So I saw someone else do it and I thought it was a good idea. I'm gonna make a gender blog. To talk about my gender and probably also my other genders. This might be a good idea to keep everything straight
ADHD/Autism culture is never changing your pfp because the change makes you deeply uncomfortable but also always WANTING to change your pfp bc it staying the same also makes you deeply uncomfortable so you can never be happy
plural questioning culture is pretty much constantly having some sort of dialogue between two or more people in your head but not knowing if they're different people or if all of the voices just belong to you
disassociation culture is forgetting things you said just five minutes ago because you're not really present and panicking and the panic combining with the disassociation to make something entirely new and awful /vent
Dissociation culture is taking a lot of recharging breaks in the bathroom at social gatherings in order to be able to get through an entire conversation
It has been almost been a year since I started questioning my gender and I think it is time to look back on what all has happened.
Also, a good thing to look at first, are my pronouns. That's what it all started with.
It went from she/her to she/they -> she/they/he? -> she/they/he/hir/zir -> she/he
It started when I realized that I didn't mind they/them pronouns. And I started looking into genders. I first came by girlflux. But that didn't feel right. Then I found genderfae/genderdoe. But I also started to like he/him pronouns and felt more masculine. So that also didn't feel right. My then-partner told me about genderfaer. And that fit for a while. I started tracking my gender, so I could get some clarity. And I found out I was more and more masculine. Also liked the pronouns ze/zir and ze/hir for a while, but then that stopped too. They/them also fell away, cuz it felt too distant.
Then it changed to genderfluid and I got the genderfluid flag. Cuz I started to embrace my masculine side. It already was summer by then. I started questioning my name too since April or something. The first name, Finn, still seems to be the good name. Then it was a while silent with the questioning. I felt comfortable. But a few weeks later the questioning started again. I didn't feel like I really felt female. And the term demiboy popped up in my mind. I read the description and it fit so well. Then I still was questioning it, but that was more because I still was trying to accept being demiboy. It also had always felt like I would end up being fully trans, but I also knew that demiboy was the final stop. After I realised that, it became easier to accept myself. And now I have had that label for a few months.
I'm still hoarding xenogenders, that list keeps growing, but as far as binary genders I'm pretty put. I like demiboy and it fits :)
hi hello and welcome to my post of tips for transmascs looking to pass as a dude. click that "keep reading" button if you're interested :)
first of all- has anybody told you today that you're handsome? because if not, i am here to tell you that you are!! you look very swag my friend. now, on to those tips i was talking about.
if you wear deodorant, buy men's deodorant. it's in like every store ever, no one bats an eye if you buy it even in a crowded CVS. try old spice, but the more mild scents. for the love of god do not buy axe anything. if you want to smell like an old man, then go for it. but some stuff from axe is really strong and just- i wouldnât even recommend it if you were cis.
are you a glasses wearer? i am! what helped me pass immensely was a) not wearing my glasses and getting contacts (or just go blind! /hj it's not fun, but i did it and passed. it's also why i got new glasses so i could ACTUALLY SEE. 4/10 would not recommend.) or b) getting new glasses. round/circular glasses will bring out the roundness of your face, so steer clear of those. get boxy, square ones.
swimming? buy a rash guard. a swim shirt. whatever you call it, it'll help you bind and swim. if you're binding and swimming BE CAREFUL! swim in binders that are approved to go in the water (gc2b binders, some sports bras, the like). wear swim trunks with bikini bottoms underneath for comfort reasons if you want. would highly recommend this. also WASH YOUR BINDER.
avoid skinny jeans like the PLAGUE if you can. as much as i used to like them, they only emphasized my thighs and waist and all that mess. try for "slim fit" jeans if you don't want the, as i heard someone call it, "saggy ass" look.
your socks and shoes do not matter for the most part. dress shoes tip: LOAFERS. ALWAYS loafers. anyway, if you have tiny feet like me and want to make them look larger, vans do a good job of making my feet look wider and longer. my mother says they make me look like i have boats on my feet, but other than that, i have had no complaints.
go through the men's sections of target and walmart. cheap stuff that usually fits. don't be afraid to go into the youth or kids sections if you're small like me, there's usually a bunch of cool superhero shirts there.
usually i tell people to avoid makeup, but if you want to use it to add volume (is that the right word? idk) to your eyebrows, go nuts i guess. also- hollow out where your eye sockets meet your nose, hollow out the cheekbones and the jawline. get the sides of your nose too if you want.
long hair? not a prob! tie it up and flip it up so the ends of your hair flop over your forehead. now plop a hat on over it and it looks like bangs.
manspread. do not do the damb splits, that ain't it. i mean TAKE UP SPACE. avoid crossing your legs, except at the ankle. fold your arms up higher on your chest. men take up so much space when they do ANYTHING, so try to emulate that. also put your ankle on your knee, make a box with your legs if you get me.
want a deeper voice? sing. even if you're garbage at it. i sang so much over the quarantine that my vocal range got both higher and lower, and now i'm able to talk lower and sing lower. i'm also able to sing higher and more in my chest voice! so sing, baby. singggg.
if you're feeling dysphoric, my best tip is to listen to country songs about typically masculine things. it makes me feel like part of the dudes, maybe it'll work for you, too.
a rather bitter pill to swallow: men, especially younger men/boys, have no fashion sense. this means DARK COLORS, those weird long basketball shorts that you see at dick's sporting goods, and t-shirts with strange athletic logos on them. yes they are ugly! however they really do help you pass seeing as cis boys = not often fashionable. you will fit in with the guys and tbh sometimes that's the best feeling. (however: what youâre comfortable wearing or doing is the most important part. i for one am completely fine wearing ugly guys clothes. if youâre not, no worries! you donât have to do this to pass.)
not a tip for passing or anything but DO NOT PUT YOUR BINDER IN THE DRYER. whoever told you to do that is WRONG. let it air dry, it'll last longer and feel tighter when you put it on if it's gotten looser over time.
if you're showering and dysphoric about it, look straight ahead or at the ceiling instead of down at yourself. or turn the lights off, but make sure not to slip and conk your head on something in the dark!!
SIT UP STRAIGHT YOU NERD. SIT UP. PULL THOSE SHOULDERS UP. SQUARE EM. not only will you look taller (because you ARE taller stop SLOUCHING) but squaring your shoulders makes them look wider. also makes you look more confident.
LAST POINT: the trans experience is more than deep voices, beards, and manspreading. if you enjoy being and looking and feeling feminine, go for it! you are no less transmasc because you enjoy those things. i think you rock. be you pal :)
thanks for reading! i'll update this every so often when i think of new things :) - luke
there's just nothing more frustrating than when you can picture what you want to draw so vividly and you can't reproduce it or even get the feeling of it right. like what's the point am I just here to be tortured by images then
So I think I'm a median system. And most of the people have a name.
This is gonna be a post with their names and who they are.
Most of the descriptions are visions I get by their names. I found out about this, by feeling like the names I liked only fit certain parts of myself and when I researched systems, a median system came up.
Median: A system where those within it are not as distinct from one another, often opposed to multiple.
There are no shifts, but there is a change in who has the most influence. It's like we're on a ship. Finn or Bianca is always steering, but others can be helping leading the way or even steering.
The people:
Finn: the main person in the system, the person I've been growing into lately.
Bianca: the old me. The person I've grown out of but still lingers. Very shy, masking a lot. Doesn't show anything, doesn't have a strong opinion about anything. Very serious, not the joking kind.
Vyne: the fae version of me. More extravagant, luxurious, outgoing, bold.
Taytay: the child in me. Very happy, outgoing, blunt, naĂŻve, childish. Someone I've suppressed a long time and is finally able to show themselves again.
Tay: a blushing skater boy that came with Taytay.
Zephyr: some angelic energy floating around, trying to influence me to do good stuff and be nice.
Ciel: the guy that keeps track of everything. Businessman, very serious, organized, keeps everything organized and understandable. Also works as a translator of situations.
Otis: something blue-ish/watery (we're not sure).
Ray: a yellow beam of sunshine. Utter joy, happiness, freedom.
Finnian: Finn's older self/parent of all-ish person.
Loki: just Loki, the god of mischief, running around in my head. He's really caring and sweet. Also a big a-hole sometimes. We all love him.
Vivienne/Vivi/Vee: the nymph, loves dancing and nature. Happy, free, always moving around. Laughter. Moves on the melody of the wind. Frolicking around a field.
Sparrow: the pirate. Came to existence because of a certain pirate named Captain Jack Sparrow. Goofy, protecting, bit on the background. Gives the drunk/bold vibes.
Vobe: a void who takes over when no one wants to. Combination of a void and a vibe. We don't know much about voi, except voids pronouns.
There is also a king. But we don't know their name yet.
This post will be kept up to date with new changes and findings.
3 flags i made for personal use with @mogai-monarchs (or someone who submitted to them at least, im not sure who id to tag since they were anon ^^;;) regisgender flag redesigns
on the left is queen-kingfluid or regisfluid, the middle and right side are two versions of dial-regis (regis + my term âdialianâ)
free to use but itd be cool if u credited me // requests are open !!
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stormborns
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dededos
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