I never knew our lives would turn out this way. I never thought that I could enjoy dominating my husband so much. I grew up with the standard view that the man should take charge and that the woman should be the good housewife and submit to her man. But the man I fell in love with and married wasn’t very dominant. In fact, he seemed happiest when I took charge in the bedroom.
He was a great lover, always concerned about my pleasure more than his own.
He shared his fantasies about being dominated by a woman and I tied him up a few times when we made love but it never went very far. We had a good sex life and tried a few different things in the bedroom but I soon got pregnant. I went into mother mode after my daughter was born and the sex died off somewhat.
After a couple of years it picked up again when my sex drive increased but I had no interest in anything kinky. My husband ensured that I was properly pleasured and it was rare indeed for me to not achieve orgasm usually having two or three each time we made love. He never tried to force his kinky fantasies on me and rarely mentioning them. Until recently this was our routine.
Then my daughter moved off to college and suddenly we were alone with the house to ourselves. I had devoted the last 18 years to raising her and now that she was gone I was lost and didn’t know what to do with myself. After being out of the workforce for so long and being in my late 40’s, I had no interest in trying to find a job. We were quite comfortable living on my husband’s salary.
I felt a strong need to nurture someone now that my daughter didn’t need me anymore and so I decided to devote myself to my husband’s needs. At this time I started to get more sleep and had a lot more energy. As a result my sex drive increased substantially.
I loved the feel of his erection deep inside me but as i have gotten older, his tongue on my clit was what I mostly enjoyed. My orgasms were so powerful when he licked me down there and he could give me a rolling orgasm that seemed to last forever that way. When I fantasized about sex it was always his mouth that I dreamed of and ached for.
He was always giving me what I needed but I felt like I never returned the favor. I started thinking about the fantasies that he had that I never fulfilled. It was time to pay him back for all of the pleasure he had given and rarely taken for himself over the years. It was his turn to really enjoy sex. It was time to get kinky for him.
My husband had a penchant for bondage that i didn’t really understand. The few times I did tie him up in the past, his erection was usually harder then. I didn’t understand why he liked it though. I decided to ask him about it.
One night he had just finished licking me off for the second time when I asked him, “Honey, why did you use to like being tied up? What pleasure did it give you?”
He was quite surprised at the question. I think he had given up hope years ago that I would show any interest in anything like this. It was totally out of the blue.
He thought for a moment then answered. “Well, I guess it makes me feel very wanted. Like something precious to you. It makes me feel valuable. People tend to lock up their most valuable possessions so they will be there for them. I also have always loved the idea of being controlled by a woman. Especially physical control. I guess it’s kind of like a role reversal. The man traditionally is in control of the household and makes the rules. I like the idea of it being the other way around.”
I was quite surprised at the answer. I could understand the role reversal aspect to some degree, but never would have guessed about making him feel valuable. People locked up their valuables, so if you locked him up it made him feel valuable. Wow. It actually made sense to me. He was the most valuable thing in my life and I wanted him to feel that way.
“So Honey, you still feel that way? You still like the idea of me taking control of you and making the rules? If I chained you up would you feel that you are precious to me?”
He told me that it was just as exciting now as it was back then for him. I encouraged him to tell me more. I noticed that just talking about it made him get harder than he already was. I gave him a few gentle strokes, teasing him and asked how much control he would like me to have over him.
“Well you could control me as much or as little as you like Dear. It wouldn’t be right for me to tell you how I want it. The whole idea is for you to get what you want out of it and for me to accept and adapt to your needs. There is no wrong way to do it unless your needs aren’t being met. The right way is to always, always put your own wants and needs first.”
I thought about what he said for a few weeks and then I decided I was going to do this. I liked the idea of pushing his fantasies on him. This blog is about sharing information from the experience I gained over the last few years since I began dominating my husband. It has been a wild, fun and exciting ride for both of us.
It started with me just wanting to please him for a change and to my surprise I enjoy this lifestyle just as much as him. We have always had a close and intimate relationship, but now it’s much better than ever. We now live for each others’ needs and pleasure.
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