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syl the fugitive , aquarius 25

[princesssokphanny]

A once-in-a-lifetime shot — the moon perfectly framed by a rainbow. Caught at just the right time. 🌈 🌕

[kedreeva]

Sourcing the photos as taken by Mark Ham on Instagram, according to one of the replies.

[leebrontide]

Happy Pride month to the moon

[depsidase]

[hotvampireadjacent]

I’ve been trying to share this since I found out. They are moving onto harassing people in Memphis.

Memphis is “under full-blown occupation” by ICE. Here’s why you may not know that.

Community members face retaliation for trying to spread the word out, a lawsuit alleges.

Everyone was lovely in getting the word out about Chicago and Minnesota. I want to spread that awareness for folk in tennessee.

[vimeddiart]

Wraith and Calico (and Ava) commission for @robo-cryptid!

[tonetaghater]

THESE BITCHES GAY !!!!!!!!!!!!! oughhhh

[alequ1u]

Jolyne Kujo ✩₊˚.⋆🕸️

[bundaskifli]

WHO UP STEELING THEY BALL ‼️🐎 RUN

[rihrus]

Colored Charmy :)

[poltergoast]

stop drawing jojolion challenge haha FAILED!!

[faerbloom]

gyjo doodle based off smth my friend wrote

[bussyflor]

Goth bruno!!

[febreezylalala]

Hihi I made some prom dress designs based on some of the bucci gang and they reminded me of ur fem designs so I just wanted to show u :3

THEY ARE SO BEAUTIFUL WAAOWWWW

[febreezylalala]

Okuyasu why u leaning sm

[febreezylalala]

Momtaroooo

[rihrus]

[veiledblade]

yasuho my beloved

[gideonisms]

I think it's so important and crucial for 20 year olds to witness older people who are genuinely bad at some aspects of being a person but are still living lives they find meaningful and enjoyable. Not just "oh I got married and you can too" but like. sometimes you cannot for the life of you finish college or find a good job or stay in a relationship or arrive to locations on time or whatever it is you think when you're 20 that you HAVE to be able to do. But you wind up finding a place in the world anyway. It happens!

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!