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Do you meet up with other SGFs? x

No but I would LOVE to!!! If anyone is in the UK & would also like to meet up, DM me ❤️

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I forgive myself, you deserved better.

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Maximize your pretty before getting surgery or life changing procedures.

Get facials and facial massages. Do your skin care. Stay hydrated. Get lymphatic body massages. Keep your brows done. Exfoliate your lips. Try different hair styles. Commit to a workout routine for 9-months. Depuff your face. Get Invisalign. Wear your damn retainer. Get 7-9 hours of sleep. Eat your collagen. Avoid sugar. Do mirror work.

Sometimes, you’re not ugly. You just haven’t discovered what the best version of you looks like yet.

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This is so true. Preserving your youth and beauty holistically will always look better than Botox and other invasive procedures down the line.

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Sugar baby tips: Freestyling - how to trigger a man's generosity right from the start

If you already tried to turn men from real life into SD’s without success you need a plan and a strategy and the willingness to let a guy go if he is not generous. And most important you need the right mindset!!!

Let’s pretend you met a guy on tinder who could be SD material and happens to be in your city on his next business trip

1.First of all: No spoiling=no date!

Start with a text: “Looking so much forward to see you….Since I am the best tour guide out there I thought about what we could do when you are here and “xy-restaurant” sounds amazing! I always wanted to go there, we could try that. Would you like that? And if yes, can you make a reservation?”

If he refuses tell him you feel most comfortable to meet the first time over a nice dinner and you are not used to anything different.

Yes he could be “too busy”to meet for a whole dinner. But you know what? No gentleman is too busy to meet a girl for dinner who he is really interested in and in case he says that THEN YOU are too busy and your time too precious to spend 2 hours in the bathroom for a simple drink!

If you don’t want to meet for dinner because you want to keep your diet or you simply don’t want to face the risk of getting bored during dinner with a stranger I do understand if you prefer to meet for a drink- however I personally think that the best way to get to know a guy is in fact to invest more time and meet for dinner or a meal AT AN EXPENSIVE RESTAURANT. Furthermore by doing that you automatically send a signal: you present yourself as high maintenance and a man sees that he needs to invest money if he wants to spend time with you.

If he agrees to have dinner, text him “I really want to look cute for you especially since this is our first date but i dont have anything nice to wear in my closet… i saw this amazing dress of “xy” though and it would look so good on me….” If he doesnt get the hint you can add “can you maybe help me get it? I know you wont regret it :) I guarantee I will look smoking hot in it”.

Option B: If he still insists on meeting for a drink you can text him, “well I need a new outfit for “xy-occasion” maybe we can combine a drink with a little shopping?.”

In case he also refuses a drink&shopping - he is cheap, so move on.

2. Of course you don’t do ANYTHING sexual on the first two/three dates even if he is generous! Always keep in mind-the sooner you have sex the sooner he will vanish and move on to the next girl!

Also, no holding hands and no good bye kiss on a first date if he is not generous. In case he is a generous guy but pressuring you with sex, tell him: “i am not used to rushing into things, i need more time please be patient.”

3. He has proven to be generous with gifts? Slowly mention bills and start to discuss an allowance.

Always keep in mind- unless a man has proven different - you need to treat him as someone who has only short term sexual interest in you no matter how much he sweet talks you and that means for you that it will be impossible to get more spoiled by him after you had sex than before!

4. Even if you did not in the past …. - you have to make absolutely clear that you are used to getting spoiled and that you already have standards. But never do that in an arrogant or greedy way. Act like you don’t know any different. Now write on a paper exactly what you want and what your wishes are. You need to learn to verbalize them and feel comfortable doing so. Do it in front of a mirror and again be willing to let a man go if he is not generous!

Last but not least: part of this game is always being a step ahead and focussing on your wishes! Don’t wait for a guy to act generous-demand it or it won’t happen!

It is work though and you have to change your mindset! You have to believe that you deserve getting treated like a princess and hopefully like a queen one day.

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Reblogging again <3

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Action produces information. When you don’t know what to do, do anything. Clarity comes from movement. Every action gives you feedback. You can’t think your way into a perfect path, but you can act your way into clarity. So instead of asking yourself if it’s the wrong step, ask yourself what you can learn from it

You want to know how people tell you to start and opportunities will find you? Movement boosts blood flow and oxygen to the brain which increases energy and mental clarity. It releases dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine to improve mood, focus and motivation, while lowering cortisol to reduce mental clutter. Even light activity, like walking, enhances memory, sparks new ideas, and breaks overthinking loops, giving your brain the chemistry it needs to think more clearly

That shift changes your energy, mood, and how you carry yourself, which directly influences how people and opportunities respond to you. Clearer thinking helps you make better decisions, notice possibilities you might have overlooked & take actions you wouldn’t have taken if you were stuck in mental fog

When your brain is firing optimally and your nervous system is calmer, you naturally project more confidence and openness which are qualities that tend to attract people, ideas and situations aligned with where you want to go. In other words, movement changes your inner world first and your outer world adjusts to match it

Do anything :)

Apps are dead. Free styling is scary. This is the best alternative: business events.

Idk if these are available in the US or other countries but there’s an app called EVENTBRITE in Australia and it has all these events from clubbing to investor meet ups. Some are free, some you have to pay for.

I browse through them, looking for events where:

-there’ll be a Large turnout (tech events) or

-events pecific to an industry with high income professionals (investors! Whether that’s in stocks, bitcoin, tech, property.etc) or

-VIP passes are being sold (usually expensive, I just get the free pass but you’ll know there will be people there who will pay for the VIP pass. Those are the people especially to look out for.)

I say I’m from a startup (true) and pitch my idea to them as an excuse to start talking.

I recommend saying something along those lines- that you want to start a business, are looking for a job in that specific industry, want to learn more about the topics of the event.

They will be impressed to a see a young cute girl that is so hardworking and offer to meet up and give you advice. This is how you get in!

Make sure to dress nice. I’ve gone to some of theses events wearing jeans and sneakers and you look so out of place. Now I wear a cute pencil skirt with an off the shoulder top and it looks professional without you looking like a 90 year old.

Also a tip: most of the people will already know each other and will be standing together in a small circle. Just walk up to any of these circles with a space in between the people and introduce yourself to the closest person. Then turn and shake hands with everyone else. And bam you have successfully networked.

Trust me it really is as easy as this. Especially if you are on the younger side, people will appreciate that you put in the effort to come and help you (even though they don’t know your true intentions!)

My Uber driver once said it perfectly: if you smile and dress the part, nobody can say no to you.

I hope this helps and good luck!

-Xoxo A