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long time no skts

#sakusa kiyoomi #miya atsumu #sakuatsu

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As someone who took etiquette lessons, politeness is an incredibly effective tool for disarming bigots. You can either force them to reconsider their words/actions by directly and calmly confronting their behavior (by using the rules of society in your favor), or you can dip entirely while they appear to be in the wrong.

Both options are great.

Because the thing is, when bigots pick fights, they are 100% counting on you to get louder than them. Or meaner. They want you to react emotionally and provide fodder for their 'You're Too Emotionally Immature To Understand' cannon.

What they aren't expecting you to do is say one of the following phrases in a polite, concerned tone:

Are you okay?

That's not the kind of language I was raised to use with others.

Do you need a moment to think on why that wasn't acceptable?

This is no way to engage in intelligent conversation. Please try that again in a kinder tone if you'd like this to continue. (I really like this one because it lets you turn their public-shame rhetoric around)

For those of you who'd are spiteful and/or dealing with Fundamentalists/Evangelicals/generally shitty Christians:

What's happening in your life to cause you this much anger? I can't imagine hurting so badly that I need to hurt other people.

Who taught you it was acceptable to treat other people this way? Certainly not the Jesus I remember.

Whatever happened to 'judge not lest ye be judged'?

If I talked like that in front of my parents or grandparents I would be ashamed.

I think there's something you need to pray on before we try and have this conversation.

And my all time favorite:

"It sounds to me like there are some seriously dark and angry forces at work in your heart."

(Nothing stops a Christian bigot in their tracks faster than implying the Devil is causing their bigotry. But you MUST be calm, polite, and gentle with your tone and wording. It is absolutely fair to twist the rules and play them at their own game, but you gotta play hard.)

TLDR: It's much faster to use etiquette, politeness, and rhetoric reversal when eviscerating idiots online and in person, because they aren't expecting you to weaponize their behaviors back in their direction. Don't get angry, get spitefully polite! :)

themythicalcodfish

I once witnessed a very soft-spoken young Southern man take a hateful older woman’s hands gently in his and say “Sister, I am so sorry that the Devil has carved a home for hatred in your heart. I’ll pray for you.”

It was glorious.

1863-project

This works with all sorts of inappropriate behavior. I work as the archivist in a public library, so I end up on the reference desk a lot, and sometimes patrons will say or do things that aren't exactly appropriate. When patrons try to hit on me, I put on a teacher voice and calmly ask, "Is that an appropriate question to ask someone at work?" and it shuts them down immediately.

This sort of thing always does the trick.

kkumri

first service ace! 👶🏻✨

calicocalipso

The best art

#haikyuu!!#sakusa kiyoomi #sakuatsu #sakusa x atsumu

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calicocalipso

I’m just tired

kageymaspoiledmilk

Sakusa: You have to apologize to them Atsumu. Atsumu: Fine! But I must warn you that this might make me a better, nicer person and that is NOT the person you fell in love with!

tendou-satori-chocolatier

*every sakuatsu fanfic to ever exist*

Atsumu: wait you like me? for my personality?

Sakusa: i know, i was surprised too

calicocalipso

It doesn't make us love them less

#haikyuu #sakuatsu

meleth03

Atsumu: do you ever feel like we should kiss?

Kiyoomi: …

Atsumu: I feel like we should kiss.

Meian: I’m sorry, Miya, is our practice interrupting your sad attempts at flirting? Do you need the rest of us to leave?

calicocalipso

Meian : *no fucks savage*

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sailorbrazil

what's your best meme Claudia?? I wanna see what you got.

imaginingfromtheblock

does the mortifying ordeal of being known guy know that his paragraph from a six year old NYT opinion piece about emailing pictures of goats to coworkers has become God Tier Tumblr Gospel ? like does he KNOW though

imaginingfromtheblock

WOW thank you @inkstrangle for bringing it to my attention that as of last August, which is to say the chronological peak of the “mortifying ordeal” meme on tumblr, tim kreider absolutely DOES know and in fact wrote an entire brilliant essay reflecting on the phenomenon:

But what I wish I could tell all those children of the internet, holed up in their rooms, isolated online, is that they can only imagine the worst of relationships: they think that what another person will learn about them is what they see in themselves — the squirming, icky, insecure mess inside. They don’t know yet that the ways in which they’re secretly screwed up and repulsive are boringly ordinary. The issue isn’t that you’ll be despised for who you really are — that, as a friend and I used to say about girls we were dating, “she’ll realize.” It’s scarier than that: it’s that you lose control over who you are. Other people get to decide. And it may turn out that you’re not who you thought you were.

As an artist, you don’t get to decide why people love your work. […] I would describe my reaction to seeing my writing reanimated as meme as “nonplussed,” maybe “bemused.” It always does some slight violence to a writer’s intentions to yank a sentence out of its context and present it as if it were a complete, isolated thought, like a maxim or commandment. I am not in the business of pretending to be in possession of any wisdom, or of telling other people what to do: this is the realm of self-help and advice writers — in other words, of charlatans. Part of me worries it’s an indictment of my prose that it should lend itself so well to Tumblr memes, the digital equivalent of needlepoint samplers. […]

But the things people love about you aren’t necessarily the things you want to be loved for. They decide they like you for reasons completely outside your control, of which you’re often not even conscious: it’s certainly not because of the big act you put on, all the charm and anecdotes you’ve calculated for effect. (And if your act does fool someone, it only makes you feel like a successful fraud, and harbor some secret contempt for them — the contempt of a con artist for his mark — plus now you’re condemned to keep up that act forever, lest she Realize.) My last girlfriend found my flaws, the things that annoy even me about me, amusing. When you break up with someone, you don’t just lose them, but a version of yourself. You don’t even get to know what your children will remember you for; it probably won’t be what you thought were the important moments. […]

As The Velveteen Rabbit teaches, we don’t become fully real except in other people’s eyes, and in their affections. At some point you have to accept that other people’s perceptions of you are as valid as (and probably a lot more objective than) your own.

calicocalipso

Like damn wow

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RESERVATION DOGS (2021 - ) — 1.01 F*ckin’ Rez Dogs

witkneec

My best friend in the world was on this. He is an actor but also runs the art dept for features and has also worked as an AD and a PA. But I’m so so so excited for him for this- my gay ass BFF was just cast as the ghost of General Custer on this motherfucker and will be acting opposite this talented motherfucker.

The series is written by and cast with a 100% indigenous cast and is hilarious and they also film exclusively in OK on a local reservation. The cast is going to blow up- the youngest booked a Spielberg film when they were at Tribeca- but I am so profoundly impressed by the male lead and how much love was put into this little series and if you’re looking for your next “prestige” dramedy, I urge you to watch it. It’s pretty fucking wonderful, I have to say.

Tldr- watch Reservation Dogs- you’ll love it.

jackscarab

Reservation Dogs is a comedy television series created by Sterlin Harjo and Taika Waititi. It is a notable first in that it features all Indigenous writers and directors, along with an almost entirely-Indigenous American cast and production team. It is also the first series to be shot entirely in Oklahoma. The series premiered on August 9, 2021 on FX on Hulu.

jennysparksandtheauthority

Understanding the Johansson/Disney lawsuit thanks to Twitter wisdom…

Here’s part of Disney’s statement…

Yes. They’re excusing a breach of contract over the pandemic. Oh. So righteous.

And because context is everything…

Some say Johansson made a dick move because Disney is “the hands that feeds her”. I wonder if they’d say the same thing if this was Tom Cruise or Robert Downey Jr or some MAN of the likes.

Last, but not least:

I say: good for her. Go after the mouse. Let it all burn if you have to.

✨Slay✨

tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva

sometimes I think about how al capone donated to charity in an attempt to improve his image

tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva

this is how I see 'philanthropic' billionaires today

elidyce

This is very unfair to Al Capone, who donated a much higher percentage of his income than any billionaire ever and was reputedly a good tipper.

prokopetz

Apple propaganda notwithstanding, the reason tower PCs are big isn’t because they’re outdated. The reason tower PCs are so bulky is because they’re designed to be user serviceable. The case has lots of open space so your big, meaty hands can easily access all of the components, and everything is secured with friction-fit tabs and standard machine screws to minimise the need for specialised tools. A properly laid out tower PC is fully serviceable with a single Phillips-head screwdriver and no greater manual skill than your average Lego playset – heck, for some of the more modern case layouts you don’t even need the screwdriver, unless you’re performing major surgery like a full motherboard replacement.

Like, think about who benefits from convincing you that a fully modular computing device that can be serviced and repaired with your bare hands and minimal technical skill is unfashionable.