how to train yourself out of “almost, but not quite” in shifting.
so, if you’re someone who likes to shift while awake and you consistently find yourself at the phase where you know you’re shifting but reach a sort of blockade, this may help you.
first thing i want you to try is doing absolutely. nothing. when you reach that “this is it” moment, do not affirm. do not focus on your dr more. do not try to control your breathing.
when you do this, it’s just a form of micromanaging. micromanaging leads to observing which leads to you not letting go. in this zone, you want to let go of your control. i always say that surrendering is the last “step” when it comes to shifting and it is imperative that you learn it, so do nothing to the best of your ability.
second, i want you to acknowledge the moment. the state that you’re in. a simple acknowledgement. no extra excitement. no need to catastrophize the moment. just think “okay,” and move on.
when you get to this stage, it’s just your mind checking where you are. and you don’t have to convince it of anything. you are allowed to just let that check pass over you.
now, this is the important part: the state that you’re in is either going to carry you into your dr or fade. and you have to allow your awareness that choice without trying to control it.
often times, we tense up in this pivotal moment because we’re scared of “losing it.” but the thing that’s so ironic about this state is that you’re almost guaranteed to “lose it” if you try to control or navigate it. so the best way to pass this state and become fully aware of your dr is by facing the fear you have head on. it’s by letting go and saying “okay, i’m either gonna shift or this moment will pass but i refuse to get in my own way this time.”
as long as you continue to interfere in this state, you will never truly surrender to the shift.
you see, shifting is just like walking through a doorway. and you’ve been treating the doorway like it’s fragile. like if you don’t handle it perfectly, it disappears forever. and so, like clock work, whenever that pull moment happens, your mind goes into prevention mode to keep it stable. but prevention mode is just resistance disguised as management. and resistance is what keeps you here.
allowing yourself to remain neutral in this moment exposes your mind—and your nervous system—to the idea that this fear isn’t the end of the world. and once the fear of failing dissolves, the urgency dissolves. and once the urgency dissolves, the micromanaging dissolves. and once the micromanaging dissolves… you’ll be able to shift without resistance.
in my opinion, it’s important to desensitize yourself to the fear of failure because !spoiler alert! this fear is the whole reason you even panic about “keeping” the pull/the symptoms in the first place! it’s the whole reason you tighten your grip. but through this small surrender exercise, you teach yourself that you are capable of handling “almost” and that you don’t need to rescue yourself from the fear by self sabotaging the moment.
understand that the shifting doorway is not fragile. there is no correct way to handle it. and you don’t need to intervene in the natural process in order to step through easily.
happy shifting. hope this helps.
