Hi, if a trans woman doesn't like trans men that is not "transandorophobia" not a thing (trans men are oppressed for being trans, not for being men") and if a trans women tells trans men to "go become a monk in the Alps" or something (obvious use of hyperbole), that is not transphobia; it would be more transphobic if trans men weren't included in her dislike of men, as that would be denial of their gender.
Therefore, calling yay-bunnies a transphobe is an absolute lie; she (using she because I know she was trans fem and I can hardly check her pronouns now can I?) did not oppose trans men transitioning, did not oppose bathrooom bans, and did not support an actual transphobe's view of sex-gender assignment.
I know this isn't going to change anything but please learn to spot the difference between dangerous hyperbole ("trans women are faking it to gain access to 'real wombyn's bodies'") and harmless hyperbole ("men have to go become monks and go to the mountains"). The first example is dangerous, villainises trans women (a scapegoat for all trans people) in order to pass laws creating bathroom bans and to prevent trans people getting gender-affirming care; whereas the second does not have a political goal, it is simply frustration about men going "what about me".
Saying ‘it’s never okay to be a man’ to a trans masc is absolutely transphobic to say and saying that makes you a transphobe. Also I’ve been told Yay uses fae/faer pronouns
Fae told a trans masc that it was never okay to be a man, you can’t twist that any other way. Just because it was towards a trans man instead of a trans woman doesn’t make the transphobia okay.
Also, transandrophobia IS real, trans men/trans mascs do not have the male privilege cis men do, we were often raised female, many others still see us as women, and we still need the same medical care that cis women do often. We often have lived extended portions of our lives as women, and as such have suffered from misogyny from a young age.
The concept of trans mascs having the same privilege as cis men hinges on us being able to pass perfectly, which, even ignoring that not every trans masc is going to present masculine or want to physically transition (I am one such case), then the fact that if the wrong person finds out we lose that privilege kinda means we didn’t really ever have it in the first place. It’s like saying a gay man in the closet in a lavender marriage who keeps his gay partner a secret has the same privilege as a straight man so long as no one finds out the truth. Or like saying a gay woman has the same privilege as a straight woman so long as no one learns the truth.
Furthermore if your response to someone going ‘I’m a bunny and a man and trans am I valid’ is frustration then you’re also transphobic.
You need to realize that male privilege is afforded to mainly white cis hetero men, men of color do not have the same privilege, gay men do not have the same privilege, and so on and so on.
Trans mascs are not the enemy of trans fems, us speaking about our issues and coining a term for it is not taking away from trans fems, we are allies and as the saying goes, ‘we’re all fags in the eyes of the state’
Again, saying ‘it’s never okay to be a man’ to a trans man denies them a sense of community and validation that they need just as much as trans fems do, this isn’t a contest and it is never okay to be transphobic no matter what.
