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Don't ruin a moment by acknowledging it allow it to live and die untainted the more fluid you are the more honest moments you'll have watch how clean your experiences become

chelseymary

“Two souls are sometimes created together and in love before they’re even born.”

— F. Scott Fitzgerald; The Beautiful and Damned (via sunsetquotes)

kafk-a

“How I did waste and exhaust my heart.”

— Anne Carson, ‘The Anthropology of Water,’ from Plainwater: Essays and Poetry

geniussloci

Like some of my nails

I grow back into my skin

And I feel like myself again

In pain...

Home is not always a safe pleasant place to be

But it gives you that relief when your in it

Everybody else is cold in here

But there is smoke coming from the chimney

And when the winter came my mum plugged all the holes of our paper home

to protect us from the cold

With bubble wraps she covered the windows

When one night I got lost in the dark

I found home following the trail of smoke

It was dark in there too but I managed to find my room.

It was cold but I had to give my blankets to the creatures from under the door.

They clawed my skin when pulling my sheets

Then I opened my eyes to the day

Where we pretend everythings the same since you went away

Everybody else is cold in here

So you warm yourself with your pain.

quixoticanarchy

if handed a piece of paper what sort of doodle is your instinctive go-to

thepersonalwords

““Maybe that’s worse, not letting ourselves be loved. Because we’re too afraid of giving ourselves to someone we might lose.” - Mitch Albom”

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symptoms-syndrome

Passive aggressive maybe, but like...healing and getting better isn't easy. When I see people make posts about "LOL google says I should make a schedule to help manage my ADHD but I can't make a schedule bc I have ADHD" it's like. People saying that stuff know it's hard. That's part of why you gotta do it.

Sometimes healing is easier. Sometimes it's something really small that becomes routine. But sometimes it's hard! Sometimes you gotta push yourself to do something and it sucks! But I don't know what to tell you, other than that you don't need to be good at it right away.

Using the calendar example, I have ADHD + semi-frequent memory loss, so it can feel really difficult to try and make a calendar when both of those things can directly get in the way. So I started with making sure recurring events were in it, like therapy and med reminders. Now I'm usually able to remember to put in appointments or other one-time events in as soon as I know about them. It takes a lot of work.

I don't know. I just think sometimes people on this site are sitting in mud and complaining about being dirty. You really do need to try.

goobiroo

I relate to this but for cptsd and routines. It's hard. Healing isn't supposed to be comforting all the time. It's an everyday every minute thing. But I do the work to get better

symptoms-syndrome

Yes! It definitely applies to a lot of things.

Thinking on it more, I think part of the issue is that people view things as either in their "comfort zone" or in their "danger zone," which is not really how things work. There's an area in the middle where things suck and feel bad but aren't so bad you're in danger (mental, emotional, physical) and that's where growth happens.

Because I'm a visual learner:

Trauma can make you think things are like this:

When in reality, things are more like this:

Trauma etc can make that challenge zone (often also called a window of tolerance) really fucking small, so it can be easy to overshoot into the danger zone, which can lead to having panic attacks and being triggered. Sometimes that can reenforce the idea that everything outside our comfort zone is scary red danger zone! But with gentle prodding into our little orange areas, we can grow our window of tolerance. Growing our challenge zones, then turning our challenge zones into comfort zones.

Using a more concrete example, say you try going to a party and you get SUPER overwhelmed! That might put you in a situation where you visualize things like this:

Figuring out what's in that orange "challenge zone" can take some trial and error, but maybe you can try something like this:

Forcing yourself to go to a party where you'll feel overwhelmed and triggered is just going to reenforce the seperation of the red and the green. But pushing a little bit, in a way that feels scary but safe? That's where growth happens! Then maybe eventually, things look more like

goobiroo

That makes a lot of sense. You explained this so well, thank you! And totally, that orange area is super hard to figure out bit it's possible.

Since my coping mechanism is to make challenges into adventures:

I tell myself my orange zones are quests that will help me get to my goals or newer areas. And like any other person, I gotta rest in between them and not overwhelm myself. When I am rested and taken care of my needs, I have a better chance to avoid quick burn out when picking up the quests again. This storytelling keeps me excited and keeps me in check to let myself rest.

theroguefeminist

im going to come out and say it: isolating is a self-destructive behavior. it might not be as obvious and immediately self-destructive as say, impulsive spending, drug use or risky behaviors, but it gradually decays relationships and can deepen your mental health issues. often, our impulse is to retreat from others and responsibilities for “self care” or to “work on ourselves” and obviously sometimes we need mental health breaks, but there’s a line you cross from “taking a break” to full on neglecting your relationships with others and your social needs that can be incredibly damaging to yourself and others over time

pseudomantis

empath for inanimate objects

pseudomantis

this is literally an animal

kinkadinkyy-deactivated20251129

And all that cruelty tears you apart after a while. MARGOT ROBBIE as HARLEY QUINN in THE SUICIDE SQUAD (2021) dir. James Gunn

amazoogle

here at megacorporation, one of our core values is number go up. our other core value is rate at which number go up go up. these two core values guide us in our mission to exploit you as effectively as possible

historical-nonfiction

Bugs Bunny accidentally transformed the word nimrod into a synonym for idiot because nobody got a joke where he sarcastically compared Elmer Fudd to the Biblical figure Nimrod, a mighty hunter.

omegajako

Etymology is ridiculous and terrifying sometimes

garbage-empress

Bugs Bunny is more powerful than God

libertarirynn-deactivated202006

He also solidified the idea of rabbits loving carrots when carrots actually carry very little nutritional value for rabbits. The funniest part of that is that the original joke was a reference to a Clark Gable film where Gable munches on a carrot, it was never meant to imply that rabbits love carrots. The Clark Gable reference would’ve been obvious to audiences in the 40s but it has been pretty much lost to time.

celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725

Bugs Bunny has too much power and should be feared.

dropdeeperbee

Men should take more lewds.

Not dick pics. There are so many beautiful parts of the human body that aren’t genitals. Legs, butts, chest, arms, tummies, hips, shoulders…there’s so much to feel sensual about!

Not even to send to anyone, I want men to just take photos for themselves. Just because it’s validating. Just because they thought they looked good that day. To let their masculinity be something other than fragile. I want to see more men feeling sexy, striking a pose, and feeling good about their bodies in all the ways they’ve been robbed of.

dropdeeperbee

Wow this is quickly becoming my biggest post. So many men have been reblogging, messaging, commenting or leaving notes in the tags about how much they needed this or how awful they’ve felt about their bodies. Or just, didn’t realize they’re allowed to feel like this.

Kings. My heart breaks for you. It’s fucking hard to learn how to love your body, and I’m so, so, so proud of you for trying.