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Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw
Sharpen the Saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have–you. It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual. Here are some examples of activities: Physical: Beneficial eating, exercising, and resting Social/Emotional: Making social and meaningful connections with others Mental: Learning, reading, writing, and teaching Spiritual: Spending time in nature, expanding spiritual self through meditation, music, art, prayer, or service
As you renew yourself in each of the four areas, you create growth and change in your life. Sharpen the Saw keeps you fresh so you can continue to practice the other six habits. You increase your capacity to produce and handle the challenges around you. Without this renewal, the body becomes weak, the mind mechanical, the emotions raw, the spirit insensitive, and the person selfish. Not a pretty picture, is it?
Feeling good doesn’t just happen. Living a life in balance means taking the necessary time to renew yourself. It’s all up to you. You can renew yourself through relaxation. Or you can totally burn yourself out by overdoing everything. You can pamper yourself mentally and spiritually. Or you can go through life oblivious to your well-being. You can experience vibrant energy. Or you can procrastinate and miss out on the benefits of good health and exercise. You can revitalize yourself and face a new day in peace and harmony. Or you can wake up in the morning full of apathy because your get-up-and-go has got-up-and-gone. Just remember that every day provides a new opportunity for renewal–a new opportunity to recharge yourself instead of hitting the wall. All it takes is the desire, knowledge, and skill.
Habit 6: Synergize
To put it simply, synergy means “two heads are better than one.” Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork, open-mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old problems. But it doesn’t just happen on its own. It’s a process, and through that process, people bring all their personal experience and expertise to the table. Together, they can produce far better results that they could individually. Synergy lets us discover jointly things we are much less likely to discover by ourselves. It is the idea that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. One plus one equals three, or six, or sixty–you name it.
When people begin to interact together genuinely, and they’re open to each other’s influence, they begin to gain new insight. The capability of inventing new approaches is increased exponentially because of differences.
Valuing differences is what really drives synergy. Do you truly value the mental, emotional, and psychological differences among people? Or do you wish everyone would just agree with you so you could all get along? Many people mistake uniformity for unity; sameness for oneness. One word–boring! Differences should be seen as strengths, not weaknesses. They add zest to life.
Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood
Communication is the most important skill in life. You spend years learning how to read and write, and years learning how to speak. But what about listening? What training have you had that enables you to listen so you really, deeply understand another human being? Probably none, right?
If you’re like most people, you probably seek first to be understood; you want to get your point across. And in doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that you’re listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words being said, but miss the meaning entirely. So why does this happen? Because most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of reference. You check what you hear against your autobiography and see how it measures up. And consequently, you decide prematurely what the other person means before he/she finishes communicating. Do any of the following sound familiar?
“Oh, I know just how you feel. I felt the same way.” “I had that same thing happen to me.” “Let me tell you what I did in a similar situation.”
Because you so often listen autobiographically, you tend to respond in one of four ways: Evaluating: You judge and then either agree or disagree. Probing: You ask questions from your own frame of reference. Advising: You give counsel, advice, and solutions to problems. Interpreting: You analyze others’ motives and behaviors based on your own experiences.
You might be saying, “Hey, now wait a minute. I’m just trying to relate to the person by drawing on my own experiences. Is that so bad?” In some situations, autobiographical responses may be appropriate, such as when another person specifically asks for help from your point of view or when there is already a very high level of trust in the relationship.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Think Win-Win isn’t about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration.
Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing–that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. There is only so much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is less for me; it’s not fair, and I’m going to make sure you don’t get anymore. We all play the game, but how much fun is it really?
Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying. We both get to eat the pie, and it tastes pretty darn good!
A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three vital character traits: Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone Many people think in terms of either/or: either you’re nice or you’re tough. Win-win requires that you be both. It is a balancing act between courage and consideration. To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that–to achieve that balance between courage and consideration–is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win-win.
Habit 3: Put First Things First
To live a more balanced existence, you have to recognize that not doing everything that comes along is okay. There’s no need to overextend yourself. All it takes is realizing that it’s all right to say no when necessary and then focus on your highest priorities.
Habit 1 says, “You’re in charge. You’re the creator.” Being proactive is about choice. Habit 2 is the first, or mental, creation. Beginning with the End in Mind is about vision. Habit 3 is the second creation, the physical creation. This habit is where Habits 1 and 2 come together. It happens day in and day out, moment-by-moment. It deals with many of the questions addressed in the field of time management. But that’s not all it’s about. Habit 3 is about life management as well–your purpose, values, roles, and priorities. What are “first things?” First things are those things you, personally, find of most worth. If you put first things first, you are organizing and managing time and events according to the personal priorities you established in Habit 2.
Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind
So, what do you want to be when you grow up? That question may appear a little trite, but think about it for a moment. Are you–right now–who you want to be, what you dreamed you’d be, doing what you always wanted to do? Be honest. Sometimes people find themselves achieving victories that are empty–successes that have come at the expense of things that were far more valuable to them. If your ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step you take gets you to the wrong place faster.
Beginning with the end in mind is based on imagination–the ability to envision in your mind what you cannot at present see with your eyes. It is based on the principle that all things are created twice. There is a mental (first) creation, and a physical (second) creation. The physical creation follows the mental, just as a building follows a blueprint. If you don’t make a conscious effort to visualize who you are and what you want in life, then you empower other people and circumstances to shape you and your life by default. It’s about connecting again with your own uniqueness and then defining the personal, moral, and ethical guidelines within which you can most happily express and fulfill yourself. Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen.
One of the best ways to incorporate Habit 2 into your life is to develop a Personal Mission Statement. It focuses on what you want to be and do. It is your plan for success. It reaffirms who you are, puts your goals in focus, and moves your ideas into the real world. Your mission statement makes you the leader of your own life. You create your own destiny and secure the future you envision.
Habit 1: Be Proactive
Your life doesn’t just “happen.” Whether you know it or not, it is carefully designed by you. The choices, after all, are yours. You choose happiness. You choose sadness. You choose decisiveness. You choose ambivalence. You choose success. You choose failure. You choose courage. You choose fear. Just remember that every moment, every situation, provides a new choice. And in doing so, it gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differently to produce more positive results.
Being proactive is about taking responsibility for your life. You can’t keep blaming everything on your parents or grandparents. Proactive people recognize that they are “response-able.” They don’t blame genetics, circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. They know they choose their behavior. Reactive people, on the other hand, are often affected by their physical environment. They find external sources to blame for their behavior. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn’t, it affects their attitude and performance, and they blame the weather. All of these external forces act as stimuli that we respond to. Between the stimulus and the response is your greatest power–you have the freedom to choose your response. One of the most important things you choose is what you say. Your language is a good indicator of how you see yourself. A proactive person uses proactive language–I can, I will, I prefer, etc. A reactive person uses reactive language–I can’t, I have to, if only. Reactive people believe they are not responsible for what they say and do–they have no choice.
Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which they have little or no control, proactive people focus their time and energy on things they can control. The problems, challenges, and opportunities we face fall into two areas–Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence.
Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about: health, children, problems at work. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern–things over which they have little or no control: the national debt, terrorism, the weather. Gaining an awareness of the areas in which we expend our energies in is a giant step in becoming proactive.
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So do you remember the guy in yesterday’s General Conference session (April 2017) who shared the ultimate “Flirt to Convert” story? The guy who was surprised the girl told him “No” because he thought he was a good catch? His name is Elder Costa. Last year he came to my stake. I’ve shared that story before, but would like to do so again in greater detail since many of you now know who he is.
When a Seventy comes to stake conference there are some extra meetings. There’s one on Saturday that’s like the kick-off mtg. It’s just the Seventy, the stake presidency, the stake clerk and me, the stake executive secretary. He had us sit in a circle by order of our rank. I thought Elder Costa would sit at the desk and we’d be in a semi-circle in front of it, but he had the stake president sit at this own desk. In front of the desk, to the stake president’s right was his first counselor, then the second counselor and the stake clerk. Everyone outranks me, so I’m last among our group, which means I was seated next to Elder Costa, who was in the first chair to the left of the stake president. He asked if everyone was married, and of course, I’m the only single person out of the six of us in the room. 😓 I was dreading this moment because so many times when someone higher up finds out I’m single I get a lecture about it being my priesthood duty and I need to be married in order to be exalted and it’s my responsibility and there are sisters who cry themselves to sleep at night. Elder Costa does none of that. I’m certain that at most of these meetings everyone in the room is married, so this was unusual. He had brought a message for the married men, and he proceeded to give it, but as I was sitting next to him, he kept patting my leg, my knee, my arm, like he was letting me know it’s alright. It’s sort of like by his actions he was conveying one message to me, even as he was speaking a different message to the rest of the room.
Afterwards I was in the clerk’s office following up on some things. From where I’m sitting, I am hearing Elder Costa & the stake president speaking (everyone else has already left the stake offices) and then I heard a door close and a voice in my ear said, “You have 15 seconds. Go talk to him.” This was odd as I thought they’d both just walked out of the stake offices. I turn around in my chair and there is Elder Costa standing framed by the office door. I walk over and thank him for how gently he treated me in the earlier meeting, and said the reason I’m not married is because I’m gay. He reacted so quickly I didn’t have a chance to say anything further. He threw his arms around me and pulled me in as he said, “Dear brother, the Church has much to offer you. And you have much to contribute to the church.” He squeezed me and then let go of the hug, and just as he took a step back, I heard the door open, it was the stake president. He’d gone to the restroom (there’s one in the stake offices) and out the door they went.
After the Priesthood Leadership Mtg, he held a mtg w/the stake presidency, high council and bishops. As they were about to begin, Elder Costa sent one of them to fetch me. He hadn’t been specific that he wanted me and the clerk to be at that discussion, but he was looking for me, and when he recognized I wasn’t at the table and sent for me. That night in the adult session, he made the point that same-gender attraction isn’t a sin, and members who speak otherwise are incorrect and unkind. It wasn’t his main point, but he included it in his presentation.
On Sunday morning, I was already in the stake offices when Elder Costa arrived with the stake president. He asked what I was working on and told the stake president he was lucky to have me, that I keep things running smoothly. During the Sunday session of stake conference, he spoke about 3 sentences of how he’s spent time with the stake president and he’s a good man and the same is true of his counselors. And to my great surprise, he followed that up by exclaiming with a big smile, “and they have the GREATEST secretary!” 😊 My phone immediately blew up with people writing to say they’ve never heard a secretary recognized like that, and people all around reaching over to pat me on the back.
At the conclusion of the Sunday session, we had a wrap up meeting. Once again we sat in order of seniority of our positions, which meant I was next to Elder Costa. He turned to me and asked where were my assistants? I said that the stake clerk has assistant clerks, that there aren’t assistant secretaries. He said that’s funny, seemed I did the work of 3 people. At the meeting’s conclusion, we kneeled and he prayed. After the prayer he sprung up, and as I was standing he put his hands on my arms and pulled me towards him. He wrapped me into a tight hug, chest on chest, his cheek against mine, and says “I love you” three times in my ear. 😇 I have tears in my eyes, it’s as if Jesus spoke those simple words to me, into my heart.
He held that hug for a little bit, then he went to shake the other’s hands. The stake clerk who’d been sitting next to me, thought we were all getting hugs, so he put his arms out for a hug as Elder Costa put forth his hand for a handshake. There was an awkward moment, and we laughed at that, so he gave them one-armed side hugs while saying it was good to meet them. 😂😂😂 They’re all looking at me, like why did he get such an embrace, but they don’t say anything because they can tell something just transpired because I was wiping aside tears. In those small and simple ways, Elder Costa ministered to me. I didn’t even know I needed to be ministered to, but it really was good for my soul. Normally the mention of homosexuality in church is accompanied with a list of restrictions. Instead, he reacted with love and kindness. I believe most LGBT Mormons know the Church’s positions in these matters and what would most benefit them are messages of hope and love. It’s unusual for us to feel accepted and wanted. I have a great deal of respect and love for Elder Costa and smiled broadly at seeing him speak in General Conference.
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