Virgin and hoe aren't "constructs" they're pretty easy to understand. Virgin=someone who has never had sex and hoe=someone who has had sex with too many dudes. Especially virgin, that has a pretty specific definition smh. And you telling me you'd be fine if you asked your girl her number and it was like 100? I don't think so. shit would be like a hotdog in a hallway. I come to you for advice and you just make fun. Sad.
I didn’t make fun of you, anon. I said “free your mind”. In other words “hey, don’t give in to outdated ways of thinking, let your mind move beyond that and you’ll be happier”.
Yes, the literal definition of “virgin” is someone who has never had sex. But the idea of virginity as a virtue, the idea that losing ones virginity somehow fundamentally changes you, those are very much social constructs. I didn’t magically become a different person the first time I put my penis in someone. Nobody does. It’s a myth. Hence, a social construct.
And as for “hoe”…who decides how many is too many? Again, social construct. For my grandparents, if your number was higher than 1, you were scandalous. For my parents, any more than a couple. So if the goalposts are constantly moving anyway, why not just refuse to play?
Also: your idea that a woman who fucks 100 different dicks will have a fundamentally “looser” vagina than a woman who fucks the same dick 100 times is classic fuckboy logic. Don’t give in to fuckboy logic. You should want to be better than that.
As for your question of me being ok if I asked a girl her number and it was really high? Look, there is only one correct and valid answer to “how many people have you slept with?”, and that answer is “None of your goddamn business.” It is nobody’s business how many people your partner has slept with in the past.
“But how will I know if they have an STD?”, I hear you asking. Well then, ask them if they’ve practiced safe sex in the past. That’s a valid question because it potentially affects your health. But that’s not your goal when you ask them for their number. Not really. You say it is, but it isn’t. Nah, you want to know how much you’re allowed to judge them. You want ammunition for future arguments. You want to know if you need to feel superior or intimidated. That’s why you ask for the number. The STD question is just how your justify it to yourself.
I have no idea how many people @belovedsangi has slept with. Literally not a clue. I’ve never asked. Could be 5, could be 50, could be 500. I don’t know and I don’t care. All I know is that she’s free of disease and she’s faithful to me. The number of people she’s been with is not my fucking business. Whatever she has been through or done in her past is what makes her the woman I love today, so I have no room to judge any of it. End of story.
Look, anon, I understand what you’re asking me. When I was a young man I had these same thoughts. I asked these same questions. And I learned, over the course of my life, that the answers never served a positive purpose. So I adjusted my way of thinking and I moved on and you know what? I’m a much happier man for having done so. I hope you are able to do the same. I promise you’ll be glad you did.
-LMS
I’d also like to add that the thought that women who have fucked lots of dude also have gaping vaginas is a fallacy. Women who have given birth (and for you fuck boys out there, ain’t no dick as wide as an infant’s skull) have reported that afterwards, they are actually tighter than they were before. To the point that sex can be uncomfortable for a while. Vaginas are EXTREMELY elastic. Sure, having multiple children and/or constantly fucking extremely wide objects (read: soda bottles) will loosen things slightly. But rest assured that your teeny weeny is nothing but a mild stretch (like yoga) to a vagina.
And how the fuck does the thought of a woman who’s fucked multiple dudes is trashy but a woman who’s fucked one dude hundreds of times is okay make any goddamned sense? Or that same is opposite for a guy? Multiple partners, oh he’s a stud! One partner or none, what the fuck, you a pussy dude? What the actual fucking fuck!? The only reason you think this way, gray face, is because society told you this was the one and true way to do so and you’re too nearsighted to question what’s been force fed to you. Sad.
And congratulations on trying to completely erase the validity of some people’s sexualities based on your own deeply flawed viewpoints. Guess what?? Aces and the like didn’t just magically disappear because you didn’t even think to include them in your neanderthalensis view of sexuality and morality.
I don’t have nearly the same patience as my love, LMS, does for myopic toadstools like you. And child, for the record, *that* was what making fun of you sounds like.
Reeeeeead It!!!
I’ve a vague idea of my SO’s ballpark, coz of talking about things and stuff, but yeah…who gives a fuck?
Also, virginity is a social construct. How do you define sex? To this pathetic fuckboi, probably a penis in a vagina. Well what about lesbians? What if a lesbian never is with a man? Is she a virgin forever? Even if she and her girlfriend have fingered, and dildoed, and vibed thousands of times? No. Sex does not require a penis. The penis is just not that fucking important. So, even if we are talking about a straight women, when does ahe "lose" her virginity? The first time a guy fingers her? The first time she orgasms with a partner? The first time she gives oral? Receives it? Oh, your brain went right back to your magical peen and its virginity removing, vagina breaking power. Lol. No honey, your dick isn't special. Women can have sex, and have bigger things than yoir cock in there easily. No wee wee required. Sorry bro.
