Since it’s 2018 and y’all still want to scream ‘bi means two!’ constantly, here’s a word you should learn the definition of: etymological fallacy.
Bisexuality=attraction to more than one gender.
Here’s a post with more on that, with multiple links to actual bi orgs, many that have been around for decades.
No, that doesn’t ‘make pan and ply meaningless’ any more than there being over 50 words like ‘pretty’ and ‘beautiful’ that mean similar but not exactly the same things make those words ‘meaningless’.
Bisexuality has been inclusive of nonbinary folk since at least the 90s. Read the 1990 Bisexual Manifesto, which contains the line “In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders.”
Here’s a video by a bi trans person on how bisexuality is inclusive of nonbinary genders. Here’s a history on how claiming bi means ‘two genders’ has been used to harass bi folk, especially bi trans folk.
Personal note: As a nonbinary bi person, I felt included in the bi community long before the rest of society even considered any trans folk at all were more than just ‘monsters.’ Also, the trans flag was literally inspired by the bi flag.
My best friend is bi and nonbinary. So is my life partner. So is my cousin. So are countless people I love. When you tell us we’re ‘wrong’ about our sexuality, you aren’t ‘helping’ nonbinary folk, and you aren’t ‘helping’ pan and ply folk, as you don’t need to tear down a sexuality to uplift another, and doing so is completely counter productive. Solidarity > bullshit infighting.
Respect what label(s) a person uses for themself, if any. I’m bisexual and nonbinary, and telling me I’m not over and over won’t change that.
Fence Sitter as a bi insult is targeted towards the assumption that bi’s need to “pick a side”/ monosexism. Many bisexuals reclaim this insult used against our community, so here is my flag design with bi colours for Fence Sitters reclaimed!
I’m honestly at a point in my years of sitting with the sapphic community where I’m no longer entertained by discourse that is about bi women being too male centered, bi women not being able to commit to women, and us not being able to use sapphic or whatever wlwtok slop that is being pushed currently. All of it comes off as extremely insecure and idiotic to me.
I’ve said this multiple times but none of the things that biphobic sapphics have been saying has changed. Books and studies report that sapphics have been saying the same bimisogynistic shit for DECADES. FUCKING DECADES. You’d think the rhetoric wouldve changed or be tired, but no.
my focus is now fully on bi women and building our community and I’m not derailing it to wait for pick me bisexuals to finally grow some sense and keep up or so biphobic lesbians can syphon my energy for fuckshit. bi women and lesbians who are willing to fail and grow in their journey for unlearning biphobia are the future!
hi I'm genuinely curious as a teenage bisexual what are all the different like bi flags/names I've seen some but like I'm curious to know more. You don't have to go super into detail if you don't want id just like to know the different terms. Also sorry if I'm not phrasing any of this right I'm always nervous sending asks and I'm just genuinely so curious to learn more about bisexuality as a young bisexual
Hello hello! Thank you so much for this ask!
First things first, you do not need to apologize! There is nothing to be sorry about! You phrased this beautifully- and get this: I know you are young and have wonderful intentions to learn more, so in the chance that you do phrase anything wrong (which you didn’t! you did great!) I would merely gently correct you and we would move on 🌈🐬✨ you never need to be afraid to ask me questions!
second of all, you said I don’t need to go into detail, well hehe, get rektd :3 /lh
An important thing to know is that anybody- literally anybody- can make pride flags. There’s no knowledge you need first, you can just post them. This is both a blessing and a curse bc we’ve seen many beautiful bi flags and terms by bisexual ppl, but also, anyone with, heh, brainless behaviour or malicious intent can make one and post it, such as superstraight and semibisexual. You do not need to look at either of these unless you’d like to, they’re just as off putting as they sound.
So if you are looking for new bisexual flags and/or bisexual terms, you might come across a post of someone coining a harmful or brainless notion, like the two I listed above. So if you see a neat new pride flag, check the description the OP wrote of it, and other posts made by the OP!
Onto the flag definitions!
The original bisexual flag was made by Michael Page in 1998! It’s older than you or I! A common misconception is that the pink means “attraction to girls”, the blue means “attraction to boys”, and the purple means both. But, that’s ppl looking at the colour pink and blue and assuming genders to it (IMO green is a woman’s colour), because the pink shade for same genders attraction, blue for opposite genders attraction, and purple for both! So essentially attraction regardless of gender! (that is a bisexual phrase, not solely pansexual, don’t let anyone tell you differently!) This post by the Trevor Project explained it perfectly
In 2020, @dykenotdeer made the Bi Dyke flag!
It is for bisexual women/bisexual sapphics who reclaim the slur dyke! There is a misconception that only lesbians can reclaim dyke, so this post explains it well that all sapphics can reclaim it!
Side note: Sapphic is an umbrella term for all women who love women (and nonbinary folks if it encompasses them), it stands for lesbians, bisexuals women, pansexual women, trixics, etc. (Trixic means nonbinary loving women.) So women-loving-women is shortened to wlw, and nonbinary-loving-women to nblw. I say “bisexual women/bisexual sapphics” a lot bc sapphic is a way to encompass nonbinary folks who are womanhood aligned, and it is quicker than saying “bisexual women loving women and bisexual nonbinary folks loving women” OOF that’s a wordy sentence lol.
Which perfectly brings us to our next one…
Selenic is a term for bi women and bi sapphics!
Made by @ LUV4SAPPHICS on Twitter!
Sidenote: I have made a bi men/bi nblm version of this called khonsic! I was inspired by the beautiful stripe pattern and the name being derived from a moon deity!
Camellian is selenics who choose to only date sapphics! So while there is still attraction to men + attraction to all genders, camellian means acknowledging attraction to men, but rejecting them. Still very much bisexual because sexual/romantic orientation are not something we can switch off like a light switch or “become lesbian not bi” when we choose to not date men, but camellian is solely sapphic within who you choose to date!
Made by my beloved mutual @bi-sapphics! There’s 3 versions of this flag, one with no flowers in the centre, one with one flower in the centre, and one with two flowers in the centre that I showed above! That version’s my favourite
The bi4bi flag is for bisexuals who date/prefer to date fellow bisexuals! Any bi4bi couples, whether they’re male/female, female/female, male/male, nonbinary/female, nonbinary/male, and nonbinary/nonbinary- whatever the gender the ppl in the relationship are! If they are both bisexuals, they are a bi4bi couple!
Made by @ flirtyshybisotd on Twitter!
Bi Femme and Bi Butch flags are made by @disasterbisexual-moved ! The red-pink-purple is the bi femme one and the blue-yellow-navy is the bi butch one!
Akin to bi women/bi sapphics reclaiming dyke, there are many misconceptions that femme and butch are lesbian only terms. This post by my beloved mutual @bisexual-coala (who is a bisexual butch!) explains it perfectly!
Bihet is an insult to bi women and bi sapphics, also to bi men and bi achilleans as well even if it’s, to my knowledge, not as often. It’s ridiculing bisexuals, saying that we’re “not queer enough”. @femmebis made a bihet flag reclaiming this insult, and @asepride-archive made a bihet flag reclaiming it as well!
The top one is made by @femmebis and the bottom one is made by @asepride-archive !
I would also like to toot my own horn and show you the Bisexual Feminist flag that I made!
(for bisexual feminists of any gender! We should all be feminists and support women’s rights!)
The Bisexual Women flag I made!
(as I said earlier, I see green as a woman colour :)
Pastel Bisexual flag I made!
The meaning remains the same as the OG bi flag, just that I wanted to recolour it :)
I have made many bi flags so feel free to check them out if you want! And I have more in my drafts <3 Thank you again for the ask! 💖💖 And don’t hesitate to reach out if you have more questions!
Have a bisexually day! 🩷💜💙
The bi divider is made by @animatedglittergraphics-n-more
The notion that bisexuals can not be butches hinges on this idea brought about by radfems that bisexual women are “traitors” for being attracted to men and as a result reduced lesbianism down to a conscious political act instead of a form of self expression thus pushing bisexuals out of their own community. Bisexuals have attended butch/femme events, gone to lesbian bars, and have been in dyke marches.
It also perpetuates the idea that bisexual women and lesbians are complete worlds apart when that couldn’t be further from the truth, in fact the word “lesbian” was used simply to describe queer attraction to women exclusively or not until radfems began shaming anyone in the community for being adjacent to masculinity. This included bisexuals and butches
Furthermore, “they date men so they cant be butch” is at its core disgust over seeing a gender non conforming person date a man, assuming that their role with a man is contradictory to their butch nature because of assumptions with how they “should” act with men (soft, demure, feminine, submissive). Yet again it is because of the idea that to be adjacent to men is a failing instead of ones own identity.
Radfems/TERFs don’t care that butch and femme were universal queer terms, their goals were to uphold a white supremacist transphobic view of gender and sexuality while seperating the community to pit them against each other.
A lot of prominent liberal sapphic artists have been drinking (and then platforming) the radfem/TIRF/SWERF/separatist/political lesbianism/choice feminism juice lately but perhaps none more visibly than King Princess.
I disagree intensely with the current “politically correct” disdainful narrative being spun about “privileged” “tone deaf” bi women in 2025. Bi women need to talk about their lived experiences and struggles and everyone else needs to listen, especially in today’s climate, as they are consistently statistically the most vulnerable group for intimate partner violence, identity suppression, poor mental health, and poverty despite being the largest portion of the LGBTQ+ community (but of course one of the least represented in media). This is due to monosexism: a patriarchal system of oppression that targets the minority of folks that have non-mononosexual or fluid sexualities, ie the bi+ umbrella.
Bi folks deserve to call out the harm caused by rejection they face from monosexuals (straight people and gay/lesbians). Bi folks are kicked out of their homes when outed as queer and then face constant probation in any gay found family. Whether or not we have a support system depends on our ability to follow rules set by monosexuals, usually to “pick a side and deal with the consequences”, which is blatant conversion rhetoric against our authentic sexual identities. Bi folks are correctively abused by monosexual partners due to their bisexuality—not binary gayness, not binary straightness, but because they simultaneously embody both and are perceived as a deceptive, disloyal, promiscuous threat to all monosexuals. This doesn’t go away when bi women date cis men in a “heteronormative” (or rather, hetero-presenting) relationship—the risk is usually worsened.
This violence should horrify us, and it doesn’t occur in a vacuum. “That’s fair, you have to live with that [casual biphobia], who cares?” affirms malicious stereotypes as not only socially acceptable, but in recent times fully championed (especially by sapphics online with their full chests) as some form of “feminism”, “discourse”, “nuance”, and “critique”—terms purposefully misused to avoid accountability for their biphobia. (Other misused jargon includes: “compulsory heterosexuality” as a lesbian-only experience, “male gaze” applied to real-life women, that all non-lesbians inevitably “center men”.)
Bi women are victims, and their survival stories will resonate with a lot of folks. Good luck attempting to wish that away just because bi women’s fluid sexualities make you uncomfortable, and you want to censor their voices. Just because you’re a victim of oppression doesn’t mean other people can’t be. Just because other people have privilege, doesn’t mean you never do. Just because you deserve a platform, doesn’t mean you are absolved from the responsibility to quietly listen to other marginalized groups’ unique experiences without centering yourself. Sometimes—it’s really, really not just about you. It’s about us, and us as a collective.
Getting into bed with radfems isn’t going to save “real queer-cultured sapphics” (ie lesbians and exclusive WLW)—and respectability politics is certainly never going to save the trans folks that are so useful for bimisoginystic whataboutism in 2025. Before you express an opinion about “protecting lesbian spaces from those who center men”, and precede it with “It’s not biphobic to say …”, please seek out scholarly resources and educate yourselves on well-documented mistakes exclusionary queer communities have made in the past. Conservative gatekeeping is a recession indicator and comes for the most sexually deviant first—trans folks, and then bi folks: those visibly challenging gender binaries, evading classification and policing. (Look no further than the Stonewall website.) Biphobia is lesbophobia is transphobia is misogyny is racism. The only way to resist patriarchy and achieve true LGBTQ+ liberation is holistically. And that requires empathy for the Other.
But it’s hard to expect intersectionality of white/westerners, who grew up with colonial narratives in which oppression olympics is religion, a person’s identity is fair grounds to be an object of consumption you can leave a valid bad review on, and individualistic culture is destroying coalition, mutual aid and sociopolitical movement.
Signed, a South Asian bisexual WLW
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