I Love Tea And Being Bi

~Call me Moon~ ~I don’t care about pronouns, but most people call me ‘she’~ ~I want to have an androgynous aesthetic but usually I’m too lazy to put any effort into my appearance~ ~Bi and ADHD af~

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

What really is Demisexuality?

The the standard definition of “demisexual” is “someone who only feels sexually attracted to someone they have close emotional bond with.” I’ve also heard the description “it doesn’t exist, it’s just called not being a hoe.”

The latter belief comes from a misconception that “feeling sexually attracted to someone” and “actually wanting to have sex with someone” are not the same thing.

I am a person who struggles to connect with and trust people in general. Because of this, I don’t like the idea of having sex with someone who I don’t feel emotionally safe with. But, despite this, I still have plenty of experience with feeling sexually attracted to celebrities and hot strangers. Due to this, I am definitely not demisexual.

Not wanting to have sex with people I’m not bonded with is an intention/belief.

Not having sexual attraction to a person one is not bonded with is an innate feeling.

So, yes, demisexuality does exist. It’s an actual sexuality, not just a practice.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

Hey, like, writers, content creators, and pretty much everyone, I have something I wanna discuss - sex demon terminology.

Hear me out, okay? Generally people use the terms “succubus” and “incubus” to determine whether this hypothetical sex demon is female or male. Two problems with this:

Enforces gender binary (what would we call a genderless sex demon??)

The Latin roots roots have kinda misogynistic implications

If you didn’t know, in Latin, “succu-” means being under someone else’s power (e.g. “succumb”). “Incu-” means being the one in power (e.g. “incumbent”).

See what I mean? Not quite fair to imply that women should inherently be controlled.

Instead, the words “succubus” and “incubus” should refer to the power role they have rather than gender.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

When you tell a teacher to say “they” instead of “he/she”, so the teacher says “he/she/they”

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

Okokok... so this is kinda weird, but I don’t like people seeing my hair the way it is now because it just feels wrong? And it feels especially wrong around other queer people? MP Like, I still have a Gay Aesthetic and everything, but it’s the wrong Gay Aesthetic, it’s not my Gay Aesthetic.

[goodbye-friends36293-deactivate]

Gender abolition, but make it:

clothes sorted by body shape and style, instead of gender

removing unnecessary gender markers from non-medical documents like a driver's license

genderless bathrooms where the stalls have floor-to-ceiling walls for privacy

abolishing gendered toys, colors, professions, hobbies, etc.

they/them as the default if you don't know someone

And NOT:

trans and non-binary people being barred from identifying with and expressing their gender

[tenderlesbian-deactivated201807]

Why do you hate cishet people so much

whats not to hate

[tenderlesbian-deactivated201807]

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[tenderlesbian-deactivated201807]

what in the goddamn world

[mosticonicposts]

certified iconic post

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

Ohhhhh myyyy goddddd

[1million]

if you still agree with the concept that bi ppl in different gender relationships don’t need love and support and celebration u guys should rly just block me lol i’m serious. its biphobia to not want to give us support just bc of the relationships we enter and this is NOT debatable.

the fact that i’ve seen MANY posts on here telling bi people to just stop talking about their different gender relationships and to keep saying that they don’t need support is so astounding to me. seeing all this shit everywhere from fellow community members is the exact reason i myself, and many others actually struggled to accept our different gender attraction more than our same gender attraction, but obviously none of you talk to bisexuals enough to even realize that.

just...for the love of god, listen to us and our experiences for once. our identities should not only be given value to you when we are in same gender relationships, full stop.

[1million]

this shit. this is exactly what i’m talking about. seeing this stuff on my dash, im absolutely convinced that none of you have any understanding or nuance whatsoever for what being bi is actually like.

this was a mutual of mine who i promptly blocked after seeing this kind of shit. and if you are in agreeance with its message, i kindly ask you to leave my page and never fuckin come back.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

It doesn’t matter if you’re a straight person who doesn’t want to see bisexual people be “gay” or a gay person who doesn’t want to see bisexual people be “straight”, either way, you’re refusing to accept our existence and our reality.

You do not get to dictate someone else’s attraction. Gay people generally know what it feels like to be told that their attraction is wrong, so it gives them no right to turn around and say that same thing about bisexuals

[iridessence]

I really like the soft flowery look but I also really wanna shave my head again and I don’t know if it will fit. What do you think?

I think it can! It would also be a good time to experiment with hats and accessories or even painting your head/hair. 🌸

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

I just wanna say that having a shaved head is a perfect excuse to wear flower crowns more often. I got my head buzzed recently and I feel like having flowers fits my aesthetic even more than it used to

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

Sorry, not sorry, but I hate it when people say that they “want to be on the ‘right side’ of history.”

All I hear when people say that is: “I don’t have my own moral compass, and being perceived as right is more important than actually doing the right thing.”

[maskysgirlfriendmoved-deactivat]

yall gotta be nicer about m/f  bc sometimes u guys like the blandest gay sutff ive ever seen in my life

[maskysgirlfriendmoved-deactivat]

gonna add onto this you all gotta stop acting like m/f is just cishet when bisexual people exist and straight trans people exist.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

!!!!!!!

[every-kiss-begins-with-potassium]

a) perfect example of people discrediting clever idea & intelligence of a female due to her appearance, and b) all these people wouldn’t have noticed her kit, which was her goal in the first place

[rnightiest]

Lol “she also wears sexy clothing to distract people from the bulky shoes” She’s a genius, really

[destinedforthewest]

^^^^^

[kerryrenaissance]

“I will distract men with my boobs.”

Men: are distracted by her boobs.

[datvtdnded-deactivated20191123]

Thats SexyCyborg! She posted on reddit not all that long ago and she’s super proud of her boobs. She even has a little 3d printed doll made of her that she was stoked on. She’s also smart as fuck. I mean, some of those people are mediocre at best for going for the obvious go-to joke, but whatev.

She’s also the same person that made that light-up skirt a while ago.

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

I love this woman and I love the fact that the dudes here literally proved her point for her

[elegantmess-southernbelle]

This woman needs a Marvel heroine based on her. I want to see her hack the Iron Man suit.

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

OH MY GOSH YES

[godslefttit]

Her: i dress sexy as a distraction from my literal hacking equipment on my feet

Men: boobsboobsboobsboobsboo—

Her:

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

Men: Drooling over her boobs

Me, an intellectual: drooling over the fact that she’s super good at science

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

Makeup is self expression until you’re using it to cover your skin, hide your acne scars, ‘fix’ your brows.

It’s self expression until it becomes a necessity in your life and you can’t go outside without it.

Turquoise eyelashes can be self expression. Concealer is not.

Glittery, colorful highlighter can be self expression. Contour is not.

Thickly winged eyeliner can be self expression. Natural lipstick is not.

Nothing is wrong with the latter mentioned things. The problem is the compulsion to wear them every single day. It’s the perspective that one’s face without makeup is their “bad face” and their face with makeup is their “good face”.

You shouldn’t feel guilty for doing these things, but at least consider them the next time you put on makeup.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

I’m so fuckin tired of the idea of gender. It’s such a scam smh. The world is making me feel like I gotta identify as something, but why should I do that if it doesn’t even make sense to me?

I identify with the experience of growing up as a girl and being “treated like a girl” for my entire life, but I’ve come to the conclusion the word “girl” is pretty meaningless and is based on societal roles and expectations that shouldn’t exist.

Different people view gender differently, and that’s okay. It’s an intricate cultural phenomenon that’s deeply rooted in much of our society as we know it, so it’s not like it’s something we can just get rid of.

To do that, we’d first have to untangle it from so many other aspects of culture that it is tightly tied to, and not only is that super difficult, a lot of people don’t understand how to untangle it from anything at all, much less from themselves.

Although coming to this conclusion was a relief because I was finally able to understand something that I’d been agonizing about for a while, it brought up a few issues.

How am I supposed to identify myself if I don’t even consider gender a relevant or necessary part of my identity?

What do I tell other people?

How do I separate myself from the idea of gender without feeling like I’m betraying the oppression I experience as someone who is socially viewed as a girl?

“Girl” isn’t a term I hate, because it doesn’t mean anything. What I hate is the standards and expectations and prejudice that comes with it. But wanting to get rid of those things doesn’t mean I’m not a girl.

If gender isn’t defined by sex, but also isn’t defined by appearance, presentation, or stereotypes, then what does define it?

To be handed the idea of gender and then be told to pick the one I like best, feels to me like being handed a script with a list of roles for a play I never asked to be in.

[imalreadydashingthroughtheno]

[queerasfact]

This week we have our second Queer as Fiction episode on 1996 comedy film The Birdcage, directed by Mike Nichols.

For our second episode of Queer as Fiction, we’ll be talking about Mike Nichols’ 1996 comedy film ‘The Birdcage’. Join us as we discuss gender performance, gay fatherhood and unnecessary sequels.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

If like to share that the original one is a French movie from the 1970s! It’s excellently funny, and while a bit stereotypical, is still a great watch. The French title is La Cage aux Folles.

I recommend seeing this version, too, I liked it better than the remake

[gendernihilistanarchocommunist]

-support trans women who have pattern baldness and can’t wear their hair in “feminine” styles.

-support trans women who have sensitive skin and can’t shave every day.

-support trans women who have pigment allergies and can’t wear tons of makeup.

-support trans women who have blood disorders and other health problems that make surgery a preventively high risk.

-also, support trans women who do not have these problems but still do not feel obligated to live up to your cissexist standards of femininity.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

If cis women shouldn’t have to adhere to these ridiculous standards, then trans women shouldn’t have to either.

[bubble-bisexuali-tea]

A Big Gay Aesthetic

wearing a stiff/thick fabric (usually denim, also corduroy, canvas, etc.) jacket and covering it with pins/patches.