julia

she/her | lgbtq+ blog, mostly about being bi :) | safe space!! pls do not b rude to others and no discourse!!!

[princessscrambledpancakes]

LGBT more like. Let’s Go To Bed. Let’s go bed to. Let’s. It’s bedtime.

[closet-keys]

This video is so fucking good.

I feel like this is such a good video for holding someone's hand through understanding. not that anyone should have to have their hand held to be kind, but for people whose folks--without hand-holding--will not put in the effort to get it, this video existing will really help ease that burden by providing something that will do some of that work for them.

I particularly think it will be helpful to show people who are generally trans affirming, who intend to side with trans people on trans issues (would probably need the issue's existence & relationship to transness stated explicitly, but would support the 'trans rights' position once they realized the issue existed), but who do not really understand why. they would do it because they believe they should.*

*(which is great! so much better than many other people. BUT allying yourself with someone just because you feel socially that "you should" without having an analysis of why, can leave you so vulnerable to propaganda that preys on the areas where the bond of solidarity is only simple social pressure. Reactionaries can present a new explanation, that might convince you that, maybe, the social pressure around you is in the other direction. maybe the thing you "should" do socially, is to break the line of solidarity. They can manipulate people's perceptions of which side is the social good. If it's just social pressure holding you in solidarity, fash can EXERT social pressure and create social consequences. If it's not grounded in analysis & understanding how trans struggle aligns with your values, then the solidarity is just so vulnerable.)

With that said, reading through the comment section, it stunned me that there were actually some conservatives reconsidering their positions after watching, and that makes me wonder if for some (I still think this video will probably be most successful for getting cis liberals to just think a bit harder) it might serve as a first step de-radicalization tool.

(Dropping two example comments below the cut that really surprised me. I'm adding below the cut cause these are still deeply prejudiced people and you don't need to see it. but if you're curious, I wanted to add the screenshots. For anyone who doesn't want to read them, one example that just stunned me was a conservative who, by some grace of the normally fash-acceleration algorithm, was directed to this video after watching Matt Walsh's transmisogynist propaganda video, and is basically expressing that this video gave them enough perspective to make them question their assumptions and reminded them of trans people's humanity.

It's so hard to inspire even a little hiccup in bigoted thinking--especially after just having consumed a whole transphobia special-- & that this could do that even for just one person? genuinely impresses me as a piece of nonfiction art.)

[dysphoria-things]

every time i see slur discourse i think about this post

[machine-saint]

we justifiably give Biden a lot of shit but I think "at least 3" is the funniest possible response to some right wing dipshit asking you how many genders there are

[madnessofmen]

wait it gets better

[janmisali]

what term do you personally use for "a trilogy but there's four of them"?

I don't have a word for this

tetralogy

tetrilogy

quadralogy

quadrilogy

trilogy

other (answer in replies/tags)

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Voting ended onMay 27, 2023

[dduane]

Foursome.

[genderkoolaid]

I'm not sure where I read it - I think it was on the wikipedia page of that trans doctor from the 1920s, but I don't remember his name - but basically, it was talking about this trans man's experience being trans in the early 20th century, and his family's reaction. And it made a point of saying how his grandparents were entirely supportive and even wrote him as their grandson on their gravestones. And there's a similar story for a trans girl, also in a similar time period I believe, where her family took her to a doctor when she started Being Trans and the doctor's reaction was literally "Okay, she says she's a girl? Then treat her like a girl! Buy her dresses and call her by whatever name she wants!" and they did!!

Obviously transphobia still existed back then, and it was strong. But throughout time, there have been cases where people heard their loved one say "I am not that gender, that doesn't fit me," and their love and trust in that person overrode any prejudice or lack of understanding, and they just accepted them. Whether it's a doctor encouraging parents to treat their little girl like a little girl, or grandparents marking their grandson's gender in stone (even when, if I remember correctly, his parents had doubts), trans people have always had people who cared for us and believed us and supported us, despite what the rest of society might have said.

UPDATE: IT WAS ALAN L. HART, from his wikipedia page:

Hart wrote later, in 1911, of his happiness during this time, when he was free to present as male, playing with boys' toys made for him by his grandfather. His parents and grandparents largely accepted and supported his gender expression, though his mother described his "desire to be a boy" as "foolish." His grandparents' obituaries, from 1921 and 1924, both list Hart as a grandson.

[unwholesome-gay]

🌈When did you realize that you weren't straight?

5 years old or younger

6-9 years old

10-13 years old

14-17 years old

17-19 years old

20-24 years old

25-29 years old

30s

40s

50+

Voting ended onMay 20, 2023

[wingedprincessheart]

ok some days being visibly homo is the most wonderful thing in the world. an old woman walking her dog stopped to say hello to me and I asked if i could say hi to her dog. she seemed really excited and told me "his name is rupert brooke. i named him after a gay poet from the era of the first world war. he had red hair just like my dogs fur". then she leans in and whispers like she's divulging some great secret and says "i don't usually tell people about the gay part"

[littlemousling]

I’ve told this one before, but: I was in a long-distance relationship in 2010. One time, after flying back into Toronto, I got a cab to my apartment. The cab driver, who was a recent Pakistani immigrant, asked where I had been travelling.

And I had to think about my safety as a passenger and a woman, but I decided to just tell him: “I was visiting my girlfriend in New York.” And he went quiet, and I was briefly terrified, and then he said, “It’s good here in Canada, for people like us.” AND THEN I FUCKING CRIED OBVIOUSLY.

It’s good to be visibly or openly queer, when you can be. There are so many more of us out there than you ever realize otherwise.

[penrosesun]

[the-astro-ace]

https://www.cnn.com/2023/05/11/health/blood-donation-fda-rules/index.html

[w1nterk1tty]

8 years next month and yet no music video has nor ever will make me feel things the way the girls like girls mv did

[pocket-deer-belly]

I’m a cis man sure but i also wanna opt out of the gender binary. None of that shit is my fault or my responsibility and i don’t want any part of it

[pocket-deer-belly]

Believing the gender binary is stupid horseshit doesn’t require me to change my gender actually

[pocket-deer-belly]

Yeaheyah you get it. Not trans but i believe in their beliefs. Sometimes i remember people form gender complexes around what alcoholic beverages or colors they like and i just wonder how they’re not fucking exhausted from keeping up this stupid fucking horseshit. Just do whatever you want forever

[sweetbabyrayray]

@nimagine i know u reblogged this from me but ur so correct 🙏 get peer reviewed

[nosferatuprivilege]

my favorite block on the aids quilt

[intersexfairy]

[ID: A bluish black quilt block. It has a yellow 4-pointed star in the center. Filing the black space are many white birds - doves, possibly. They look like they’re flying towards the star.

In the top left and bottom right corners, it reads “forever remember me as loving you.” The text is white and in caps. /End ID]

[seongpinkhwa]

can you trigger tag bisexuality please

no but i can fuck both your parents

[bisexualspongebob]

the fact that the bottom part of this was cut off and reposted and and almost nobody knew is one of the biggest cases of bi erasure in history

[shounenchild]

[tranarchist]

Trans lesbian feminist Beth Elliot’s response to TERFs who attacked her at the West Coast Lesbian Conference, 1973 (x)

[tranarchist]

Since it’s LGBT history month it’s a good time to bring this back, with a minor correction- her surname is actually Elliott, with two t’s

Also here’s a photo of Beth from around the time she performed at the conference-

[queeranarchism]

Back when TERFs were barely a thing, when as a movement they were only just coming into existence, one of the first trans woman to be confronted with their shit already looked at them and realized that TERFs make damn good fascists. It has been that obvious this whole time.

[yekkes]

It’s my opinion that like if a white supremacist/Nazi is going to be reformed. They need to do so willingly. The only times I’ve heard of successful rehabilitation of fascists is when they made the conscious decision to no longer be one anymore and seek atonement. People who try to like hug and change fascists that don’t want to change are fucking morons

[haletheprince-deactivated202208]

Correct. I was crypto-facist for a few years, and the people trying to hug me didnt change me because at that point I wouldnt have listened. It was only when I started to see the movement for what it was that I was finally able to listen.

[yekkes]

I’m not derailing your addition but I’m horrified you’re only 18. When did you become a fasc?

[haletheprince-deactivated202208]

Yeah trust me it *is* horrifying. I’m ashamed of who I was and I think my only atonement is to talk about how damn easy it is to become one when you’re young.

This is gonna be a long post.

For a little bit of background, I am a mixed race person, half brown and half white. I was raised in a Muslim family and am still closeted around them.

I started to have issues with Islam at around 12 or so, when I first started to get the idea that I might be gay. Now I never would have admitted that was my reason. If you had asked me I probably would have said “logic” or something. Because of that I went hard into atheism and atheist circles.

Now people hate to admit this but ex-Muslim spaces are predominantly right wing. Ex-Muslims often see the left as “too tolerant” towards a religion that hurt them. This was the only community I had though, and I read through everything. I was 13.

The other thing that people hate to admit is that, especially when you’re young, being mixed race is so damn hard. If I acted “too white”, following my mother’s German/Austrian traditions, I was accused of hiding my true nature. But if I acted “too brown” I was just another camel jockey. So I hid my “Indian” customs from others and tried passing as white. Especially online.

So I’m not saying this is all youtube’s fault or anything. I was raised to believe that the brown half of my family was lesser and stupid. And with my hatred of Islam, I believed it doubly.

Then came Anita Sarkeesian. I was watching pewdiepie and from there my recommendations were all set. If I’m remembering the pipeline it was pewdiepie - Philip Defranco - Chris Ray Gun (sp?) - Thunderfoot - Sargon - etc. But I was pretty much acquainted with all of the right wing youtube of the day.

Funnily enough, I found her through Thunderfoot. That got me into antifeminism, and more specifically, GamerGate.

I was primarily on the subreddits KIA (Kotaku In Action) and TIA (Tumblr In Action). Both made fun of the SJWs. I kid you not, I would gleefully wait for “Sanity Sunday”, where the people would talk about how feminism is disgusting, cultural appropriation is fake, the wage gap isnt real, etc. I would scroll through this tag for hours.

I got most of my youtube recommendations from those subreddits. This led me from GamerGate to more fascist lines of thinking, such as watching videos about why BLM is a terrorist organization, why all muslims were evil rapists, and why I was fundamentally right to reject my Indian heritage and follow my “correct” heritage.

From here I delved into “race realism”, and I believed it all. I had to. This was the only community I had felt safe in. One of the fash guys even offered to shack me up at his house if my parents kicked me out for being atheist. I was 15.

To say that again, I was 15 and believed that white was right, blue lives matter, “we wuz kangs”, etc. I never would have called myself a fascist or a Nazi. How could I? I used my brown skin as a token, so that people could point to me and say: “See, we aren’t misogynistic and racist! We have this brown girl right here.” But I believed in all the things the Nazis did. I’m not going to pretend I didn’t. I will never pretend I didn’t.

But then something happened. I admitted to myself, and to a few others, that I was gay. And suddenly, the homophobia that I had molded myself in, it didn’t fit right. I happened to, by accident, click on the reddit thread of GamerGhazi, the opposition to GamerGate. And after a long bout of introspection I found out that they were accepting of gay people, that the things I had been experiencing were common, that maybe, just maybe, we didn’t need a white ethnostate.

I don’t want to be dramatic but that accidental click saved my life.

From there it was a road of recovery. I deleted all my old accounts, made new ones, and started to read leftist theory. I found better friends, cut out old people. So now, just about two years later, I’m healing.

I think that’s everything. I probably got some times and dates wrong because I’ve been trying to move on from it. But if you need more info or anything like that, please let me know.

[haletheprince-deactivated202208]

Life After Hate

Founded by former violent extremists, mostly from the far-right, we are committed to compassion, education and countering violent extremism.

Reblogging for anyone who’s struggling with being an ex-fascist. Feel free to message me as well, I know how scary it can be.

[robogal328]

Reblogging because, if this shows up often enough, maybe it will be someone else’s accidental click

[heyitsnyixie]

To add onto this, I almost fell down the pipeline when I was about 11/12.

My school life was terrible. I was shunned by all but about 5 people in my grade (there were like 100 of us). My middle and elementary school didn’t let the kids interact much with different grades so they were the only people I could make friends with. To add icing on the shitcake, they were trans and homophobic, throwing around t-slurs and f-slurs like they were a foot ball.

My home life wasn’t much better as my parents’ relationship was toxic. They were always arguing and My dad has BPD. He also refuses to change his view on the world or go to therapy because of trauma.

I always looked up to my father, but he was a very hateful man. He is indigenous but he hated immigrants and white people fervently. He even thinks he’s black. (My mother is, he’s part Italian) He was super homophobic and is even more transphobic. My parents a both christian but my father is one of the hateful ones.

This left me in a little box of misery where I couldn’t talk to anyone or express myself. I tried to fit in and started throwing those slurs around. I started watching atheist content in my headphones and screaming internally at god for my shit life.

It wasn’t long before I was watching feminist triggered compilations and for a little I even watched No Bullshit. I hated myself immensely and the world even more so.

However, funnily enough, what saved me was music. I was listening to twenty one pilots on YouTube (I was one of those TOP fans who wouldn’t shut up about being different) when I came across this is home by cavetown.

When I listened to it I cried. It was everything I felt in one song, everything I was lying to myself about. I didn’t realize I was trans until sophomore year of HS but cavetown was my comfort artist while I was discovering myself.

I started watching Armored Skeptic and found Shoe On Head through him. While Shoe isn’t that far left, she made it click one day. I heard the word “red-pilled” and I realized that was a dog whistle. I closed out the video and went to watch someone else.

I got into an academic school, and I met my current friend group. They were mostly queer so they gave me a space to be safe and accepted. For once, the majority of the student body was at least neutral about me. It was something that mad me so happy. I’m in love for the first time, something I thought would never happen. (My father would hate it if he found it she was a girl though lol half of his kids are gay)

I didn’t have that biting loneliness anymore. I didn’t hate my entire being just to fit in anymore. I started researching leftist theory because I don’t want future generations to go through what I did.

I’m still depressed and even suicidal from time to time but I haven’t drafted any notes or research methods since I was 13 (I turn 18 this year)

I plan to go into the arts and become someone else’s cavetown. We can reach fascists young and get them on the right track, but they have to be willing to fight the demons that de-railed them in the first place.

[punkrock-bottom]

F*g is a slur and no amount of quirky posts is gonna make you cool for using it

You have rights because faggots and dykes fought for them. Respect that you cunt

[the-haiku-bot]

You have rights because

faggots and dykes fought for them.

Respect that you cunt

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.