It keep coming up, the question of another. Stay at 1. Or go for 2. I say we have the choice to keep things as simple as possible. Nicole says a sibling is priceless. I see the finances doubling, nanny care, food, sitters, schools, trading our vacations and material perks, as well as our relationship strain, and ultimately our sanity. She is doubling efforts on Metta, getting that going is the best way to help with finances. She suggests getting a job and doing Metta on the side. What do we do with two I our small house? She says we will figure it all out. We'll l move if we have to. If it's out of SF, then we do that. There may be parts of that life that we love as much as this one. Then she recalls a story of a successful designy coupe in NYC, similar to the Podals, another fashion and design couple she knows in SF, they live in a tiny place with two kids. They just make it work and they are really happy. I say I'm an older parent and that's as big as the money concern. At 46 I'm grateful to have the parenting experience, grateful for Nicole and I, grateful for Zane. I have a lot of energy but it's not what it used to be. Ha ha g another at this age is a little crazy. I'd be 64 at Zane's graduation. 67 at #2's graduation. Then college, marriages, being healthy and playing with grandchildren. I often wonder about life hacks to stay healthy. Like cutting out coffee to ease up on the adrenal glands and other ways to stay vital in later years. Our bodies are only as good as we used them for. Good maintenance. Work out. Eat well. Mental exercises. Laugh often. Try new things. Stay positive. We have a wonderful love story. It's obvious, as we like to say. And it remains through all the twists and turns, but all of it puts a strain our relationship. What would another be like? We both agree the first two years will be hard. One was hard. Two will be harder. Until it isn't. When they play with each, learn to share with each other, and have each other's backs, and spur each other on. Later in life, the confidant is like no other. Having a sibling perspective may be the most trusted there is. Later when our bodies shut down they have each other to make tough decisions together deciding our fates. We are in the window. Zane is 21 months and action now would put them 3 years apart. That's good as they'll be both I the same school. Nicole's says 4 years is still ok. There's no doubt we LOVE Zane. And we would love another with everything we have.
