i've seen someone say with full confidence that drawing dream taller than tommy is just to exaggerate the exile dynamic. like. short people can still be abusers too? i dont know what they thought they were doing with that one
from a Visual design perspective showing one character Above another can emphasize the power dynamic between each other, but that's about Framing.
height itself is Neutral, it's the visual language being used that's important. where the characters are in the frame, the lighting and body language being used, paneling (if we're talking about a comic). a character that's smaller than another can Easily have the larger presence than their taller counterpart if that's the intention the artist wants to convey.
a really good example of this is actually c!wilbur during the custody battle while quackity was showing him and tommy around las nevadas. during that argument wilbur repeatedly put blocks down to raise himself up above quackity and tommy, even trying to get tommy Not to copy him. having that Physical Height above them gave him that sense of power and control that he wanted to sway tommy to his side. it's not the fact that he's naturally taller than them that gave that sense of power (though he Is taller than both of them) it was that Intentionality of him being raised above them, it's Visual Framing in the terms of minecraft (and really clever at that).
no, what dream apologists are upset about is the fact that tommy being shorter than dream emphasizes their Age. which doesn't inherently mean that one character has power over another, but it's a fact that heavily plays into the dynamic of abuse between them (with dream acting as an authority figure over tommy and exaggerating how much he talks to him like a child during said abuse). (and just to cover my bases, here's a post where I provide sources for and extensively talk about the nature of dream's abuse of tommy, and how it Is specifically child abuse [Link])
c!dream apologists spent Months (at least over half a year from what I remember) trying to argue that tommy and tubbo Outright Were Not Canonically Teenagers specifically because the idea that they were Made Them Uncomfortable. because an adult treating teenagers the way that dream has treated tommy and tubbo is unsettling.
people who weren't willing to admit that dream's actions were abusive Still found themselves hitting the end of their own morality when actively confronted with that age gap, so they instead pretended that it wasn't there and got Angry at people for depicting what was plainly canon.
and when it became too apparent that tommy and tubbo were supposed to be teenagers textually (tommy's 17th birthday stream, characters calling tommy a child in serious lore, when it was brought to light that the original terms of tommy's sentence during his trial was that it'd last until he turned 18), they did everything in their power to try to Minimize That Fact.
such as insisting that dream's abuse of tommy Couldn't be specifically child abuse (either because tommy himself was a teenager or because dream wasn't tommy's immediate family, neither of which negates it being child abuse), Or getting angry about fandom trends that remind them of tommy's age (things that make tommy look soft or young).
that's why you see anger about c!tommy being short or wearing sweaters or hair clips or flowers. it's not that those things are Bad, it's that they remind them that tommy Is a teenager, which actually Does play into the power dynamics between him and dream. but if they admit that then it makes it much easier to dismiss what they're saying as exactly what it is: a pointless hissy fit.