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[smoestoe]

Today’s mental health reminder: a relapse, a sudden series of attacks, a string of awful days, (or whatever your step back may be) does not decrease your value. Take your time, do some self care, reflect on the progress that you have made. You are strong; one step back is nothing when you look at the journey you have already made.

[walkingbomb]

reminder to:

straighten your back

go pee goddAMN IT STOP HOLDING IT

go take your meds if you need to

drink some water

go get a snack if you havent eaten in a while

maybe wander around the house/stretch a little if you’ve been sat at the computer a while (artists especially: sTRETCH THOSE WRISTS)

reply to that text/message from earlier you’d forgotten about

maybe send a nice lil message to someone having a bad day?

[mouthfullofsxnd]

I just would like to thank everyone who ever reblogs this so that it somehow ends up back on my dash because I usually need the reminder (especially the drinking water one)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

6 Things to Tell Yourself Today

1. I matter. 2. I’ll get through this. 3. I am a beautiful. 4. I deserve to be loved. 5. I can find peace, happiness and contentment. 6. I have the power and the will to survive.

[livepositivelyfit]

This is just a reminder

If you fucked up today, that’s okay. You’re still smart, and good, and people still love you. If you’re in a dark place today, that’s okay. Even if you feel like you can’t get out of bed, and all you can do is breathe, that’s okay. You breathe, take the time you need, and we’ll be here when you’re ready.  Every day is a battle. On some, you demolish whatever’s ahead of you. On others, you just have to hang on for dear life. Either way, you’re a warrior. Don’t forget it. 

[bpd-galaxyy]

I am so, so proud of everyone with borderline personality disorder.

You all go through hell every day inside your head, you go to sleep fighting a battle that you have to continue fighting when you wake up and yet you’re all still here.

It doesn’t matter how your life is playing out. All that matters is you are here and you are strong and I am proud of you.

:)

[43896]

sometimes people who are sad dont always need the “it gets better talk”

sometimes people just want to hear “you are sad, you are trying your best, and it’s okay. you’re okay and you’re alive and that’s a big accomplishment”

because i know for myself unconditional optimism gets really fucking annoying. sometimes i just want to be sad and have it be okay that im sad.

don’t make me feel weirder than i already do in my own skin.

[metapianycist]

i support the apparently radical idea that ableism exists because of abled people devaluing disabled people’s lives and experiences, and not because of people self-identifying as disabled

being disabled is not an inherently bad thing. if someone tells you it’s inherently bad, or tells you it’s inherently negative self-talk to call yourself disabled, they’re wrong.

i’m disabled. i’m too disabled to be considered productive in capitalism. my life and experiences are valuable regardless. my value as a person isn’t determined by how useful i am to capitalism.

[fishyandclintbarton]

Because we all need to hear this sometimes.

I’ve been having a bad couple of weeks and I just really needed to hear these:

You are NOT a burden

You are valued 

You are NOT a shitty friend, even when you think you are

You don’t need to have it all figured out yet

It’s OK to have bad days

And it’s OK to hide from the world if you’re having a bad day

Because sometimes you just need to have some time to yourself

And that’s OK

You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to

What happened to you in the past is NOT your fault

Don’t feel guilty for not being productive

It’s going to be OK

Breathe

Relax

Recharge

YOU ARE WANTED

YOU ARE LOVED

YOU CAN DO THIS

I BELIEVE IN YOU

[taavot-deactivated20170404]

“People with personality disorders are most likely abusive!!!” scream neurotypicals as they completely ignore the fact that many people develop personality disorders as a result of being abused themselves, and that their abusers are often neurotypical/ do not have personality disorders.

[pdpeaches-deactivated20160703]

Hey, guys!

I have finally finished my interactive personality disorder diagnostic checklists! Each checklist provides the symptoms one dealing with the specified disorder would be experiencing taken from the DSM-5. these could be a very useful tool for people looking for help with self-diagnoses or better expressing their symptoms. 

Here are the links:

BPD (borderline personality disorder)

HPD (histrionic personality disorder)

NPD (narcissistic personality disorder)

SPD (Schizoid personality disorder)

STPD (schizotypal personality disorder)

DPD (dependent personality disorder)

OCPD (Obsessive-Compulsive personality disorder)

ASPD (antisocial personality disorder)

APD (avoidant personality disorder)

PPD (paranoid personality disorder)

If you guys could reblog this so people who need it can have access to it, I’d really appreciate it!

[goodfuuuuuuuckinriddance]

“you’re not entitled to special treatment just because you have a mental illness”

yes? i am??

what do you think accommodations for disabled people are for?

a mental illness is a disability. if i need to be treated differently, if i need certain things done for me that i can’t do myself, if i need outside help to function in my daily life, then i’m gonna need “special treatment”. and that’s perfectly valid.

denying mentally ill people our right to accommodations is ableism

[takocos]

Also, illegal

[brainweirdadvice]

things depression is: various piles of rotting laundry, over the counter and prescribed pain meds/sleep pills, excuses on why you have to cancel plans, extreme irritability, joint/muscle/back pain, headaches, not showering for 2 and a half weeks, forgetting to eat/not being able to stop

things depression isnt: watchin netflix all day:p cause ur friends didnt call back, taking a nap, not wearing pants, being nonchalant, being sad sometimes

things mania is: irritability, ecstasy, paranoia, sometimes the inability to make rational decisions, impulsivity, magical thinking, sometimes god complex, staying up for 89 hours straight, wanting to get everything that doesnt need to be done, done, possible psychosis

things mania isnt: having a good day, doing something on a dare, being excited

things ocd is: constant intrusive horrific images playing in head, absolutely crucial compulsions, sore fingers, exhaustion, ridicule, extreme anxiety 24/7

things ocd isnt: fixing a table mat, making your Instagram feed nice

things psychosis is: paranoia, magical thinking, inability to differentiate between dream and reality, hallucinations (aud&vis), sometimes dangerous delusions, being a victim of shameless ablesm constantly

things psychosis isn't: psychopathy, being assertive, being aggressive towards someone, making an assumption, edgy, aesthetic, trippy

people who are allowed to internalize and speak on mental illness, use ablest slurs and feel however they want about mental illness: people who are mentally ill

people who are not: neurotypicals

[prsphn1-deactivated20160816]

if u suffer from multiple mental illnesses and aren’t able to distinguish between them it’s ok ur still valid

if u cant tell where one thing ends and another begins its ok ur still valid

if its impossible to tell whether xx is a symptom/effect of one or another ur still fucking valid

if ur mental illnesses are inherently linked and u literally wouldn’t have one without another then ur still valid!!!!!! 

[brainweirdadvice]

If I think about social interactions I've had I often feel like I did something really wrong, though actually I can never think of something. It makes me feel uncomfortable and is one of the main triggers for my harmful stims. Is that social anxiety?

it’s hard to answer this without knowing more -- specifically, this sounds like it may definitely be social anxiety, although social anxiety also has an element of dread for future interactions as well as avoidance of interactions, and often extreme anxiousness during the event.

this may be related to past trauma or internalized ableism as well, particularly since you’re autistic & sometimes we’re told we “communicate wrong” but can’t figure out why. it could certainly be social / generalized anxiety too.

-alex

[orangememesicle]

I want people to be less afraid of autism.

Autistic kids need to be taught that they aren’t broken. Verbal or nonverbal, they can live happy lives and experience everything at the same capacity as everyone else. Autistic kids need to know this so that they don’t grow up into self hating adults, adults who grow up hating themselves for being a burden on their families or on society. 

I want autistic kids that aren’t afraid of themselves.

I want therapy that can teach autistic kids to be the best autistic kids they can be. I want nonverbal autistics to find a way to communicate in a way that’s comfortable for them. I want autistics to learn how to advocate for themselves and I want them to learn to love themselves and show themselves instead of repressing who they are. 

Parents of autistic kids need to be taught that their kid can live a fulfilling and happy life, because the current media representation of autistics is so bleak. The panicking, the feeling that they’ve somehow “lost” a child, is something that can be prevented with education and support. They need to see autistic adults on different ends of the spectrum, doing well and having fulfilling lives even if they aren’t fitting the neurotypical version of happy. I want parents that aren’t afraid of their children. want the anti-vaccine movement to be shut down, both for its poor science and for its ableist attitudes. I want children to survive deadly diseases instead of endangered by the fear of becoming like us.

I want autistic people to be more than “empty shells”, “changelings”, “stolen”, “missing”, “broken”. I want people to stop seeing murders as “justifiable” because they’re so, so afraid of disabled people.

Most of all, I want autistics to be seen as people.

I want a world that’s different from the one we grew up in, where neuroatypical children have the chance to be themselves without fear.

[positivedoodles]

[queerenwalkerr]

Non-cutesy self-care tips

Have you been eating well? If not, eat a piece of fruit or a handful of nuts. You need vitamins; you need protein.

You’re probably not drinking enough water.

When is the last time you showered? Take a cold shower to wake you up or a hot shower if you need to relax.

Do the laundry that’s been piling up. You’ve been wearing that sweatshirt for too long.

Take care of the dishes in the sink that have been there for three days and have started to stress you out.

Did you brush your teeth this morning? How about your hair?

Listen to the messages on your phone that have been there for days.

Go outside for at least a couple minutes. You don’t even have to do anything; just sit down. Breathe in the fresh air and get some vitamin D.

Open your blinds. Your room is too dark and it’s probably making you tired.

Spend some time with your pet. Pet them, feed them, take them for a walk or clean out their litterbox. Caring for them will make you feel useful and responsible and give you something to do.

The self-care posts that tell you to take a bath and eat chocolate and read a book are good, but do what needs to be done first. Eating chocolate when you haven’t showered in four days and you can’t remember when the last time you changed your underwear was won’t make you feel better. It will probably make you feel worse. Clean yourself up; clean your surroundings up. Then take care of the little things. Tackle life one thing at a time.

[candiedmoon-deactivated20170403]

Sigh

[princesschumbucket]

My shortcut addo-ons

Food seem like too much? Try a gummy vitamin or two

Bathing seem like too much? Baby wipes and face wipes make great substitutes when showering just takes too many spoons.

Can’t even brush your teeth? Been there. Mouthwash isn’t as good but will make you feel better when brushing is too much work. 

Stand up and take a few steps every half hour or so if you’re sitting/laying around doing nothing. It seems like such a small thing but it makes a huge difference. Gets the blow flow up just slightly and keeps your muscles from forgetting how to be muscles.

Outside seem scary? Try a full spectrum light (Happy Light by Verilux is what I use). It’s not as good for you as sunlight but you’ll get some vitamin D and it’ll help regulate your sleep schedule. Best to use it first thing in the morning when you first wake up.

Water. I know it was mentioned above and I don’t have anything to add there but water is so important I figured it should be mentioned twice. Drink that water.

Can’t bring yourself to actually clean your room? Get a garbage bag and just throw out the trash. Don’t worry about anything else. You’ll be amazed at how much this gets rid of and personally it’s usually the dirtiest part for me. I can deal with the clutter longer than I can deal with actually having dirty surroundings.

Cleaning up yourself and your surrounding is super super important, but sometimes taking it all on can seem like too much. These are good cheats to use until you can bring yourself to do the real deal.

[kismetics-deactivated20161114]

Reblogging for the add ons!