Why are you here?

Cabe | 30 | Considering becoming a We/Us person (still any third-person), but extremely non-committal | Avatar is by @summerart

[girldog]

GIRLS!!!!!! gather roung. we are looking at this pillbug

[tomb-mold]

the problem is i really do love staying up until one billion o'clock. it just cant be helped

[bilboxfieri]

Started playing our 3DS again and forgot how nice dedicated handhelds are compared to the switch and its ilk. Like, yep, that's the size of device we want to be playing games on in bed or walking around. It just makes so much more sense for us.

[rockergiirl]

i hate how pervasive the r-word has become again

its like the 2000s to early 2010s again where talking to anyone theres a good chance they'll casually say a slur without any thought

[rockergiirl]

and whats even more annoying now is people who'll try to weasel out of being called out on it

'oh its fine because i'm legally mentally disabled so i can say it' NOT HOW RECLAMATION WORKS

[rockergiirl]

AND SAME WITH DEGENERATE

STOP TALKING LIKE A FUCKING NAZI

[venusaurphobia]

In lieu of gifts the bride and groom have requested a great reckoning

[seriousjones]

seriousjones 9:12pm (daft punk if they were bees) we're up all night to get stung! we're up all night to get honey!

seriousjones 10:56pm Jesus Christ, you have all made your point. Bees are not known for "getting stung." Fine. You win. I will be taking some time away from social media for my own peace of mind. It honestly makes me sick to my stomanch that one small mistake can bring out the mob, when all I do is try to spread smiles and connection. Respectfully, I hope you all take a long look and the mirror and think about how your words can affect people.

seriousjones 1:44am (daft punk if they were dogs) we're up all night to be dogs! we're up all night to be puppy

[egberts]

"i ate too many cookies" is truly an ageless problem. an unlearnable lesson.

[calebwittebane]

but actually genuinely why is the ant sad and leaving with a bindle

[calebwittebane]

thats probably it...

[love-ardour-anarchism]

“If you deny any affinity with another person or kind of person, if you declare it to be wholly different from yourself—as men have done to women, and class has done to class, and nation has done to nation—you may hate it, or deify it, but in either case you have denied its spiritual equality, and its human reality. You have made it into a thing, to which the only possible relationship is a power relationship. And thus you have fatally impoverished your own reality.” Ursula K. Le Guin "American SF and The Other" in Science-Fiction Studies 7, 1975.

[bilboxfieri]

Thoughts on the previous reblog:

So much our eating disorder was/is related to our feelings about our gender. And it should be so obvious how stupid that is, but, like, it was so hard for us to recognize.

Like, growing up we were kind of taught that EDs are a thing women have. And we were so uninterested by a sense of masculinity (not that we noted at the time) that it felt like a way to separate ourself was to consciously desire thinness.

To be clear there were other factors that led to it, but that's sort of the point, right? Like, we're not trying to say that developing an ED is a thing only women do. Talk to some random men about your relationship to food and, chances are, at least a couple of them will say something that immediately makes you aware of how untrue that assumption is.

So like, how is it that we don't recognize as easily that fatphobia is universal? (Obviously it's exacerbated by compounding intersectional factors. We should keep that in mind when talking about and working to resolve it. But no one is unaffected by it.) Why does noticing our eating disorder getting worse again make us feel good about gender? That stinks. It's patently stupid. We know this. And yet.

We just want to have a non-harmful attitude towards weight and food and exercise. For ourself and for how we view others and to be better.

[hyperlexichypatia]

IDK I think if cis men are being told that being fat will lower their testosterone and make them Insufficiently Masculine, and cis women are being told that being fat will raise their testosterone and make them Excessively Masculine, and fat trans people are being denied the right to medically transition if they're fat, and thin trans people are warned against HRT because it will make them fat (and this is said about both testosterone and estrogen HRT), and androgynous-presenting people are told that only thin people count as androgynous...

Then maybe...

Maybe...

Maybe the weight loss industry is just using Gender to enforce fatphobia.

[alphacrone]

as a child i assumed that martha’s vineyard was a fancy private vineyard owned by martha stewart and the reason rich people vacationed there was because they were friends with martha

[wifegideonnav]

gonna be honest i don’t know how many more ‘enter the 6 digit code we sent to your phone’s i got left in me

[tramampoline]

hey look up the faroe islands tunnels if oyu wanna see some cool tunnels

thanks everyone *disappears into the fog*

[goatmilksoda]

A question I get asked a lot while working at a public library is "how do you deal with homeless people?"

And the answer is, we don't.

The unhoused people who come here seeking refuge 99% of the time understand that they will be kicked out if they misbehave.

The people you have to watch out for are Jessica, who only came because the kid she didn't want had to visit for a homework assignment and she just *needs* to yell at her child for asking to borrow two books or stay an extra five minutes, or Michael, who came in to look at porn on our computers for whatever fucking reason, or Karen who just wanted to come by to throw a fit that the particular book she wanted was checked out and harrass our staff about our collection being too limited.

99% of the time, the people we need to ban are middle to upper-middle class white people while the homeless and mentally ill/disabled people mind their own damn business and are honestly some of the best patrons we have.

[goatmilksoda]

I bring this up because today we had a man come in. He stopped at the desk, pulled up a chair and said "I'm newly homeless and was living in my car. I'm disabled. It was impounded. It's raining. I don't have a phone and I don't know where to go tonight."

And we did what we could to help. He was incredibly kind and patient despite his obvious anxiety and stress, more than most able bodied, housed patrons are to us under much less dire conditions. I liked knowing that we were the first place he came.

We have so many people like this who come in everyday. Many are quiet and keep to themselves, but sometimes they talk to us.

They tell us about how they're taking a few courses on a scholarship they applied for from our library's computer at the local community college to get their diploma. Or ask about a manga or dvd or book we might have to help them pass the time.

One woman, who comes in daily with her tattered walker always says hello to me and likes to work on the new jigsaw puzzle with me when we set one out.

So like, treat unhoused people like people. Treat disabled people like people. I don't want my library to feel like the only safe space in the world, but I'm glad it can be one of them.

I'm so sick of hearing about how "the homeless are ruining everything" when they are some of the kindest, most respectful people here. Sometimes they mutter, might not have had a place to shower, and might need a little extra space for their backpacks but that's FINE. It Doesn't Matter Actually. None of that is a problem or any of my business to care about (unless they request help/services), and I also don't think it's any of yours.

[pusheenthenerdcat]

libraries provide vital and lifesaving services and i will die on the hill you have to let people who are mentally ill and disabled and homeless and politically disagreeable to you still access those rescourses. its simply too important to society

[isuggestusingyourlocallibrary]

I suggest using your local library!

[venusaurphobia]

Rest assured the blood money is going to a great cause

[teaboot]

I was debating pre- and post- smartphone existentialism with an older gentleman today and he stopped part way through and said “Why are you a security guard? Why aren’t you teaching this at some college somewhere?” And I didn’t know what to say so I went with “Well I used to make art but nobody pays an artist”

[teaboot]

I want to invoke thought and wonder and introspection and encourage the passions of every soul I meet forever and ever and dig until I find the glorious potential for creation and experience and joy in every single one but unfortunately I must pay rent and so I stand, a meat shield, an NPC with unlockable dialogue

[oojamaflip-whatchamacallit]

#capitalism brain tells you that anyone interesting must fight to the top of their interest#and precludes the possibility of everyone everyone everyone already being interesting