feel angry. if you know your needs. if there's a fetal position you find yourself in. jonah

—if you see how this ends. micah

—if you are reliable. if you are in your room often. if you read and read and read. if you are residing and postured, stylish and formal in rhetoric. huldah

—if you are a poet. if you offer solace to others. if you solace yourself. nahum

—if you are the result of hate. if you rave and repeat yourself. if your visions mean something. havvaukuk

—if the pain feels natal. zephaniah

—if the return feels familiar. if you find homes in many settings. haggai

—if you need to restore something, or, restore yourself. if you know the shape that needs to take. zechariah

—if your voice is not your own. if something feels off. if your memory is strong. malachi

—if you feel the heat. if there is a finality to you. if these visions are not visions anymore. daniyyel

—if history is repeating itself. if your voice is a memoir. ezra nehemiah

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Homemade Pasta - Love and Lemons

Fresh pasta is SO easy to make! This homemade pasta recipe uses just 4 ingredients - flour, eggs, olive oil, and salt - and it comes out per

Decided to not be lazy.

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what did you mean by basics and old reliables ?

An old reliable is something that has been proven to work and is likely to increase your quality of life. For example getting in shape to improve your dating options if you live somewhere that has thinness as the beauty standard, seeking higher education if you want to increase chances of social mobility etc.

They aren't perfect solutions and people will disagree on just how necessary they are but they have worked and they've worked for many people from many walks of life. You go for an old reliable when you don't know what you're doing with your life or where to start and all you know is that you'd like things to be different.

The basics are things at the bottom of the pyramid, you start with these when you don't know where to start but you know what you want to do. If you want to lose weight but know very little about weightloss and nutrition you start with downloading myfitnesspal or using a calorie calculator and adding a vegetable to your meals, if you want to get fit you start with a walk or a youtube workout video.

Starting with the basics allows you to build up a new habit without getting stuck in the information stage and getting overwhelmed or procrastinating.

Again it is no perfect solution, its just a stepping stone. Its easier to jump from a daily walking habit to a treadmill habit to a lifting habit than it is to go from sedentary to 3 hrs of lifting 7 days a week and that's just the truth.

We have a tendency to get stuck in the info hoarding stage and mistaking that for self improvement but reading about resistant starch and saving pins on the perfect high protein no calorie no this no that breakfast bowl won't help you if there is no implementation, you'll benefit way more from taking a simple action than you will from reading about complicated ones.

You don't stick to basics and old reliables forever mind you, you simply start with them, build up a habit and then start implementing all the thing that will be necessary for you to have the life you want.

it beats deluding yourself into thinking that a person who has lived for 21 years and has yet to exhibit any discipline even sporadic or inconsistent discipline can just jump up and start living the way people who have trained for discipline their entire lives and it beats having no idea where to start, picking a mid tier goal when you're still at the starting point and wondering why failure is a given. You aren't going to go from a life of junk food to being a green juice girl in one day and that's actually fine.

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general advice?

start building and maintaining a social circle. this is very basic advice but ever since quarantine it seems like many people do not know how to speak to people, make friendships and create a network and it really is such an important part of living well. additionally it appears to me that many people seem to think that hiding away from the world means you're ''healed'' or ''unbothered'' or are ''protecting your peace'' when really its all social incompetence.

the human is a pack animal and we're not meant for isolation.

💋Bunni

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What are twenty things you wish you knew in your twenties?

thank you for the question love. I'm still in my twenties and I don't know everything so I'll give you what I can, mostly based on what I have learned, what I've read and what I believe.

Education is absolutely paramount especially if you are a woman.

Get your wellness together as early as possible and keep it together.

Finances must be in order ( learn how to save and how to invest, learn the signs of shopping and gambling addiction and how to avoid them, pick jobs that will make your finances better and break bad money habits.)

Learn how to pick a high quality partner

Figure out what you want in a partner and start dating with intention.

Figure out what you want in life and go after it.

Learn how to run a household properly.

Take your sexual health seriously.

Don't judge yourself too harshly but understand when not to sugarcoat.

Engage with your hobbies as much as possible.

Maintain a healthy sense of self.

Make decisions you know will age well.

Audit your habits and get rid of bad ones as quickly as you can.

An influencer trying to sell you a course is a scammer. ( take this one seriously)

Build up a good social circle.

Eat well but take advantage of your youthful metabolism.

Make time for things that feel good without self-judgement ( still learning this).

Don't treat the decisions you make in your twenties like they don't matter because they do.

Prioritize long term happiness over short term fun.

Be hot.

💋Bunni

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I think more women need to start cheekily standing up against people, especially men who try to make them feel uncomfortable, who try to demean and who push against their boundaries and who are just absolute weirdos.

I love twiggy's attitude here because she isn't rude, bitchy or combative but she also isn't letting a weird pseudo-intellectual loser make her feel less than or drag her into his nonsense. She's sweet and soft-spoken about it but she managed to put him in his place and expose him for who is, a small mediocre creep who thinks he is smarter than he is.

I definitely feel like I myself have been far too lenient with people especially men regarding who may speak to me and how and its a habit that won't serve any woman and hasn't served me.

I think many women have a fear of standing up for themselves because they don't want unfortunate labels attached to them but figuring out how to balance being outwardly polite and sweet with just enough bitchiness to cut someone down to size is something I'm cultivating and I think it will serve me very well.

💋Bunni

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a little sweetness for your diet

yogurt with raw honey and rosewater steel cut oatmeal with brown sugar and whole milk fresh seasonal fruit dressed with honey and lime green tea gelatin london fog with pink himalayan salt and coconut milk macerated raspberries with a touch of cream and sugar collagen lemonade 75% dark chocolate and macadamia nuts dates and natural peanut butter home-made whipped cream and plum compote poached pears with red wine and spices