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STEPS TOWARD A MORE MEANINGFUL LIFE:

Choose to engage deeply with something that matters to you.

Do one thing today that aligns with your core values.

Take risks that move you closer to your ideal life.

Be honest with yourself and ask: what’s my story?

Write about the life you want to live and the person you want to become. It helps you see what you really want, stay focused on what matters, and gives you some ideas to follow.

Help others. Meaning often grows through service.

Create your own meaningful rituals.

Use therapy approaches like logo therapy or ACT.

Create social anchors and identity projects that ground you in community and make you feel connected.

Leave space for discovery.

Pay attention to your body. It’s the foundation of your mind.

Don’t ruminate on “What is my purpose?” Instead ask: “What has felt meaningful in the past that I can cultivate today?” “What am I drawn to explore right now that feels alive and real to me?”

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[theriverbeyond]

honestly getting cozy in bed is one of the top experiences one can have on this green earth

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JUNE 2026 GRATITUDE:

My father called to wish me a happy Children’s Day ❤️ I miss him

Happy Pride Month, everybody! The best month of the year 🌈

It’s also the strawberries season and I love strawberries!!! 🍓

The smell of freshly cut grass and finding four-leaf clovers 🍀

Watching cute animals on the internet to calm myself down 🧘‍♀️

My lovely, stinky dog -> I’m thankful for him every literally month!

That it’s warm enough to eat Snickers ice cream bars

The smell of concrete after rain on a warm summer day

Wearing glasses and earplugs outside of my home 😎

Practicing self-attunement and self-regulation

Coffee in the morning, especially the scented ones

Not being a perfectionist anymore = doing just enough

The fresh smell of Treaclemoon One Ginger Morning shower gel 🫚

Not saying yes to everything and protecting myself

MUSIC: The Chemical Brothers, Radiohead, Connie Converse, Drugstore Romeos; CINEMA: Fjord (7.5/10), Obsession (7/10), Backrooms (7/10), Apolonia (7/10), Alpha (5/10), BOOKS: , TV SERIES: Maximum Pleasure Guaranteed (6.5/10)

Remembering the legacy of Marjane Satrapi who died lately 💔

Spoiled myself with Uniqlo barrel-leg pants, deer-print Adidas Tokyo sneakers, Dramat Europe cap, and Marshall earphones

I’m grateful that even if it’s raining outside, I had my DryVent jacket and an umbrella in my locker, so I was surprisingly prepared ❤️

Eating strawberry cake and sipping coffee with grannies (for work)

Making friends on the internet and getting it to the real life too

That my new friend is going to give me a cutting of the non-toxic flowers she has at home

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[daniellasaga]

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Hate marijuana, but I like floating to this song absolutely sober

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[teaboot]

The problem with giving advice to angry and suffering people is that rather frequently the thing they need to know to improve their position is the last thing they want to hear and not something they have the capacity to internalize or accept

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Unfortunate truths you can tell people that would help if they could hear what it means and not just what it sounds like

You were the victim, and it wasn’t fair, but it’s over now. Nobody came to save you, and I’m sorry, but it’s too late for anyone to go back and do it different.

You’re suffering over something that cannot be resolved. You’re allowed to feel angry, or outraged, or betrayed, but there will eventually come a time that you don’t feel that so violently anymore, and you’re going to want to have something good left to go back to.

You can’t make anyone love you the way you need to be loved. That’s how a lot of good things end. Not with a clear sign, something blocking the road that says “do not proceed”, just a splitting of the path that’s still moving somewhat in the same direction.

You can’t fix them. Nothing you can do will fix them. And if they fix themselves, they can’t do it for you- they have to do it for themselves as well, because otherwise a day may come when they’re alone, and as long as they live, they are their only true constant. So you can support, and you can encourage, but the hardest part is up to them. And sometimes they can’t do it even with your help.

Sometimes letting go of someone feels like mourning at their funeral before they’ve died, and every time you see them after it’s like talking to a ghost that doesn’t know it’s dead. Sometimes that happens. You’ll both still wake up tomorrow anyways.

I understand that you’re afraid, and that you’re afraid for good reasons. And I understand that being brave isn’t as easy as just turning that fear off, and you would if you could in a heartbeat. But the thing is, as long as that fear is able to dictate your choices, it will have power over you. If you don’t believe you can try to fight it, if you accept that it will always be in charge, you let the frightening thing stay present in your life. It will exist as long as you stay paralyzed. And that sounds cruel, but it isn’t something anyone can fix for you.

The person you may let yourself become after experiencing the terrible thing may very well grow into a much bigger, much more terrible thing, and someday it will swallow the first terrible thing whole. And all that will be left is something far worse for someone else. And you will not be able to shrink it down by explaining where it came from, because terrible things that are dead and gone are never as terrible as terrible things that are alive right now in front of you.

No matter how much or how little I love you, I still do not have the ability to help you the way you need to be helped. I might be the helper you want, but I am not a helper you can get. If you are to be helped at all, you will need to accept that it will come from someone else.

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Every time OP dances, her parrot flies along with her. OP says she never trained it on purpose and her parrot just loves doing this naturally. Sometimes it’ll just hop right onto her face. (cr 月下郭城)

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MAY 2026 GRATITUDE:

No. 1: My Loop Switch Earplugs - they're life changing, saving hours before early overstimulation at work. I love them! 💘

It’s warm and sunny 🌞 Long weekend, here I come!

I’m happy that my friend A. found a therapeutic farm for her daughter with autism and it’s near my city. I admire A. and trough her I can learn about better places that are good for my clients 🙆‍♀️

Listening to the music all day long, accordingly to my mood

MUSIC: Eivør, Susanne Sundfør, Blood Orange, Donna Summer; BOOKS: Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques and Clinical Thinking in Psychotherapy by Jon Frederickson, CINEMA: Kieślowski’s Red (8/10), White (8/10), and Blue (8/10), Together (7/10), Static [1986] (7/10), They Will Kill You (5/10); DOCS: Znaki Pana Śliwki (7/10), Bugboy (7/10), Candidates of Death (7/10), My Word Against Mine (7.5/10), Broken English (6.5/10), Love-22-Love (7/10), La belle année (7/10), Two Mountains Weighing Down My Chest (6/10), Benita (7/10), Barbara Forever (7.5/10), A Fox Under A Pink Moon (8/10) Confessions of a Mole (6.5/10); TV SHOWS: From S04 (7/10), Widow’s Bay (7/10), Beef S02 (7/10), Euphoria Israel S01 (7/10), Margo Has Money Problems S01 (6/10), Friends & Neighbours S01-02 (6/10), Couples Therapy (8/10)

Lego Botanicals Wildflower Bouquet 💐

My books on psychodynamic therapy and clinical thinking arrived early, and I can’t wait to read them all in my spare time

We are going to Eivør’s concert with K. and have tickets already

K. has started selling more bicycles, and I’m proud of her. I’d like to buy one from her in the future, but I need to save up first 💸

Our new intern from my school is helping us develop our own workflow and define how our team will operate in the future 🖇️

I’m learning more about different types of manipulation and how to deal with them. We are not accepting it at our workplace 😠

Empowering our patients with knowledge about assertiveness, healthy communication and practicing setting boundaries at our weekly workshops. I like seeing them happy and in power 🥹

Advocating for myself and co-regulating with my people

Developed a system for getting rid of my stuff and it’s working

Bought too much stuff after throwing away my old things 😅

Hairdresser cut my fringe too short - it surprisingly looks good 💇‍♀️

The orthodontic clinic called, and I’m finally going to my first appointment before getting braces 🦷

Spiced cookie scent of Luksja’s soap - so good!

I’m finally 100% loan free and now I can do anything I want

I'm thankful for the previlige of working with all of my grannies and bonding with them, because they're a treasure!

One comment that I received from my client that “We are two souls understanding each other” ❤️ It means a lot

+610 days of learning on Duolingo without ruining my streak

My dog was ill, but gratefully got better after visiting the vet clinic

Queer alcohol ink workshops - new painting technique unlocked

Learned more about various mental ilnesses at school and how to help people who suffer from them -> it was really helpful

Millennium Docs Against Gravity festival with interesting documentaries I was able to catch up with from the the comfort of my home 🏠

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[da11ae]

i need to see atleast 798 images/day

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[wetheurban]

and if you can lose someone you never imagined losing, you can find something you never imagined having.

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life is better when you're not malnourished btw

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yes, it’s a completely different way of living and I love it!