as a traumagenic system how do i stop feeling resentment towards endogenic systems who seemingly taught plurality as a fun and stress free thing
Break down the origin binary you've trapped yourself in. We're more alike than you think, and these labels are new as fuck. They were coined to try to end this exact kind of internet-brained discourse. It didn't work. People still give each other shit for existing in ways they personally dislike. People still stereotype each other instead of talking.
Does it have to be like that? What are we actually getting from shredding each other? How's it help us in a world where the average singlet doesn't give a shit because we're all the same kind of crazy in their book- where Split landed big in the box office, where people tell us that the only way they'll treat us as sane is if we conform to their standards of health? Who defines disorder? Why do they get the right to call us all mad? Why are we making our peers into harrassment targets when we've got bigger problems?
Doesn't matter the kind of system: people can play, cry, celebrate, fall apart, get together, grow, break down, get traumatized, heal, change, struggle, and whatever other "you must be real enough to ride this ride" bullshit you were taught makes a system worth respecting. The contest of "you must be this fucked up to enter" is complete bullshit, and it teaches people to perform suffering in exchange for basic decency towards them. I'd rather have a world where we're not teaching new systems that they have to be in horrible pain to be real, so if some systems get to skip believing that they're doomed to suffer and manage to have fun with their lives because of that, good for them.
No one owes you their full life story online. No one owes anyone else a daily dose of struggle-wanking just to be treated with basic respect. If someone just wants to post about the fun and silly shit, they can. They don't owe you their pain. But if you want to see it, there are plenty of folks under any label who'll talk about it and show you what you're not seeing.
How many folks using the endogenic label have you talked to with an open mind- not to argue about it, but to actually listen and understand them? Are you pigeonholing a whole class of people into a stereotype, and do you want to keep doing that?
You think they never stress about it? You think they never face shit for it? Go ask them about stress. Go ask them how they get treated for being plural "for fun" and how that affects their daily life. Go ask them what's hard. They don't owe you an answer, but I've never met a system that's totally stress free without doing a shitload of work to get there. I have met systems who manage to have fun with it anyway. I have met systems that learned to make plurality a net positive for them even with their struggles.
Doesn't matter the kind of system. We're all dealing with something. But wouldn't you rather live in a world where sharing a head is allowed to be fun sometimes?