Aug 19, 2025
Some women will never want children in their life in any meaningful capacity. They don't want to give birth. They don't want to adopt. They don't want to be the fun auntie. They don't want to be a godmother. They don't want to work in a field with children. They will never change a child's diaper and don't believe their lack of childcare skills is a problem that needs fixing, because childcare is not a crucial part of the human experience, with billions of people on the planet. They go about their day while only seeing kids out at the grocery store or at the park, and nothing is missing from their lives.
The refusal to accept this is driving a global right-wing backlash movement.
#I think more people need to go to lots of therapy before deciding to have kids.#and truly think about the repercussions that things like generational trauma#a father leaving#et cetera#can have on a child that you are bringing into the world against their will#I have the same rage in me that my father does#and that scares the hell out of me because I was scared of my mom in a not super healthy way but an average way#I still to this day am terrified of my dad because my dad never spanked me but his fury and his yelling was traumatizing#and the way he would start screaming over NOTHING#I always knew this about myself in the back of my mind but didn’t really unpack this and the damage it did to me until I was nearly 30#I still cry when people yell at me to this day#I’m in my thirties and still unpacking shit that happened when I was 12#when I was 19#I still have to resist the urge to hit my small children cousins when they are just being kids#I am very against hitting kids I am terrified that if I had a child#they would be partaking in normal child behavior and it would trigger that rage in me#the rage I am so good at keeping in check but press the right button and…#i have a handle on my mental health these days but I still get uncontrollable panic attacks here and there#the thought of having one of those while being responsible for another human life…#the thought of passing down my depression/anxiety to a child#the thought of something happening and then my child having to struggle with BPD like me#I used to dream of having kids but I don’t want that to be another human beings reality#also I can’t think of one reason people give for wanting kids that isn’t selfish#and I don’t necessarily think there’s anything inherently wrong with that but#I’m selfish in the way that I don’t want to be responsible for anyone else#not in the way that I want to pass down my family line or because I want someone to take care of me when I’m old
