helping a little who struggles with personal hygene :(
holding their hands in mine as i guide them in the sink, making sure that washing their hands doesn’t seem as scary as their mind tries to make it
standing next to my little when brushing their teeth while also doing mine! it's quiet and that’s okay! my baby is learning that the scary things can be conquered over time
and if they can't bring themselves to shower / bath that day, it's okay! we can always try again tomorrow! there’s no pressure ― progress takes time ♡
carer that knows their baby struggles with feeling so guilty about being small so theyre sooo so sweet and patient... reminding their baby that they want to take care of them and that its okay to cry, that no theyre not a burden or a bother :(
carer who can tell when their baby is trying so hard to push down their headspace... softly bringing them into it with coos and kisses and reminding them of how cute and small they r .... ofufhhrhgg
I wish there were age regression streamers who instead of playing mainstream games they very seriously play things like ABCya,PBS kids, ABCmouse,and cool math games.
-> i have such a soft spot for pet regressors as a cg, but especially sweet little puppies.. i’d love to take care of a puppy 🐾.ᐟ.ᐟ
ᯓ★ teaching a pup new tricks and giving them lots of praise as they learn and do their best! (papa’s always very very proud)
ᯓ★ going for walks to the park and playing fetch
ᯓ★ buying a pup chew toys and other things they can (safely) put in their mouth, since it’s natural for puppies to be a bit bite-y!
ᯓ★ giving a puppy plenty of soft and gentle belly rubs <3
ᯓ★ getting some puppy accessories for a pup! ears/a tail/a collar.. whatever makes them feel like a happy puppy
ᯓ★ making homemade treats just for them, so they always have a sweet little reward made by papa himself :) every pup deserves a yummy treat after all!
ᯓ★ and of course loooots of cuddles while i pet them on their head, telling them how good they are and how much papa loves them. they could happily curl up in papa’s lap any time ❤️❤️
shoutout to every pup out there, papa thinks you’re super awesome!
How to find a Regression Caregiver (both irl and online)
Before we begin: 'looking for caregiver' or 'caregiver application' posts are never appropriate, ever. Your caregiver absolutely cannot be a stranger you met online for the purpose of them being your caregiver. Your caregiver must be knowledgeable about you and your needs, they must be close to you, and you must trust each other. This is one of those things I feel there are no nuances on. A toddler wouldn't advertise themself on the street as needing a parent, right? Any old creep could come and pick you up. Yuck.
You should always find your caregiver/babysitter in people who you are already close with. Never go looking for someone to immediately fill this dynamic. If you wouldn't trust them to be vulnerable in other ways around, don't trust them with your regression. You almost have to guard it.
They need to trust you, too. Your caregiver is not a mindless robot who cares for you as their only task. They likely can't be completely predisposed to you at every second of every day. Even if you have a caregiver, you need to have your own regulation methods for careing for yourself on your own while your caregiver is busy. Also, you need to support them, too-- caregivers are just as deserving of love and care as regressors are.
I have a full-time partner/caregiver as well as a babysitter (who doubles as a sibby). In both cases, this is, start to finish, how i brought up agere, explained it, defined and explained being a caregiver, identified myself as a regressor, and asked them to be my caregiver.
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Recognizing your own needs. Why do you want a caregiver? How do you feel they would help? What do you need in a caregiver, and what are you capable of giving back? In my case, I'm disabled, so I also needed to take into consideration how my disabilities would affect our dynamic, and what kind of specific care I would need in accordance with that.
Find a best friend. Your caregiver needs to be an extremely close, trusted person. The kind of person that you have nothing to hide from and there is no such thing as TMI with. I had been dating my partner for a while before even bringing up age regression, and as for my friend, we had been close for years before them caregiving for me, babysitting me, and later being my sibby.
Introducing the topic. Not a lot of people know what age regression is, and even fewer people immediately understand it. My partner had no idea what agere was, and when I brought it up with him, I thoroughly vetted all of the information I sent him about it to make sure it was all correct. Define what agere is, what it means, and some of the different ways it affects the people who experience it.
Once you know they're a safe person, carefully out yourself. Once you know this person understands agere and isn't judgemental about it, you can try and introduce yourself as a regressor. Explain how agere helps or hinders you, how you experience it, and how you feel about it. Be very careful with this step, and if you sense any pushback or anything that makes you uncomfortable, stop and reel it back in to reconsider. Your age regression is a very vulnerable side of you and you need to be 100% sure at all times. If you find the topic becoming unsafe, end the discussion immediately and find yourself someone else if you feel you still want to. Only continue to the next step if they're receptive and open-minded. Make sure everyone is calm before continuing the discussion.
Ask what they think about it. Take this moment to answer any questions they might have. Especially if they're receptive of it, this is the time when you can really start letting them get to know your agere side. During this stage with my partner, I would regress around him (with his consent and without putting him in a caregiving role yet) to allow him to get to know that side of me. It was a little different as I'm a system and that regression side is really a front-stuck Little host, so I'm in effect a permaregressor who attempts to mask around most people, so this step was especially important to let him get comfortable with me/that alter.
Explain what a caregiver is. Once your regressed headspace is comfortable around this person-- it's also important that little-you approves!!-- you can introduce this term. Define it the same way you did Regression: send them articles or information, define what it means for you in particular, and ask how they would feel about it. At this stage, you might find that your person would be uncomfortable with taking on that level of responsibility-- and that's okay! Normal, even! Reassure them that caregiving is different for every caregiver, just like how regression is different for every regressor. Make sure you're open and communicating that there will be boundaries, and that you'll take this slowly, and that your caregiver would be allowed to set rules and boundaries just as much as you would. Let them know that their comfort is important too.
Define your boundaries. Let's say everything has gone smoothly and your person is receptive to being your caregiver. That's great, but we have a big step next: boundaries. This is hard for the best of us, and it will take some trial and error. Your caregiver can set boundaries too! Make sure you both agree 100% on a compromise before you commit to it. Make sure you're both comfortable with what you're doing. Take it slow, make time to sit and go over boundaries often to make sure nothing has changed, and be as open and communicative as possible.
Continue that last step. Keep communicating, keep workshopping, and once you find a set of boundaries you like, have fun with it! Your caregiver/regressor relationship is a very sweet and wholesome thing, and it should be fun for both of you!
Happy regressing, and remember to always communicate your boundaries, and never let a creepy stranger into your tea party.
~snack ideas for pet regressors/dreamers and animal therians/kins!~
(bear in mind that im not a vegan/vegetarian, nor do I follow any dietary guidelines and these are going off foods I’ve tried. If you have any vegan, kosher, hallal or other dietary variations please add them! These are also not all safe for the real life animal version, please do your research before feeding any pet human food)
~cocoa puffs: mimicks dry dog or cat food.
~rice krispies: these look a little bit like rabbit or other rodent foods to me (the shape is different but I think it works with a little imagination)
~fruity pebbles: these look like fish food to me!
~lucky charms: could be dry cat food (primarily without the marshmallows imo just because it looks more like kitty food to me but thats totally your call!)
~reeses puffs: dry dog or cat food
~kix: also dry dog and cat food
~goldfish crackers: the shape reminds me of tiny kitty treats!
~any type of cookie made with bone or fish shaped cookie cutters: dog/cat treats!
~berries: these can be good for things like foxes, bears, bunnies, and deer! and more!
~lunch meat/charcuterie meats (like salami or ham): treats for a dog/cat, fox snacks, bear snack, really any animal that eats meat!
~veggies: great for bunnies, foxes, deers, or other herbivores!
~alfalfa sprouts & spinach: these would make good snacks for calfs, bunnies, or maybe fawns!
~canned tuna/salmon/crab (or fresh!): kitties love these! or maybe you can use these for aquatic animals that eat other sea animals! like a shark! or even bears!
~ gummy worms for bug eatin critters! or.. real bugs (this may sound scary if you’re from the west-and especially the us, but there are a lot of benefits for the environment from eating bugs, and they can be tasty too!) Here is a site where you can order bug dishes & learn about the benefits of entomophagy!
~chocolate pudding (or especially dirt cups) are great for foxes and animals that dig in the dirt for grubs!
~edible flowers (citrus blossom, clover, daisies, hibiscus, honeysuckle, lavender, lilac, pansies, roses, sunflowers, violets and more! please be sure you are getting flowers that are safe to eat when it comes to species AND things like pesticides!) : these are another good option for bunnies and other herbivore or omnivore critter!
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