How to Untrain your Girlfriend Back to Diapers - A Realistic Guide
She secretly told you she wants to be treated like a baby, and wear diapers. Too late! No takebacks. Looks like we have to train you to be a helpless, accident-prone baby who's dependent on Daddy now. This is what you wanted, isn't it?
So many "unpotty training guides" online are pure fantasy. I want to offer a different perspective that focuses on realism, from my experience.
- The goal is less control: Can adults really, really ever lose all of their bladder control, after they've been potty trained? Does it even matter? Let's skip the debate over whether you can actually, fully, 100% untrain anyone. We're just trying to get your girlfriend to get worse at getting to the potty on time, have a harder time holding it, leak more in the day, wet the bed at night. Just like when she was a little girl. And that, my friends, is 100% possible for any girl.
As adults, we usually are trained to have rock solid bladder control. But as hard-earned as that control is, once it starts slipping, it generally keeps going in that direction. You just need to slowly, slowly erode her control, until wearing her protection seems like a more and more sensible option.
- The Tipping Point: Here's the secret of diapering someone. You don't need to get them to fully, completely be helplessly wetting themselves all the time. You just need her to start having enough accidents, enough leaks, enough rushes to the potty, that pull-ups and diapers start to make more sense.
Once she wears pull-ups, she'll just start subconsciously relying on them a teeny, tiny bit more. Why? Conditioning. If she wets them, even a few times, she'll realize that she's a little more safe, it was no big deal, it helped her not have to rush to the potty. The scales are slowly, slowly tipping. Will she rush to the potty as fast next time? Not if she knows, subconsciously, that she's protected. That means more accidents, more wet pull-ups, more leaks, and bam: more reasons to put her back in diapers.
- The Spiral: It goes like this: your girlfriend starts wetting the bed occasionally. So, you put her in pull-ups, to keep the bed dry. Then, almost like magic, over the next few months, her bedwetting becomes more and more frequent, until she's wet practically every night. Her pull-ups are soaked whenever she wakes up, and she's not getting out of them any time soon.
What happened? The Spiral. The pull-ups helped her subconsciously relax at night, not having to worry whether she would wet her bed or not. They also keep her from getting up to use the bathroom at night, since she's cozy and secure from accidents anyway. So, she subconsciously starts letting go, and her bedwetting gets more frequent. Soon, you have a total baby on your hands!
This is the First Law of Diapering: the longer you're put in diapers by someone, the more likely you are to regress to needing them. Just the dynamics of diapers themselves make it likely you start to rely on them. It can take months, or years, or longer... but it happens!
This is especially true for tape-on diapers. Now, she can't take them off as easily. If she's in them at night, she's going to use them, whether she wets in her sleep or while awake, so she's always waking up wet. In the daytime, because they hold multiple accidents, she slowly becomes less and less aware of how many accidents she's having. Because she's always at least a little leaky and wet down there, she subconsciously relaxes, and she feels like she has to pee more often. When she's in public, she'll be a little embarrassed and won't want to draw attention to them, so she's less likely to want to take them off in the public restrooms and use the toilet. It's easier if she just uses her diapers and hope nobody notices that she's peeing. What's more, by putting her back in diapers, the unspoken understanding is that she's not expected to make it to the potty anymore. That would do a number on any babygirl's control...
- Excuses to diaper her: Once her bladder control is in question, there can be a lot of opportunities to put her in diapers. Long car rides, shows, vacations (with infrequent access to bathrooms), etc. Get creative! Maybe it gets harder and harder for her to make it on a trip without using the bathroom. So, you suggest she be diapered for a particularly long car ride. Sure, it's embarrassing for her, but she makes it through the trip, and she doesn't have to worry about stopping anymore. Isn't that great? Now, it's just a few more times before it becomes normalized. A few more trips like that, and she'll start asking for diapers herself. She can't go on any trip in the car without at least some protection, of course. As her bladder conditions itself to get more active in the car, she'll feel anxious if she's *not* diapered on car rides. Mission accomplished! She's getting closer and closer to conditioning herself to wear diapers.
- Bedwetters are just different: Babygirls who wet the bed, or used to wet the bed when they were younger, are much easier to regress. That's the the Second Law of Diapering: bedwetters usually regress in their potty training faster. I don't know why! It's just true. Something about your night-time control being worse has some effect on your daytime control. Maybe it's all the memories of soaked sheets and embarrassing mornings. Whatever it is, it's a fact.
Once she wets the bed for the first time, you're suddenly a *lot* closer. Now, it's sensible to put the bedwetter back in pull-ups, right? Of course. The beginning of the spiral.
- Diapers are a relief: At some point, your girlfriend is going to be having enough accidents that the pull-ups start to get... questionable. When was the last time she kept one dry, anyway? Maybe she had an embarrassing leak while out in public, and they're just not cutting it.
This is where diapers seem more and more attractive. They promise to hold all her accidents. She's less likely to be stressed that she'll leak. She is going to need your help changing them, but at least she doesn't have to be responsible anymore. What a relief!
You can usually tell she's at this point when you detect a change in mood in her, after she's diapered after a long day of leaks. She's just more relaxed now, when she's protected. She's more confident, bubbly, talkative, and oh so cute. Other than an embarrassing diaper change or two on her bed, what's not to love about her new, more babyish life?
Now, the rest is just sensible. Obviously, she's to be diapered around the house and in public from now on, with maybe a few exceptions for pull-ups around family, or while exercising, or with certain clothing choices. She's diapered every night, too. It's a Christmas miracle! The rest takes care of itself.
I hope this guide leads to more leaks, more embarrassing mornings, more questionable control, more "having the talk" about putting her in diapers again, and more helpless, dependent little babygirls.
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