becoming a dreamgirl

level up diary. SGF-in-training. WOC. sideblog.

[fenchy]

Ariish Wol For MUGLER Fall Winter 2021

[ourinsatiablesoulss]

© Emmanuelle Koffi

[kill2love]

You attract what you are and you create what you think about. Act like the person you want to become. Think like the person you want to become. Nothing changes in your life unless you make the decision and commitment to change it. Hold an image in your mind of how you wish to see yourself living. Visualize it everyday and you will unconsciously start to do things that will move you towards that goal.

[evermore-fashion]

Favourite Designs: Poem Bangkok ‘Daily Glam’ Chapter 8 Timeless Collection 

[cyberglittter]

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Inner Healing Prompts; Reflecting on dependency on someone other than yourself

“What is the unmet need I want this person to meet”? (Validation, comfort, love, etc.)

“If I were to look at this person as a solution to my problem, what solution would they be offering”. (Soothing anxiety, making me feel safe, providing comfort, love, approval that I am worthy, etc.)

“Who from my past, does this person remind me of?” (caregiver, sibling, past partner.)

“If I’m being radically honest with myself, what fears or insecurities are coming up in me”? (too much, not enough, etc.)

“How can I begin to meet this internal need in another way, without relying on this person”.

The next time I’m feeling triggered or anxious, who can I call instead of my x?

The next time I’m feeling triggered or anxious and no one is around, how can I self-soothe?

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[colabottlebaby]

Valentino 110MM Panther Leather Boots $1,495.00  

[twixnmix]

Diana Ross photographed by Wallace Seawell, 1969.

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April wallpapers😌 feat. my first attempt at using the Canva app

[sk-lumen]

Elegance is about simplicity and timelessness. It is about being unapologetically authentic, with no concern to following any trends or social conventions of beauty. It is about carrying yourself with confidence regardless of what you are wearing or how you look; it’s not about possessions or material wealth. It’s the grace of one’s heart, a lovely poise, and integrity. It does not seek to boast or demand attention to itself, because it knows its own high value.

[cafeaulaitbabe]

Setting the Tone for my Day

I’ve been transitioning away from a full-out “morning routine” to simply incorporating a couple of habits that I like to do every day, as I can get easily overwhelmed and discouraged when I miss a couple of steps in my planned routine. I get so inspired seeing morning routines from people I admire, but it’s not always realistic for my current lifestyle. These are the things that turn me from Hot Mess Central ™ after I wake up, into my cute self ready for the day:

Wash my face and brush my teeth: Sometimes low moods can make this seem impossible, but I always feel better about the day when I take time to look after myself- whether I do the full 8-step routine or simply cleanse and splash some cold water on my face- and it’s a simple but important way to flex my discipline muscles

Check my bank accounts: I love the Mint app from Intuit that keeps all my accounts in one place, and I can quickly see how much I have left in my monthly budget (plus it’s so motivating whenever I make a car payment or get some extra income!) I used to have terrible anxiety around looking at my bank account (broke college student days, anyone?) but having a concrete plan and seeing the decisions I’m making pay off helps rewrite that story in my head.

Get some fresh air: Either by opening my windows or heading outside, I make sure to air out the house (as myself) as early as I can- feeling that breeze wakes me up better than any cup of coffee, and in the evenings I come home to a room that smells like sunshine and fresh plants

Pick a daily journal prompt: Even if I don’t write anything right then, having an intention for my day always makes me more aware of my thoughts and habits. Plus, I can organize my thoughts during slow points at work- lately I’ve been letting my mind wander into more interesting and dreamy places…

Taking moments for myself: My friend said to me recently, “If you feel guilty while resting, then you’re not resting at all”- exactly what I needed to hear. I either use a self-care card deck to select an activity, or I’ll read one of my current books (phone free!) Either way, I make sure to take some quiet time for myself in the morning doing something I enjoy…guilt-free. (This has also been the best incentive for waking up early)

💙Whatever chaos the other 20+ hours may bring, these tiny habits help me feel like I can handle it💙

[firstgrave]

reasons to live

[blk-vinluxee]

Flower Child 🌸

Instagram: @annemarie.akin

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Effortless & Elegant

[theambitiouswoman]

you’re going to get yourself where you want to be.

[cafeaulaitbabe]

Day 1 of my April Journal Challenge: Goal Setting and Morning Routines

Throughout March, I’ve been feeling a bit like I’m living the same day over and over- exhausted, procrastinating, inconsistent about health and self-care, needy, etc…all things that leave me feeling drained and gloomy.

So for the next month (and hopefully longer) I’m setting myself a challenge to engage more deeply with the abundance and opulence that’s available all around me, if I only have the confidence and discipline to grab it!

For me, the easiest way to tune into my higher self is through physical connection and self-reflection. That means spoiling myself with experiences (not material goods!), taking time to tend to my body and home, and thinking through a clear vision of my future.

By the end of April, I will:

- Write 30 journal entries: This will give me a chance to incorporate more of my shadow work practice, get a better idea of my style, and enhance my written communication skills

- Workout at least 20 times: I’ve been majorly slacking on hitting the gym, but with warmer weather and my friend doing a workout challenge with me, I’m excited to get back to my active self

- Practice a consistent morning routine: Most importantly, waking up at the same time every day and getting mentally ready for the day (and physically cute!) which includes: full skincare routine, being hydrated ASAP, and staying phone-free before work.

🌠When I take care of myself, I attract everyone and everything I want- time to shift back into princess mode🌠

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A pink satin puff top from Rasario.