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I have a playlist. If you like Meihem. This is for you.

#music #spotify

mjf-af

The Frighteners (1996)

mjf-af

The Frighteners (1996)

bpdsuperhero

If someone tells you they love you but then abandon you, it is E M O T I O N A L A B U S E

I will post this over and over because it’s the truth and more people need to hear it

loismacgiver-deactivated2018061

people are allowed to leave you, you fucking imbecile. no one is bound to you forever just because they may have once loved you. to suggest they’re somehow obligated to you once they no longer want to be is E M O T I O N A L A B U S E

meangirlnurse

bad post OP

bpdsuperhero

Valteuil sounds like a typical textbook abuser making excuses for discarding people like trash

eroscestlavie

omfg is this person for real. buddy it’s really irresponsible to say things like “someone who says they love you and then leaves you is an abuser” that’s…literally not what abuse is and it’s incredibly disrespectful to abuse victims. emotional abuse can certainly contain elements of lying and abandonment but actually projecting the idea that leaving someone is emotional abuse is….really irresponsible like I said lmao there are a lot of pretty vulnerable people on this site who need to know it’s okay to leave someone even though you love them. also leave isa alone she knows what she’s talking about and shouldn’t have to engage wackos who try to use the mental health community on this site as a platform for their weird aggressive stances on how personal relationships should work

bpdsuperhero

Abandoning someone is 100% abusive. There’s no reason for it. There are always better ways. Talking about it, expressing feelings, etc. You don’t just up and leave like the person is trash to be thrown away. Abandoning someone, especially someone with an BPD is what’s irresponsible.

otohimeheart

Yes, sometimes you do just “up and leave” because sometimes no amount of talking can fix a relationship or situation that isn’t working. Also the idea of someone being expected to have a higher tolerance for bad things in a relationship just because their partner has a personality disorder is ludicrous. It doesn’t make a difference whether you have a pd or not because they’re not your fucking keeper. The fact that you phrase all this as “abandonment”, “throwing away trash” etc really says it all that this is something you need to learn to deal with on your side. Learn to sympathize with your partners and friends and learn to understand that they are individuals with their own needs and levels of tolerance and they should ALWAYS have the option to back out of something they can’t handle. I would be terrified to interact with someone like you who puts all expectations on the other person in the relationship.

lookskindadeadinside

tag yourself I’m the lack of nuance and single-minded “ALL BREAKUPS ARE EVIL AND ABUSIVE” line of thinking

chikadee-deactivated20180625

as someone with bpd op is not empowering people with bpd, only furthering stigma. get help. we catastrophize which makes it feel like abandonment but it isn’t abandonment. go take some DBT skills classes and get the fuck over yourself jesus fucking christ “not here for sociopaths or narcissists” binch we have those fucking characteristics with the pd what are you talking about

bpdsuperhero

Actually received more positive than negative feedback, but people screaming insults and threats make them afraid to post publicly. Good job

chikadee-deactivated20180625

all of those people need help asap or else all of their interpersonal relationships are doomed

seriously

d b t

self awareness

logic over emotions

this is coming from someone that was severely unstable with bpd

get stable its the best thing ever

also, here’s a hint: this kind of talk like in the origianl post IS ABUSE youre guilt tripping people into not leaving you and THAT IS ABUSE

bpdsuperhero

And I already clarified that I was not referring to leaving an actual abuser. Also “get stable” is actually ableist as fuck, some people legit can’t.

bowtiedork89-blog

This ^

d20-darling-deactivated20181011

Yay! I finally found a cute, affordable bit of Batwoman merch, and she only cost me $9.99 on ebay. Have you seen these, @thefingerfuckingfemalefury?

storyofsin

Favorite DC Ladies pt. ii

dhurain

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submissivefeminist

Things my liberal Christian roommate says:

“Eating someone’s ass doesn’t mean you don’t love God.”

antisummersong-blog

Many years ago, the world was covered in different religions…

missmoonbunny

just-shower-thoughts

Macaulay Culkin and Steve Buscemi need to play a father and son in a movie.

spooniedollie

Hey, people

Some people make nervous laughs/chuckles when they get scared, nervous, whatever. IT DOES NOT mean they think the actual situation is amusing. It just means that’s how their body reacts when they get nervous, scared, whatever.

Stop being a dick bag to these people, or automatically assuming they’re up to something shifty if they give a nervous chuckle/laugh.

A nervous laugh/chuckle will typically be quick (a few seconds), and might come out in short bursts.

Cops, and other authority figures,please remember this. If you’re grilling someone about possible illegal activity and they do this (or you, the authority figure, are being “sarcastic” about something and this is their response), DO NOT ASSUME THE WORST.