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I feel like one of the biggest life hacks I've found after my twenties is that gravitating towards people who define themselves by what they love and are rather than what they oppose or aren't tends to lead to people who are more generally nice to be around

visenyaism

“girl dinner” “girl math” “i’m just a girl” okay but I am an adult I am six feet tall I am loud as fuck I take up space I am smart and capable. So are you. Why would we want to laugh at jokes where the punchline is that women aren’t? Why would we want to make jokes about being small and childish and incapable? Who do you think laughs at those jokes the loudest?

litzeaux

imo it’s not that deep, or it wasn’t that deep when these jokes were only between women, particularly friends. if i go to goodwill and spend $50 and say “haha girl math!” to my friend who also spent too much money at goodwill, it’s because i’m filled with the joy of acquired trinkets & excited to take them home with me. it doesn’t mean i don’t understand the value of $50, it doesn’t mean i didn’t have $50 to spend. it has nothing to do with girls = dumb because girls already know they’re not dumb. then men got ahold of it and now i can’t say “haha girl dinner” on a pic of diet coke and weed without some idiot accusing me of bimbofying drug addiction or whatever the fuck because they saw a meme post, assuming i have diet coke and weed for dinner every day, but have no idea i actually had a popeye’s 3-piece w/mac & cheese. and a diet coke.

visenyaism

If you spend too much money shopping and decide to blame that on you being a girl as an adult, own it. That’s what you’re doing. You are the one putting that idea out into the world and normalizing it in your social circle. You know you’re not dumb, but “‘girl math’ is when you spend too much money shopping” is not a statement that anyone can make without misogynistic social consequences. If you wanna die on this hill for your right to make sexist jokes go for it, but you are responsible for those consequences as much as anyone else.

It IS that deep, and you know it’s that deep because when you hear men make those jokes you get the appropriate level of angry. Why do YOU want to make jokes where the punchline is that the only math women can do is be bad at budgeting? What do you get out of that?