good bi gone bad

a record of people being biphobic on tumblr [she/her, soft butch bisexual trans woman, adult]

[goodbigonebad]

A catalog of people being biphobic (and by extension, often misogynistic and transphobic/transmisogynistic), mainly on Tumblr.

Currently also a showcase of bisexual history, activism and feminism, to balance out the negative.

Bisexual people are more disadvantaged than any other sexual orientation demographic. (Citations contained within the prior article.) If you want to be an ally, you have to understand and recognize this, and acknowledge that biphobia is a real phenomenon with traumatizing and even deadly consequences. Please see my bisexual statistics tag for further citations.

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Note: Bisexual is an orientation label that already covers all forms of non-monosexual attraction, since inception. Alternative labels to bisexual, such as pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual in separatist contexts are rarely used in good faith these days. In the early 2000s, ahistorical posts were made online by trans chasers and have been and continue to be used to inflict real world harm and encourage oppression of (other) bisexuals, as well as promoting alienation of trans/non-binary/intersex people in romantic/sexual contexts.

Prior, these labels (and similar) were understood to be synonymous, alternative labels to bisexual. There is not a sexual orientation that excludes trans (or non-binary), or even intersex people without bigotry attached. (See explanation.)

On this blog, as all non-monosexual orientations fall under the bisexual spectrum, all non-monosexuals will be referred to as bisexual for the purpose of coherency, as it has been researched and discovered that there is no material difference in attraction conceptualization between non-monosexuals of varying labels.

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If you feel the need to act bitransmisogynistic or bimisogynistic towards the owner of this blog, regardless of whether or not you're also a trans woman/transfem, you will be blocked. This is not a discourse blog, this is a mirror to monosexists on this website. For safety purposes, direct hostility based in bi(transmisogyny)/bimisogyny/monosexism on any of these posts will earn you a swift block, regardless of whether you're cis or trans.

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I'm an inclusive, intersectional transfeminist and trans men/mascs - as well as agender/multigender/all other trans/non-binary people - are included in my transfeminism. The goal of feminism should be liberation and equality for all genders, no matter how someone identifies, and excluding one marginalized group or another is counterproductive to abolishing a monosexist cisheteropatriarchy. My primary focus is on bisexual (trans)feminism and liberation and rights for all bisexuals, especially the marginalized demographics (people of color, all trans/non-binary/GNC persons, women, sex workers, people with disabilities, low-income/unhoused people, etc.) which make up large percentages of the bi community.

"Radical feminism" is a defeatist, apocalyptic cult ideology in all its forms with historical roots and ongoing issues with white supremacy/racism, classism, misogyny, and gender/bioessentialism as well as inherent biphobia/bimisogyny/monosexism, transphobia/transmisogyny, intersexism, butchphobia, anti-drag sentiment, and hatred of gender nonconformity. I don't believe any part of it is redeemable whether or not you include some trans people in yours. No true change will ever come through it because it's an anti-empowerment movement.

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OP uses she/her pronouns; is an adult, post-op soft butch bisexual trans woman (stealth in real life). You can refer to me by my username (goodbigonebad).

[goodbigonebad]

Is there a "white bisexual problem"? Are all bisexual women privileged, cis, white, and androcentric?

Or would you rather not acknowledge that there are more bisexual trans women/fems and bisexual women/fems of color than lesbian/straight trans women and lesbian women of color? A significant portion of our community is non-white and non-cis.

Is there a "white bisexual problem", or do you say this as an excuse to not acknowledge the violence faced by bisexuals when compared to monosexuals and to diminish our struggles as just trivial complaining from a privileged group who may as well be straight?

Does it ruin your narrative of ultimate victimhood when you're confronted by the fact that even wealthy, cis, white bisexual women in het-partnered ("straight-passing") relationships face more violent victimization than lesbians and straight women? That social privilege makes them even greater targets for bimisogynistic violence?

"Straight-passing privilege" isn't a privilege at all, and being out as "bisexual" instead of using a monosexual label like straight or lesbian - increases our likelihood of facing violence. Do you care that bisexual women/fems of color (whether cis or trans) face the worst levels of violence and social disparity among sexual orientation minorities? Probably not, because you don't care about bisexual women at all.

You despise bisexual women so much that you don't believe biphobia/bimisogyny and anti-bisexual discrimination exists and actively contributes to violence against us. That bimisogyny directly leads to us being sexually assaulted and raped. That bisexual women are uniquely vulnerable to repeat violent victimization.

All bisexual victims regardless of gender receive lower social support and have worse mental health outcomes than monosexual gay/lesbian people.

Some will say "believe victims", until the victim is bisexual - then all the research studies and crime statistics that show bisexuals, regardless of gender, face disproportionate levels of violence, IPV, and societal disparity when compared to monosexuals - must be skewed, inaccurate, or fake in some way.

Some will say "believe women", unless she's a bisexual woman. Then she's a liar who wants attention. Or a slut who deserved it. Or she should have just dated another woman - even though we're also battered by other women, but forced to be silent because lesbian-coupled domestic violence isn't taken seriously. We should have known better. We should have just left. We shouldn't have had the gall to be born with bisexual attraction, or to call ourselves "bi". Is it that hard for us to just choose a side?

Is there any real "bisexual problem" or do you just have a problem with bisexuals?

[emeldiir]

The audacity of some of you to treat bisexuals like we have no purpose in the queer community, that we are not a part of it, that we did not build it, that we cannot understand queer experiences. I am so sick and tired of you all and the way you behave.

Let me remind you all, Bisexuals created Pride, Bisexuals fought at stonewall for your rights today, Bisexuals have pioneered trans rights in america, Bisexuals have continually fought for lesbian and gay rights when WE were excluded from the battles, organizations, groups, community, tragedies, and celebrations. Bisexuals created butchfemme, Bisexuals of color created Ballroom. Bisexuals fought the Nazis during WWll. We served our queer brothers during the american AIDs crisis, we donated blood alongside lesbians, WE DIED in the AIDs crisis, and yet we were scapegoated, harrassed, pushed out of homo and hetero societies.

The audacity of you to claim that you care for the community without doing an ounce of fucking research into your ancestors, elders, and history. The audacity of you to claim that we do not face oppression when your rhetoric harms us daily. I am tired. I am disgusted by you white centered, self righteous and ignorant assholes. Shame on you for the lack of decency, dignity, and respect for your bisexual siblings.

[goodbigonebad]

I may be on here less because I enrolled to get my MA in Gender Studies and that's taking up a lot of my time because I have to write a whole entire thesis, but I'll come on and reblog things and maybe make an occasional informational post if I have the time.

Anyway, watch out average online discourser, I'm about to academically outrank you. (Sarcasm, naturally. Most online discourse debate weirdos are both confidently wrong and anti-intellectual, so they won't care.)

Also, personal life update for anyone who cares but I'm putting it under a cut because it may be triggering because of harassment/stalking mentions:

I'm also still reeling from my household being harassed and stalked recently over being mildly critical of the viewpoints of a certain now-deceased conservative propaganda puppet. I posted about that a bit ago but privated the post for personal reasons. I wanted to post selfies on Bluesky of the shaved sides I got in my hair as they're very butch-affirming to me, but I've recently had to delete most of my social media and scour the internet to remove all pictures of myself because weirdos were using them to AI generate violent deepfake pornography. Yet another reason I will always be staunchly anti-generative AI. Fuck gen AI and the fascists who use it.

The same happened to my girlfriend and our roommate, to the point where we're all back in therapy because of the stress this has caused. My roommate even ended up in the psych ward over the transphobic, misogynistic vitriol being aimed at him by alt-right assholes on top of the AI porn being distributed online. I consider myself lucky I wasn't transvestigated because this is one of the very few places I even talk about the fact that I'm a trans woman and I purposefully don't have my name attached to it to avoid connections so I can remain stealth. But we're all just rattled and I want to focus on this thesis and try to clear my mind. Being on a blog that's dedicated to calling out people being violently biphobic/bimisogynistic is definitely not helping me feel any better.

[variationonathem3]

Leave. Bi. Women. Alone.

Stop discoursing about them.

Stop coming up with new ways to demonize them.

Leave them the fuck alone

[bisexual-history]

Anything That Moves (Summer, 1997)

[bi-trans]

Bi-Trans Solidarity Flag.

This flag is meant to represent solidarity between the bisexual and transgender communities.

[ID: an 11 stripe flag with five pink stripes of varying shades, one large white stripe in the middle, and five blue stripes of varying shades. In the middle of the flag are two symbols in black; a butterfly in the middle of a crescent moon. The second image is just the flag without the symbols. -end ID.]

[bisexual-coala]

Hello. What would you recommend for a baby queer to watch or read to understand bisexual and queer culture and history?

Hi! I have a few recommendation for bisexual non fiction/history books!

Anything That Moves is an absolute gem of bisexual history and I totally suggest you read it. You can find it here for free (and that carrd has a bunch of other bisexual historical magazines too which I recommend you check out too).

Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queries and Visions

Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

Bisexual Lives (1998)

I also have these! You can find most of them on here for free.

And for watching! I cannot recommend youtuber verilybitchie enough. Her videos are GREAT! They made alot of videos on bisexual history and they are very educational. I suggest you start with these!

[goodbigonebad]

There is a blatant tendency to resort to lazy "feminism" that scapegoats the crimes of cisheteropatriarchy onto groups of vulnerable people who are the most severely impacted by cisheteropatriarchy and I think it should stop.

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There is constant misogyny directed towards all bi women/fems, whether cis or trans - the most vulnerable group of sexual minority women who face the highest amounts of violent victimization among sexual orientations. Bi women are blamed for everything, including cishet men's violence against other sexual minority women, and even our own violent victimization, despite being raped/sexually assaulted, battered, and murdered at far higher rates than either straight or lesbian women as a statistical fact - and that's not even counting for under-reporting.

I go on about this all day and night on this blog and I'm genuinely tired of seeing people, especially lesbian separatist "feminists", decide that bi women are the only women who deserve all the misogynistic cruelty and hatred we get simply because we have the potential to be attracted to men.

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There is constant misogyny directed towards trans men, the only group of men directly impacted by misogyny (and not incidentally or accidentally, or as collateral damage, but purposefully and to extremes). I find it disgustingly anti-feminist, especially considering the societal misogyny already enacted against trans men/man-adjacent transmascs is compounded due to transphobia and the idea that they're out of line and need to be physically/sexually assaulted back into being subservient, fertile, attractive cis women or kill themselves so that they're no longer a threat to cisheteropatriarchal society.

Trans men/transmascs are statistically far more likely to face sexual and physical violence compared to cis women due to not being seen as men, but rather as women rebelling against the imposed violent gender system to the highest extremes and therefore a direct threat to cishet men because of it. The misogyny and reproductive violence against trans men/transmascs is then doubled in an effort to punish and eradicate what is perceived as an uprising, and I think participating in that as a transfeminist is heinous. I refuse to engage with it.

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There is constant misogyny directed towards trans women/transfems, especially trans women/transfems of color and trans women/transfems who don't want to/can't perform white Eurocentric femininity in order to be seen as women. "Protect the dolls" only applies until a trans woman/transfem is not a white, monosexual hyperfemme, then it seems we're undeserving of that protection due to not being the acceptable "doll" archetype. This website treats butch/GNC and non-binary/multigender transfems like traitors whose existence outside the binary is an affront trans womanhood and even the very concept of womanhood in general.

Transmisogyny is directed most of all at trans women/transfems who are non-white, particularly those in South America, and it's blatantly obvious that racism permeates most discussions of trans women on this website because of the overwhelmingly white userbase here. Non-white trans women/transfems are pushed to the side/talked over, driven out for disagreeing with common "discourse", and by far the most likely to be harassed by white supremacist gender criticals - and sadly even sometimes by white trans women/transfems who haven't fully unlearned online alt-right radicalization.

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This userbase will direct all of their own (usually internalized) misogyny at any marginalized group already suffering from the worst misogynistic treatment and blame that group for their problems if it means not having to confront cishet men for anything. It's honestly atrocious and speaks to the privilege of a lot of Tumblr users who believe that theoretical discourse and bullying people online because of it is more important than the material reality where even groups they personally do not like and are bigoted against may still be suffering daily more than they are. They would rather appeal to and comply with the cisheteropatriarchy to save their skin than have a shred of empathy for its greatest victims.

People are looking for a group that is somehow "acceptable" to be violently misogynistic towards and they tend to land on those with absolutely zero power to fight back against this kind of harassment and bullying in any meaningful way. To scapegoat these groups is far less difficult than risking your neck actually fighting back against cisheteropatriarchy or calling out cishet men - especially to their faces in real life but even just online. And truly - if you don't include bi women and all trans people (as well as intersex people), especially those of color in your feminism, I think that you're a lousy excuse for a feminist who only wants others to suffer from misogyny in a worse way than you do so you can feel better about your own circumstances without having to lift a finger to change them.

This should not be an unpopular opinion on here, but it seems to be, and maybe people on this website need to give some thought to why they want to be misogynistic so badly and why weaponizing faux feminism as a tool of misogyny might actually be a bad thing.

[loveridden1999]

“bi women bringing their cis-” bi women can do whatever they want shut up

[genderoutlaws]

Group marching in Toronto Dyke March | 1996

[a-lil-bit-oooo-jessica]

another website that has bisexual history resources

The Bisexual+ Archive Atlas

Bisexual+ people have long contributed to LGBTQ+ activism, culture, and community life, but our histories are frequently overlooked or misre

happy to say i've heard of most of these but even happier to see a bunch that are completely new to me!!!!

Happy Bi Visibility Month! :D

[queerlection]

[woman-loving]

“Bisexual women battered by other women report that they are called sexually degrading names and continually threatened about their bisexuality. In the same way that homophobia is used by batterers in heterosexual relationships, biphobia is used against bisexual and even lesbian women. Lesbian victims report that their batterers accuse them of not being “real lesbians” and of wanting to have sex with men. The bisexual victim may constantly be accused of having affairs with both men and women. Verbal abuse may include comments such as “I’m the only one who will have you” and “If people knew about you, they would take my side.” For some bisexual women these tactics are particularly devastating because internalized shame may include shame about relationships with both men and women. In addition, bisexual women may experience the traditional tactics of batterers: eating and sleep disruption, property destruction, harm to pets, and physical violence.”

— “Battered Bisexual Women,” by Sarah Sulis, in Same-Sex Domestic Violence: Strategies for Change, ed. Beth Leventhal and Sandra E Lundy, 1999

[moonlightsapphic]

A lot of prominent liberal sapphic artists have been drinking (and then platforming) the radfem/TIRF/SWERF/separatist/political lesbianism/choice feminism juice lately but perhaps none more visibly than King Princess.

I disagree intensely with the current “politically correct” disdainful narrative being spun about “privileged” “tone deaf” bi women in 2025. Bi women need to talk about their lived experiences and struggles and everyone else needs to listen, especially in today’s climate, as they are consistently statistically the most vulnerable group for intimate partner violence, identity suppression, poor mental health, and poverty despite being the largest portion of the LGBTQ+ community (but of course one of the least represented in media). This is due to monosexism: a patriarchal system of oppression that targets the minority of folks that have non-mononosexual or fluid sexualities, ie the bi+ umbrella.

Bi folks deserve to call out the harm caused by rejection they face from monosexuals (straight people and gay/lesbians). Bi folks are kicked out of their homes when outed as queer and then face constant probation in any gay found family. Whether or not we have a support system depends on our ability to follow rules set by monosexuals, usually to “pick a side and deal with the consequences”, which is blatant conversion rhetoric against our authentic sexual identities. Bi folks are correctively abused by monosexual partners due to their bisexuality—not binary gayness, not binary straightness, but because they simultaneously embody both and are perceived as a deceptive, disloyal, promiscuous threat to all monosexuals. This doesn’t go away when bi women date cis men in a “heteronormative” (or rather, hetero-presenting) relationship—the risk is usually worsened.

This violence should horrify us, and it doesn’t occur in a vacuum. “That’s fair, you have to live with that [casual biphobia], who cares?” affirms malicious stereotypes as not only socially acceptable, but in recent times fully championed (especially by sapphics online with their full chests) as some form of “feminism”, “discourse”, “nuance”, and “critique”—terms purposefully misused to avoid accountability for their biphobia. (Other misused jargon includes: “compulsory heterosexuality” as a lesbian-only experience, “male gaze” applied to real-life women, that all non-lesbians inevitably “center men”.)

Bi women are victims, and their survival stories will resonate with a lot of folks. Good luck attempting to wish that away just because bi women’s fluid sexualities make you uncomfortable, and you want to censor their voices. Just because you’re a victim of oppression doesn’t mean other people can’t be. Just because other people have privilege, doesn’t mean you never do. Just because you deserve a platform, doesn’t mean you are absolved from the responsibility to quietly listen to other marginalized groups’ unique experiences without centering yourself. Sometimes—it’s really, really not just about you. It’s about us, and us as a collective.

Getting into bed with radfems isn’t going to save “real queer-cultured sapphics” (ie lesbians and exclusive WLW)—and respectability politics is certainly never going to save the trans folks that are so useful for bimisoginystic whataboutism in 2025. Before you express an opinion about “protecting lesbian spaces from those who center men”, and precede it with “It’s not biphobic to say …”, please seek out scholarly resources and educate yourselves on well-documented mistakes exclusionary queer communities have made in the past. Conservative gatekeeping is a recession indicator and comes for the most sexually deviant first—trans folks, and then bi folks: those visibly challenging gender binaries, evading classification and policing. (Look no further than the Stonewall website.) Biphobia is lesbophobia is transphobia is misogyny is racism. The only way to resist patriarchy and achieve true LGBTQ+ liberation is holistically. And that requires empathy for the Other.

But it’s hard to expect intersectionality of white/westerners, who grew up with colonial narratives in which oppression olympics is religion, a person’s identity is fair grounds to be an object of consumption you can leave a valid bad review on, and individualistic culture is destroying coalition, mutual aid and sociopolitical movement.

Signed, a South Asian bisexual WLW

[slutauthority]

“Bi-Femme: On Being a Traitor and/or a Revolutionary.” by Leah Lilith Albrecht-Samarasinha

Anything That Moves, Fall 1996. Issue 12, pp. 37-39

(google drive link to scan of print.) courtesy of @anythingthatmovesarchive​

(TW for: NSFW, d slur, f slur, q slur, LGBTphobia, nazi mention, racism, misogyny)

“My mama is a very smart woman. When I was 12 years old and I told her I was bisexual, all she said was, “Fine. As long as they don’t look like truck drivers.” I don’t mean that she was smart because she didn’t want me to date butch girls. She was smart because I think she knew that I was going to do it anyway. I was going to grow up to be a femme. “

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