I'm currently experiencing that apparently Canon Event^TM that happens in your twenties where I'm haplessly wondering how in the world I'll possibly find the right person for me.
I'll admit: I don't quite want a white picket fence, but I come pretty close. I do want to find a girl, fall hopelessly in love, marry her, settle down, have some kids, and be together forever. That's what I want. Here's the thing, though:
I'm butch. Butch4femme. Like, I wear boxers and sports-bras and I honestly would probably wear a binder if it didn't hurt my back. I use she/her pronouns (I guess?) but I experience my gender as more "butch" than "girl." I prefer handsome to pretty.
HOWEVER, my interests are not traditionally masculine. I write poetry. I love art and theatre and dance. I'm not athletic, which is something people seem to expect from masculine people. I work out, but not that often.
I'm also a nerd. Like, a really, really big nerd. About all of my poetry stuff, but also Star Trek and Xena and The X-Files, and these things are really important to me! They make me so happy! And I don't want to feel self-conscious or weird about that- these are things that I want to share with someone who I love.
I'm also a Christian? I'm irreverent about it- it's something I'm casual with. I mention it because it's something that makes me feel good, and I don't want to feel embarrassed or guilty about something that doesn't hurt anyone. I'm a leftist, and I also believe in God. It brings me comfort. I don't need my partner to have a religion, but I need them to not be uncomfortable with mine.
I want to have kids! I don't want to carry them myself, but I want to have kids and a family.
I'm a nerdy, artsy, not-athletic butch, who likes going to Church, going to ComicCon, and putting on plays. And I don't think this is too much to ask for, but I want to fall in love with someone, and I want to feel like they're actually attracted to me? And at the moment, I just can't imagine who in the world that would be.
I know I'm only 21. I got out of my first real relationship about a month ago. Advice from those with more experience is very appreciated <3
This butchfemme classified thing is amazing. One of the suggested pieces of information to put in an ad is "general location," for people seeking irl connections. How general does it have to be? Like, saying a specific state seems to be common in ads so far, but what about a general area within a state? For example, "Northeast [insert state here]," would that kind of thing be too specific? Great work setting this up, I think it's really cool and I hope it brings people together :)
Hi! Im 22 and from Oregon I love animals and going on walk or swimming also anything spooky! Halloween is my favorite holiday!! I also love reading! Im looking for friends!♡♡
That's so cool!! It sucks that I go back to school in MA so soon (the 30th). I also love Halloween and spooky things :))
Open to all butches and femmes looking for friendship, romance, or no-strings fun! Run by Alex @bumble-bee-butch
Keep your submissions to ~30 words in order to fit the "vintage classified ad" vibe :))
Do whatever you want, but a solid framework is: age, general location (if looking for IRL connections), a short description of yourself, and a short description of what you're looking for.
Perhaps the community of “butchfemme twitter” will possibly crucify me for these words but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a butch or stud or femme to desire a more traditional lifestyle. For a femme to possibly just want to stay home and take care of a home, to be a wife, to become a mother. To put on their makeup meticulously for their partner and dress in their most favorite pieces of clothing for them. To nurture and love. And I don’t think there’s anything fucked up about a butch or stud wanting to go to work everyday and come home to their beautiful wife, to put their feet up and rant about their day. To provide. To protect. To also love. I think that we as queer people are quite literally thrust into the world expected to subvert exceptions(especially people who ascribe to the butchfemme dynamic) due to the fact that our identities and genders are so goddamn political in the first place. To simply want and crave peace, a more traditional life and future, there’s not a thing wrong with that. Maybe I do just wanna dress for my butch and put his favourite flowers in my hair. To be the femme hauswife and mummy little Bella always wanted to be when she played with her Barbies. Xx
correct me if i’m wrong, but i don’t get the posts thatre like “remember to give your butch princess treatment” and “butches can wear dresses too!” like yes, if they want to they can, but a HUGE part of butch culture is being masculine and non feminine?… that’s like, textbook definition butch.. and butches are typically pressured into being feminine, they’re well aware they can be feminine if they want to. idk it just seems like people get masc and butch confused. if im wrong lmk!!
Just a butch helping out the local community theatre youth program by filling in as Smee (the mustache was a spur of the moment decision, but I don’t hate it)
the combination butch jeans and carabiner and keys and visible boxers and white or black tee and flannel does really truly affect me. affects me in a very serious way. in a way that my heart beats a lot and my head spins with absolute heart eyes. keys dangling while walking and shirt bunching up around their sides absolutely in love in a way that i may not be able to explain
I know this has been said before, but as a butch (especially as one who doesn't have a bodybuilder physique), I'm always floored when I hear that people think I might be physically attractive.
