No Longer a Tomboy, Not Yet a Tomman

Thus the world grows rich, grows wild, and you too, grow rich, grow sweetly wild, as you too were born to be

[asras-wife]

I know some people get nervous about interacting directly so I just want y'all to know I appreciate you.

[clothing-for-butches]

My art for butch appreciation day! A few things I appreciate about being butch 🧡 @dykedotjpeg

[bironmaidens]

Bi culture is good taste in pop music

[positivityforlesbians]

Do you know of any blog like this but for febfems?

I used to know one or two but I haven’t seen them for a while (also I don’t browse Tumblr as often as I did) so now I don’t remember their url except for @les-bi-positive ,though I don’t know if it is still active, you’d have to check. Anyway I just did a quick search and I found @febfems and @anotherfebfemblog ! Xx

[bironmaidens]

I don't post as often anymore but hi anon 👋

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

I really wanna hang out with and get to know like….older lesbians and bi women for the community and solidarity of it all but it’s like. What do I do. Put up an ad? “Are you gay and over 50? I’d like to imprint on you while we participate in a shared hobby. Please respond by email if you think this is normal.”

[sapphos-darlings]

A friendly reminder to women of every age:

Sex doesn't make you an adult. It's not a rite of passage and it doesn't change you fundamentally.

Sex isn't needed to prove that you love or appreciate someone.

Sex isn't something inevitable. No one has the right to demand sex from you, not your date, not your hookup when you've changed your mind, not your spouse of thirty years, no one.

Everyone has a sex drive of their own kind. It can be active. It can be very low. It can be a flatline. Whatever it is, it deserves to be respected and accepted.

Sex is intimate, personal and makes us vey vulnerable. Never force it. Be safe, smart and respectful of yourself and others!

[sapphos-darlings]

🌻 Bisexual women don't half-love women

🌻 Bisexual women don't have half of a sexuality

🌻 Bisexual women don't have half of an identity

🌻 Bisexual women don't get half discriminated against

🌻 Bisexual women have whole, full sexualities, they love with full, real hearts and they deserve full recognition in the culture and communities of woman-loving women.

[sapphos-darlings]

Non-sexual intimacy is the majority of intimacy in a relationship!

💜 Kissing her; good morning, on her cheek when you leave for work, on her knuckles when you're holding hands, on her neck and down her spine when you're lazing in bed together, on her lips for long long minutes with your arms around her and her hands in your hair...

💜 Holding hands

💜 Sleeping next to each other

💜 Telling secrets and sharing things you've never trusted anyone else with

💜 Crying in front of her. Seeing her cry. Comforting each other.

💜 Planning your future together. Making commitments and expressing the desire to be committed.

💜 Bathing together. Letting her wash your hair and your back, doing the same for her.

💜 Caressing each other. Your hand on her neck, her chest, her belly, her knee, her thighs.

💜 Holding her by her waist and leaning against her back.

💜 Playing with her hair

💜 Wearing each other's clothes; her borrowing you her jacket when it's cold, seeing her wear nothing but your t-shirt.

💜 Telling her you love her. Saying 'I love you too' back.

[enoughtohold]

when we first got married i had to psych myself up every time to say “my wife” to a new person.

it was awkward because with “girlfriend” a lot of people would just assume i meant “friend,” and of course “fiancée” is gender-neutral when spoken,

so we’d always had plausible deniability.

but the meaning of “wife” is pretty unavoidable.

still, i made myself do it on principle, and slowly but surely it became natural.

now i love saying “my wife,” to everyone all the time.

i love saying it to the old woman distributing the strawberries at the farm share,

asking if she knows where i can still get rhubarb because every summer i make my wife a pie.

i love saying it to the gay employee helping me at crate and barrel,

telling him i’m buying these glasses because my wife and i both had them growing up, and seeing his eyes light up.

i love saying it to friends of friends and to new acquaintances and to potential coworkers and to the women at the laundromat.

i love being aggressively out, and i love having such an easy way to be aggressively out.

i love being the first woman with a wife someone has ever met, making our existence part of their reality.

i love being visible for other lgbt people who might feel a little less alone knowing i’m there, which helps me push past the fear when it comes.

most of all, i love not hiding. i love saying “my wife” and i love my wife.

[readableposts]

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[lgbstims]

febfem stimboard for anon

🧡💗💜 -  🧡💗💜 -  🧡💗💜

[lgbstims]

violet febfem witch stimboard for anon

I found the double moons febfem symbol on pinterest, unfortunately I don’t know who designed it but it seemed witchy to me

🌙  ♀️  🌙  -   ♀️  🌙  ♀️  -  🌙  ♀️  🌙 

[tomcat-sophie-deactivated202302]

Home workout time!!

a thirst trap for y’all in these trying quarantine times.

[faeriepools]

Do not touch your body with bad intentions. Rub your belly when it is full. Stroke your soft skin. Hug yourself, even if it’s silly, because it feels nice. Pleasure yourself. Do not touch your body with bad intentions. Do not pinch at the fat on your stomach. Do not scratch at your skin. Do not hate the shell you’re encased in.

[clothing-for-butches]

Denim on Skin by pretentiouskid on instagram

[brainscrewz]

i feel wlw solidarity in this chili’s tonight

[sunflorally]

your relationship doesn’t have to be toxic to be a bad one. it can be unfulfilling, exhausting, loveless. and someone doesn’t have to be terrible to you for you to leave them. if you aren’t primarily happy in your relationship, you have a valid reason to not be in it. don’t beat yourself up because your situation “could be worse.” if it isn’t what you want, you don’t have to stay in it.

[sapphos-darlings]

Ladies! Let's start a thread! What is your earliest memory of feeling or thinking something gay?

I'll go first: On first grade, we were having lunch and this cute girl on my class was leaning over the table chatting excitedly about something, and I wondered what would happen if I kissed her.

[bironmaidens]

I was 14 and I was sitting in the grass with a friend I'd made in summer camp and as we were talking I noticed she had a ton of freckles on her face and her arms and suddenly she was the prettiest girl I'd ever seen

And being 14 I promptly filed that thought away for a later date