Princess of the Pillows

☆22☆High Femme☆They/Them☆Single☆NSFW 18+ Minors DNI ☆Princess on and off the pillow☆

[bimbunfemme]

Now that I have discovered I am into pet play I want to be in bunny headspace so I don't have to talk. I just follow my human around because I'm nosey and I get pets and treats for being good. I don't disturb them while they are working or anything and I get rewarded at the end of the day with a nice breeding that I can feel in my stomach when they are finished with me.

[bimbunfemme]

The most beautiful stand user in America

[lacyblackpaiir]

everybody wants a femme with an attitude problem until my response to everything is "so you hate me."

[bimbunfemme]

Hey mods in sapphic discord servers! Can we like stop people from talking when it comes to pillow princess/stone top hate, transphobia, biphobia, lesbiphobia? Like omg be a fucking mod and ban people or educate them, I find it very fucked up for you to be an owner or a mod in a sapphic server and you're not going to stand up for your own community, its very weak minded and boot licker of someone.

[bimbunfemme]

Do butches like reaction pic rizz? Cause the only rizz I have is sending this pic if I see a pic of a butch I like.

[bimbunfemme]

Where are the single butch yearners? Cause I only see femmes yearning and I think we need to stand up as femmes and let them yearn.

[bimbunfemme]

HEY YOU! YOU GOT DISCORD?

1. 20+ Lesbian (not sapphic/queer) server: https://discord.gg/4mceAXVG8V

2. 20+ Sapphic server: https://discord.gg/YvZHw3xjz5

3. 20+ Sapphic/Butchfemme server: https://discord.gg/VTFK82FUvS

All require verification and have nsfw channels, but two require verification for the nsfw portion. See you there 😉!

[brightorangelover]

we always talk about femmes dressing up for butches but what about butches who specifically dress up for femmes. getting all dapper-ed up, putting up cologne for them, specifically choosing to wear a tie for them to pull later, or a putting up a shirt that previously was complimented by them, etc etc. does those butches exist?

[yourhandsomemountainbutch]

[femmehorror]

Every “I can do it myself” femme needs their “I know you can, but I want to help you” butch.

[femmehorror]

I hope every overwhelmed butch finds their helpful femme.

[stemmehistorian]

The erasure of Blackness from 'stemme' & 'stud' and why it bothers me

This is more of a vent post/social analysis then 'what is stemme 101' but to summarise stemme stands for stud-femme lesbian. A stud in basic terms is a Black lesbian with masc presentations and roles. A stemme is a Black lesbian with fem and masc presentations and roles. Stemme is a Black lesbian term but according to tiktok it's 'just being masc and fem' and 'has nothing to do with race'. And that pisses me off.

Black gender nonconformity is barely represented. There isn't a 'how to be GNC whilst Black 101' and it gets really isolating tryna figure yourself out with no one to help you. Tomboy and androgynous representation is predominantly white. Being tomboy or andro is associated with having short straight hair or a buzzcut on a white body. Black women in hip-hop and R&B helped to shape Black masculinity and femininity in pop culture. Aaliyah, Queen Latifah, Left Eye, Da Brat etc. helped shape the Black tomboy aesthetics we see today. A large chuck of queer masculinity borrows off of Black, especially Black American, masculine aesthetics. The durags, the chains, the caps, the trainers, the AAVE etc. it all goes back to hip-hop culture.

Black women aren't allowed to be masculine. We're masculinised but we can't be autonomously masculine (people don't get this distinction when this topic comes up but that's another post babes x). Despite Black women, especially darkskin Black women being called mannish and strong we don't actually get to reap the benefits of being masc. We don't get to be the positive masc traits like being smart, brave etc it's only the negatives. And this is 2x harder if you're trans. It gets really confusing as a dark-skinned Black girl excluded from femininity growing up whilst also being so feminine and girly apparently you're on the end of misogynoir. Stem(me) basically summed up my relation to gender pretty well. There was never a word for this experience growing up.

So when I go to look up stemme and it's predominantly white lesbians in snapbacks I don't get a good feeling. And when I see shit about how stem 'had nothing to do with race' I'm fuming. Even more so when people say STUD had nothing to do with Black lesbians. Huh?? Black women's representation is already lacking in most areas even for cishet Black women. But Black GNC identity is SO rare. We can't even have a niche of a niche. That's how little Black culture matters in society's eyes. 'What do we use then?' Chapstick. Tomboy. Tomboy femme. Butch. Masc. The dozens of representations that have always represented your experiences. You're gonna be fine I promise you.

The main thing that set off this vent was seeing some tiktok user make a video crediting herself for defining stem as being masc and fem and ignoring all the Black lesbians that called her out and the audacity for her to say it 'used to mean that' and that 'terms evolve' .

Taking Black lesbian terms and changing their meaning is not evolution. It is theft. Erasing Black tomboys and erasing the literal stud from stud-femme, stemme, is just continuing the erasure of Black LGBTQIA identities in a society that already doesn't want us around. Stemme has always been stud-femme and I'm gonna always honour that, even if I stop using the label for myself, even if no one else will.

[bimbunfemme]

Calling yourself a pervert and being proud of it is kinda weird imo, it sounds like you need to be under the jail.

[bimbunfemme]

I am a pillow princess and I have a friend who is also a pillow princess and she made me realize that there is little to no media that includes stone dynamics. She vented about it, but seeing her go through this crisis made me a bit sad that she felt like she had to question her lesbian existence because of the lack of representation or what the internet says about these pretty princess mascs and that stone dynamics are heteronormative. Plus I feel the experience is worse as two poc pillow princesses. Like I know that stone dynamics/ dom top butches exist, but it seems very far and few now a days to find more representation for people like us or find our community or find love within our community while everyone else is shitting on these dynamics because everyone thinks sex is reciprocal when it shouldn't have to be.

[bimbunfemme]

Butches, Femmes, Studs and Stems

Please join a server I have for us due to the lack of active servers I have found for our community. It is 20+ and you must be a lesbian that identifies with one of these labels. We do have nsfw channels as well, but please remember it is a community server first and foremost.

Check out the Butchfemme Lesbian Dimension community on Discord - hang out with 39 other members and enjoy free voice and text chat.

[bimbunfemme]

Hii guys 🥰

I know I have promoted multiple serves on here but this time I prommy it will be good.

I have made a new lesbian NSFW server, though you don't have to be into sex or want to see nsfw content.

Here are more of the channels we have:

- POC safe space channels

- Butchstudfemme safe space schabnels

- Fat butchfemme appreciation

- W33d and alcohol user channels

- Kink channels

- Games and more

I hope to see you there!

Check out the Lesbian Love Hotel community on Discord - hang out with 16 other members and enjoy free voice and text chat.

[bimbunfemme]

Hii guys 🥰

I know I have promoted multiple serves on here but this time I prommy it will be good.

I have made a new lesbian NSFW server, though you don't have to be into sex or want to see nsfw content.

Here are more of the channels we have:

- POC safe space channels

- Butchstudfemme safe space channels

- Fat butchfemme appreciation

- W33d and alcohol user channels

- Kink channels

- Games and more

I hope to see you there!

Check out the Lesbian Love Hotel community on Discord - hang out with 16 other members and enjoy free voice and text chat.

[bimbunfemme]

I understand that I have big boobs, but if I just met you, then why are you asking to see me nude? Can I be treated like a person instead of being objectified to a pair of titties.