[parentless-suggestions]

to all the victims whose parents got “better,” whose abusers changed over time and stopped being as horrible: it’s okay to still resent them.

[dankmemeuniversity]

[beanbugmama-blog]

To everyone that said putting my one year old in a toddler bed was dangerous.

I know my child thanks ✌🏻

[soycaptainandtheworldoftomorrow]

Teach your kids to respect animals!

Teach your kids to leave animals alone if they walk away!

Teach your kids to put down an animal if they are struggling to escape!

It’s not that hard to teach kids that animals are living things and not toys!

[girlsbestkeptsecret]

Always…

[vladtheunfollower]

if you sulk and act like a sullen loser when someone asserts a boundary you’re not actually respecting their boundaries, basically if you make things unpleasant afterwards you’re creating an environment where people feel they cannot say no to you or assert themselves

[toxicreverie]

This should be taught in every middle school health class

[i-hate-chick-fil-a]

Reblog if you’ve ever been a victim of:

Cat Calling

Rape

Mental abuse

Molestation

Physical abuse

Spiked to have sex

- No one will know which one you chose 🌹

[sulpher]

And everyone is aware that you DID NOT deserve it.

[cwote]

dont put too much pressure on yourself. everything will be okay.

[bob-belcher]

[beanbugmama-blog]

Every mom ever

[lesbiansnoopy]

My “favorite” part of growing up/being poor is when you have some disposable income, even like 10 or 20 bucks, and deciding to splurge on yourself or even doing something unnecessary outside of base survival (Ie: Instead of getting a lot of cheap processed food “splurging” on a night out like bowling or going out to eat) 

and then the moment it’s over or right before you click checkout, you get hit with this deep feeling of guilt and shame as you realize what that money could have gone towards. Or when later, always inevitably, you are in desperate need of money you can recall every “wasted” cent you spent. 

It’s really disgusting that while I feel guilt over buying something as simple as a face mask, someone else can lose millions in the stock without even noticing. 

[lesbiansnoopy]

it really is disgusting that things like bill gates not knowing the price of bread is endearing while me for once in my life placing the quality of life over survival is seen as living outside of my means. That living within your means is just code for just existing as a tool to make others money. 

[skepticalavenger]

Why Did God Create Atheists?

There is a famous story told in Chassidic literature that addresses this very question. The Master teaches the student that God created everything in the world to be appreciated, since everything is here to teach us a lesson. 

One clever student asks “What lesson can we learn from atheists? Why did God create them?”

The Master responds “God created atheists to teach us the most important lesson of them all — the lesson of true compassion. You see, when an atheist performs and act of charity, visits someone who is sick, helps someone in need, and cares for the world, he is not doing so because of some religious teaching. He does not believe that god commanded him to perform this act. In fact, he does not believe in God at all, so his acts are based on an inner sense of morality. And look at the kindness he can bestow upon others simply because he feels it to be right.”

“This means,” the Master continued “that when someone reaches out to you for help, you should never say ‘I pray that God will help you.’ Instead for the moment, you should become an atheist, imagine that there is no God who can help, and say ‘I will help you.’”

ETA source: Tales of Hasidim Vol. 2 by Mar

[scyphozoans]

I started reading this and was worried it would be something attacking atheists, or bashing religion, but this makes me really, really happy.

[naamahdarling]

imagine that there is no God who can help, and say ‘I will help you.’”

Holy shit.

Holy shit.

Yes.  YES.

[rehfan]

This is lovely and precisely the thing I’ve been trying to explain to my family for ages.

[maya-tl]

I am so glad this post graced my dashboard.

[feral-flower-child]

I’m a Roman Catholic and can I just say

Yes please thank you this is an amazing post

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

Bloooppppp‼️

[fandomsandfeminism]

Dont. Hit. Your. Children.

We know, from over 50 years of data and study, that it is incredibly detrimental to use physical force to punish children. Yes, this includes spanking.

Instead:

Model proper emotional response for children. 

Understand where misbehavior comes from

If a child is overwhelmed, remove them from the overwhelming situation.

If a child is hungry or tired, address those needs. 

If they are throwing a tantrum in the department store, take them somewhere quiet and let them cry until they are calm. They’re probably just bored or cramped or overwhelmed and need a minute. 

Address the cause of misbehavior, not how it manifests. 

Make sure things like transitions, when you are leaving or moving on, are clearly communicated. Sudden transitions can be a huge trigger for tantrums. Best to try and mitigate with proper advance notice. 

Explain your reasons to children when you are enforcing rules 

Listen to children when they explain their objections to rules. You don’t have to agree with them all the time, but you should listen.

Understand that you, the adult, can also be overwhelmed, tired, hungry, and frustrated too. Acknowledge, to your kids, out loud, how these things are impacting you and apologize if you snap at them unfairly. Again, this is modeling emotional response. 

Make the rules clear, simple, and consistent. Don’t change what the rules are based on your mood that day, or if you must, explain it before hand. If you normally let them play video games in the car, but you can’t today because your head hurts and your driving to a new place and you need to concentrate so you don’t want the sound to distract you- explain that to your kids. If they counter with “I have head phones. Is that ok?” Then, yeah. It’s ok. 

If you need to have consequences for their actions, then actually follow through. Don’t threaten with consequences that you won’t really do. That makes it a lie, and makes it super ineffective in the future. 

Make consequences fit the behavior. Explain why that is the consequence. 

Some good consequences might include: cleaning up a mess they made, taking a cool down time for a few minutes, not getting to a special treat like a trip to the movie theater with their friends, etc. Remember, we are trying to avoid physical pain as a form of punishment. 

Speak to children respectfully and prompt them to speak respectfully back. 

Choices. Give kids a reasonable, manageable number of choices. Do you want to wear the green shirt or the blue shirt? Do you want Cheerios or waffles? Carrots or green beans? Do you want to give grandma a hug or a high five? Older kids can handle more choices than younger ones.  

General rule of thumb: You aren’t trying to raise an obedient child. You’re trying to raise a thoughtful, respectful adult. And you have to be a role model, not just in what you say, but also in what you do. 

And don’t. hit. your. children. 

[raisinghobbits]

People disagree and make excuses for hitting your kids but I grew up in a household where we were spanked with the belt/bare hands when we were “bad” and all it did was instill anger/fear/resentment towards my parents rather than teach us a lesson. We learned to avoid those actions because they would result in pain, not because we thought we were doing something wrong.

[bintyusuff-deactivated20230417]

I sincerly hope that our generation of parents love their children more openly.

We don’t need another generation of kids with depression and anxiety and self-esteem issues.

We don’t need another generation of kids that are too afraid to talk to their parents.

We don’t need another generation of kids struggling through careers that they hate because their dreams don’t match their parents’.

We know how badly we need to be told and shown that we’re loved. We know how much we want to be told that we are good enough. We know how it feels to have absolutely no refuge in this harsh world.

May our homes be safe havens for our kids, always.

[chibbycookie]

[hunterraie]

Hey there everyone 🦄

[jehovahhthickness]

I just want every black woman to be better, think better, feel better and live better.