A Helping Hand - Living With Depression

My name is Helen. I created A Helping Hand when my Depression began five years ago. I've been better for quite some time now, but I decided to stick around because I think you're pretty amazing and I like you a lot. Also, I know how important it is to be heard. Your voice matters to me. I am not a medical professional and I have had no training at all. It's always best to go and get the right help and treatment. I know how scary it is, but it can really help you get better much quicker. It's not for everyone though, so just do what you have to do to be happy. This is a support group for anyone who should need it. Mental illness is important, and so are you. You can speak your mind here. I'm not here to judge. You don't have to cope alone. You can talk to me anonymously if you want to, or you can ask me to answer you privately. It's your call. On Facebook? You can find me on there too. A Helping Hand on Facebook

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I watched a talk promoting that a person is solely responsible for their mental health and mental disorders are born of selfish selfcentered selfpity. I get it if it makes people feel empowered but I didn't feel empowered at all, its like I am being blamed and pressured. what's worse is that the speaker says he had depression and somewhat preached that depressives are responsible for being depressed so they have to shape up since they made themselves depressed.

I don't believe that's true at all. I believe that whilst we may have control overIt to an extent, we are not always capable of doing anything about it. If we lack the motivation and the will to overcome it, we need help to do so. Don't invest too much into everything you read - don't let it weigh heavy. You are carrying enough already and other people's opinions are not always constructive.

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I can say I got a good front, I function ok and even have a regular job that makes me forget my blues. I manage to keep them to myself or not break down when I tell others about my hardships. But when someone sincerely empathize and becomes gentle with me or gives me compassionate treatment, tears fall and I'm a dripping faucet all day. Its a bit irritating to me when that happens.

I can relate to this so much. We all have a weak spot. I think you're doing amazingly. Give yourself credit for that. It isn't easy getting up and functioning every day. Just the fact that you carry on and persevere is such a big deal.

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Did you know you can write to very poorly children and send them letters and gifts? Well, you can. Here's how to do it ❤️

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Hey, I made a GoFundMe to raise money for an Emotional Support Animal. This will help me progress with my mental health. If you could take the time by going to my blog and consider sharing or donating, you would help me get closer to my goal. If you have any question's don't hesitate to contact me. Thank you.

I'll certainly take a look!Good luck sweetie.

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Don’t give up on yourself! You are incredible and will do amazing things at your own pace

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if you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, or anything else today, here’s a reminder that we love you, and you’re not alone. 

illos by the lovely @thelatestkate​

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I’ve been dealing with depression for a while my world just seems to complicated and I can’t do anything right to fix it I used to have like a spark for life for achieving but it just slowly died in me

I'm so sorry it's taken this much time for me to reply. Tumblr has confused the hell out of me with all these new changes and I didn't know where messages were going to until just now. There is no right and wrong here - please don't assume you're at fault here. Your brain is in a fragile place at the moment and your thoughts are not always truthful ones. You can push through this and your spark again, but it takes time and effort and patience within yourself. We always hold such high expectations of ourselves when it concerns mental illness, but if it was an easy fix none of us would suffer with it al all, would we? The black dog doesn't discriminate - so please stop blaming yourself. Depression can open many doors of discovery. About yourself, about the world. Take a look at new hobbies and interests, try and break your routine. If you find you have no interest in the things you used to, it may because you need to find new things to learn about and enjoy. Welcome this opportunity. Be open. You may just find the missing pieces to your jigsaw puzzle :)

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I need help. My dad touched me in a wrong way and I freaked out and when I told my mom she didn't see it as wrong. But I feel wrong. I feel wrong and hurt and scared. I want my friend but she's 3 hours from here and I don't know who I can turn to talk to. I don't want to go back to that house. My dad wasn't one to do this so it make me feel so much worse. I need someone to talk to and help me please.

I'm so sorry it's taken this much time for me to reply. Tumblr has confused the hell out of me with all these new changes and I didn't know where messages were going to until just now. Go to the police. Go to any authority figure and make a report. If you feel you have been abused in any way - you absolutely need to address the issue and the perpetrator. Your mother can shrug it off all she wants - this is about YOU. This is absolutely not okay and you are well within your right to act upon making sure it never happens again.

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Are suicidal thoughts okay as long as you don't do it? I really want to but I'm too scared and I hate myself for not killing myself sooner

I'm so sorry it's taken this much time for me to reply. Tumblr has confused the hell out of me with all these new changes and I didn't know where messages were going to until just now. It's not a good sign. It means you're in pain and it needs addressing. One thought process may seem harmless, but thoughts expand and develop over time, and that's a dangerous thing. It's important that you try to tackle these problems head on before they control your life any more than they already do.Your life is important.You are important. You do not need validation from anyone. Your thoughts are your thoughts - and how you respond to those thoughts are of great importance to YOU.

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I'm in very hard circumstances. I feel so trapped I robotically went to my room then hit my head many times. I can't say I didn't try to stop. I was after the calming numbness that followed but I feel exhausted and dizzy, made small mistakes and forget things. Crying is tiring. I had to restain from breaking down at work. I realized for me head hitting came from the Loose Screws idea relatives kept calling me because I don't cope so well. I know selfharm isnt the answer but I just want to be ok.

I'm so sorry it's taken this much time for me to reply. Tumblr has confused the hell out of me with all these new changes and I didn't know where messages were going to until just now. Please don't hurt yourself. You're already hurting enough, and whatever relief self harming brings is temporary. It doesn't fix the long term issues.What is bothering you at home? Is that where this stems from?And are you seeking any help at all with your problems?The negative comments from your family are unnecessary and cruel and just because they said it doesn't make it true. You absolutely have the capability to get through this and be a happier person. You really do.

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I got another invalidation from a "wellmeaning friend". Why do I even bother talking to her when she never sympathize or emphasize with me on anything I tell her and always has self justifications, even after apologies? And I always have to think of my words and phrasings so she won't be put off with me. Talking with her makes me feel stressed so why do I still wish for her to at least feel for me?

I'm so sorry it's taken this much time for me to reply. Tumblr has confused the hell out of me with all these new changes and I didn't know where messages were going to until just now. It's such a common human trait to want love/attention/respect from the people that always do the opposite. We strive as a species to connect with those who are most difficult to connect with. When something isn't so easily given, we want it all the more. If a person is unwilling to give support or encouragement, for whatever reason, it is definitely time to move beyond this friendship. The door swings both ways, and if you've tried relentlessly to communicate how you feel to no end - it's time to move on. You'll no doubt be doing yourself a favour. It's hard to break free from such thoughts, but creating some distance between you may have a positive effect.