i've always wondered, why do you like dan x blair so much? i've only seen a few episodes of gossip girl but everyone i've seen that likes the show seems to really dislike dan and blair as a couple. why about their dynamic appeals to you?
i feel like most people that hate dan and blair are either obsessed with romanticising chuck and blair despite how much he abused her, or they think the last minute retcon of dan being gg makes sense, as if it doesn’t disregard the entire show. but imo, dan/blair has always been the best relationship on the show, and i’ve been rooting for them since late 2009.
dan and blair were everything the other had ever wanted in a relationship, the answer to all the problems they encountered with everyone else. dan was the pure and simple love blair had always wanted, he saw her for who she truly was and loved her anyway (people who claim dan didn't love blair's scheming side are wild, he schemed with her MULTIPLE times, he just knew she was better than playing games and hurting others), believed in her when she didn't believe in herself, matched her intellectually, and saw her as an equal. and blair was dan's soulmate. to borrow from the vows dan wrote for louis about blair himself: "you, blair waldorf. you have taught me how to live, how to enjoy everything the world has to offer. you have brought out this side of me i never thought existed. before you, i did not truly know how to live. i was expected to be a certain kind of person. but the truth is, that person was someone i didn’t actually like that much…" dan and blair LIKED who they were when they were together, and neither of them had truly liked themselves in a long time before that. they brought out the best in each other, and they could be their real selves together. no needs for lies or facades, because they saw who the other really was, and loved them because of that.
they also had the most believable and natural relationship progression on that show. dan and blair went from enemies to friends to lovers and it never felt forced or rushed, it took years of spending time with each other for their relationship to develop naturally. and they ENJOYED spending that time together in the lead up!!! even before they were friends, half of their interactions had them smirking and laughing at each other and trading witty barbs and they looked like they had fun together, even when they refused to admit it. it’s about blair asking dan for seduction tips and quipping “look who finally got a little interesting.” i’m sure it’s a fluke, dan tells her, because they have no idea what the future has in store for them.
and god!!! dan has always been there for blair, since one of the first times they met. the first proper conversation they have is in the fourth episode. they've spoken maybe three times by this point, and it's either been about serena sleeping with nate or blair insulting him and yet!!! he tells her about his mom in an attempt to help blair with her own. they barely know each other and yet he sees a side to her and understands parts of her that some people never do. and he keeps giving her advice over the years!!! i think it's incredible that so much of what he tells her parallels the development of their relationship later on ("keeping your pride and getting nothing, or taking a risk and maybe, maybe, having everything" / "what if these signs are here for a reason? and ignoring them just makes me a coward?")
speaking of parallels with dair, the fact that they had them directly parallel when harry met sally and the writer/socialite relationship from breakfast at tiffany's (blair’s favourite movie.) the writers knew what they were doing and it's one of the reasons i think they were going for a dair endgame at some point.
they just wanted each other to be happy!! so many other characters on this show refused to accept others being happy with anyone other than them (namely chuck), but i think dair were the only two who wanted it for each other aside of like, nate, maybe? sure, blair's originally opposed to dan/serena, but by season four, dan's happiness is her priority ("i just want you to be happy" / "if you're that guy with serena, how could she not love you?") and dan has always wanted that for blair ("i do think you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy" and helping her with chuck and/or louis, depending what she thinks will make her happier.) so many gg relationships are so toxic, but dan & blair were probably the most genuine friendship on the show, especially in this sense. even when they were mad and hurt each other, they never let that resentment build like they were prone to doing with the others.
and that's the thing! they wanted each other to be happy and they MADE each other happy. dan was so good for blair back before they were just friends that people thought she joined a cult. blair made it clear multiple times that everything was chuck was exhausting and miserable for her, and spending time with dan made her light and happy again - and she returned the favour.
he wrote a book about her!!! he wrote a book about her and everyone that read it could see that dan loved her from it. three years earlier blair didn't even KNOW that dan was a writer and then she became the star of dan's book. and he wrote another man’s vows for her, gave her fiance a speech that made blair felt like he peered into her soul. every other boy wanted to give blair the world, but dan was the only one who ever gave her what she really needed: his heart.
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