Cameron

30s | they/she/he | Aromantic Asexual Multiflux Plugender Xenby (I like a mix of they/she/he pronouns. if you have to use just one, they/them is okay.)

[heyatleastitsnotcancer]

Just a casual reminder not to comment on people's weight. It doesn't matter if they lost or gained because you don't know what's going on in their lives, if they're sick, or what. And it's not your business.

[stuckinapril]

“Do it scared” “do it alone” are all great tips, but my biggest takeaway from therapy is do it messy. This is especially true if you’re getting out of a burnout, which I experience often. Literally just do it messy. You don’t need to pick the perfect trail to walk, the perfect playlist to listen to, whatever the fuck it is. You don’t need to have a meticulous to do list and wake up at the exact time you planned and drink the exact amount of water you planned to drink. Like the biggest thing for people like me to remember is sometimes it’s okay to do it messy. Put on a random yt workout and just get it done in sweats. Do 5 minutes of a daunting task and go from there. Sometimes just getting up is a win during intense burnouts or depressive funks. Literally just do it messy.

[what-even-is-thiss]

You know even with all the World Cup hype I think I’ve only seen like one thing partnering with the US men’s soccer team. All the other stuff is just kind of advertising the idea of soccer.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Americans aren’t super duper into soccer but we do generally grasp the importance of the World Cup. Also our men’s team is generally forgettable so with these two realities put together we just end up hyping up the general idea of soccer.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Oh I forgot to mention that NBC national news did an interview with Lionel Messi to inform Americans about who he is and I haven’t seen one interview with the US men’s soccer team lol

[flowercrowncrip]

A quick guide for trans people who are using/ forced to use the disabled toilet due to transphobic bullshit in the UK when you wouldn’t otherwise need to do so. From a transgender wheelchair user who has given this topic a lot of thought.

Remember you are a guest in this space. I don’t know a single person who would rather you shit yourself or get assaulted than use the disabled toilet, but please remember that these toilets are built and designed for disabled people after a huge amount of campaigning and activism.

Don’t touch or move things you don’t need to. If you’re not familiar with how things work or why they are where they are just leave it be. The position of a bin might not mean anything to you but it could be really important to a wheelchair user who needs to change their tampon. Don’t touch things like grab rails either – while they’re fairly tough and you’re unlikely to cause any damage it’s not impossible and if you don’t touch it, you can’t break it.

Related, but important enough to have its own point: please don’t touch the red cord. Do not tie it up, do not wrap it around anything, don’t tuck it behind a bin. Don’t touch it (The only exception to this is to untie a cord that’s been tied up) If the cord doesn’t fall freely to the floor it could prevent a disabled person calling for help in an emergency. If you’re worried about accidentally pulling it there’s almost always at least one reset button in there with you. Press that and it cancels the alarm.

If possible allow other people waiting to go first. A lot of disabilities, both visible and less apparent, can cause problems with incontinence, urgency or pain that make it difficult for someone to wait to use the toilet. If there’s someone else in the queue and you are able to do so, offering to let them go first might really help them out.

If you want to get a radar key, get it from disability rights UK or give a small donation to a disability charity (again only if you’re able to). I’ve seen a couple of trans orgs giving away free radar keys and it’s unclear how they are being sourced. Knockoffs are common but only “real” RADAR keys are from Disability Rights UK and any profits help fund their charity work. Bear in mind that most disabled people also have to pay for these keys which are about £5. (Disability Rights UK say their keys are to be sold to disabled people or organisations only, this is a legal thing they have to say about VAT relief. There is no real way of following up how disabled someone who buys a radar key is because you don’t need to claim any benefits to be eligible for VAT relief and keys are a low value item that isn’t worth anyone looking into when things like adapted cars exist. Be gay, do crime, support disabled people having rights.)

Know the difference between a standard accessible toilet and a changing places toilet. Don’t use a changing places toilet if there is any other safe option. These have a different symbol and are bigger and fitted with extra equipment for severely disabled people and our carers. That equipment is more sensitive than anything you’ll find in a standard accessible toilet so if you do find yourself in one touch nothing. Especially don’t move the hoist (lifting equipment) as it can cause it to run out of power and make the whole space functionally useless if it’s not in the right space on the track. (To be fair this is an unlikely scenario as there aren’t that many of these toilets, but just in case)

Don’t suggest renaming accessible toilets. They’re primarily there for disabled people who can’t use an alternative, and disabled people will be looking for an accessible toilet. For most spaces you can look for an accessible toilet and have a good chance of finding a gender neutral space, but that doesn’t work the other way around. Calling it an “inclusive toilet” or “gender neutral toilet” tells me absolutely nothing about whether my wheelchair will fit.

[loreleywrites]

you solve the mystery of what to have for dinner one night and you think "hell yeah case closed forever" WRONG there is a dinner mystery the next night too

[loreleywrites]

ok so many people in the notes are talking about meal planning and leftovers and no. thats not what this is about.

leftovers and meal plans dont matter

dinner mystery isn't "i dont have food" its "what will my brain and/or body allow me to eat rn?" and thats a much more complex mystery than either lefties or planning can solve

[cadaverkeys]

My comic for SENSORY: Life on the Spectrum! Organised by Schnumn.

On harm reduction and understanding NSSI! Many autistic folk have normalised harmful behaviours as coping mechanisms in our daily lives and this comic is meant to help people recognise their self injuring behaviours and (hopefully) begin to see pathways to reducing their frequency.

[positivelyqueer]

[Image description: a brightly coloured comic with characters represented as people made of various fruits. The subject of the comic is non suicidal self injury, with a focus on autistic self injury.

Comic transcript: “What have you done to yourself?!” “Oh… What have you done to yourself?” “Sounds like autistic self injury, no?“ “There’s a word for it?!?” It’s actually pretty common! In medical contexts it often goes by NSSI! Meaning Non Suicidal Self Injury! It’s a symptom also seen in various compulsive disorders! Some common behaviours are: Head smacking, Hair pulling or trichotillomania, Chest hitting, Mouth biting, Skin Picking or dermatillomania. It can often be a response to over-stimulation! Fancy you should say that! Because mine is prompted by the opposite! Many of us rely on these behaviours to function in our daily lives! And it does help in the moment! But it can also cause long lasting damage! Some find that covering or shaving hair helps! Shaving should be your choice exclusively! Do not feel pressured to do it! You can soften hitting by wearing a chest guard or gloves! An archers chest guard can be slipped under clothing! People also use stim toys! Some sensations we seek can be achieved with these! That being said, we need an understanding environment first! Injury is often a result of overwhelming stress! So if you injure often, you likely need a bigger change! You don’t need to overcome injury alone! You may want to seek professional help if: Injuries are motivated or followed by feelings of dread. Sores, yellowed skin, scaring or infections begin to form. You injure yourself seriously! Even if you’re not in pain! Extra therapeutic or physical support is wanted. If someone you love injuries themselves, avoid responding with anger! Remember that not everyone can fully recover: try to minimise overall harm and stay safe! /end transcript]

[thelatestkate]

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[homunculus-argument]

"If you accept any food from the fae, they shall never let you go" is a human belief. The fair folk stand by the principle that if you feed 'em, you gotta keep 'em. If wildlife learns to rely on you for food, you have already fucked up, and you can't just stop feeding them cold turkey. That human is your responsibility now. Because you left your peach cobbler unsupervised.

[poetarchy]

“broken english”

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when my mother struggles to spell a word in english I want to break the entire language into little pieces so the edges of these letters will stop cutting her — aysha via Diaspora Defiance (via khromejio)

[geekysteven]

A common theme in science fiction is that if you're in space, don't trust a corporation. And Earth is in space

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is starting to say "actually they're more than romantic partners, they're friends" About my ocs cus im starting to get annoyed now

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[whyenn-reader]

firm believer you can't be a ''good person''. too much niuance to life.

[whyenn-reader]

you can be good (adjective) but you cannot be good (identity)

[whyenn-reader]

if you think you are good (identity) you are more likely to cause harm as you don't consider yourself to be capable of it

[agwitow]

That's a good distinction.

I think it also works with other "positive" traits.

You can be nice (adjective), but "nice" people tend to be too afraid of offending anyone to step up when needed.

You can be honest (adjective), but people who make being "honest" a part of their personality use it as excuse to be blunt (at best) or downright rude

You can be smart (adjective), but those who view themselves as "smart" (identity) tend to look down on others who don't know the same things as them

You can be brave (adjective), but "brave" (identity) people are often reckless

Basically, if you pin your self-worth and identity on a single/few specific traits, you're more likely to embody the negative aspects

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

no one is coming to save yo- wrong!! everyone who has ever shown you love and/or care is saving you a little bit.

[wetheurban]

How lucky we are to experience boring, ordinary, uneventful days. Somewhere in the world, that kind of safety is unimaginable.

[passerinearts]

When it comes to chronic illnesses, mental illnesses, and disabilities, I've noticed that a lot of able-bodied people either don't take names seriously, or don't understand and ask you to explain what it is to them.

Now, if you have any kind of disability, you know it's fucking annoying go have people make you explain something over and over again, or have people go "oh, you have X? You mean, like the [awful stereotype] thing?"

So, I have realized recently that being Vague As Shit is great for making people leave you the hell alone.

I have autism and anxiety, and with that comes the symptom of selective mutism. If you don't know what that is, Firefox is free. But I had an episode where I couldn't speak today in one of my classes, and knew I would have to explain it to my partner and probably my professor.

This usually goes with me writing that I can't speak, them asking why, me saying selective mutism, and them asking me what that is. Then I have to painstakingly write out an explanation. And, obviously, I'm tired of this. So I tried something new. When he asked, I simply told him I couldn't speak, and when he asked if I physically couldn't or just didn't want to, I just opened my mouth and unleashed the terrifying, awful, broken stuttering that comes out when I try to speak while mute.

His response was "OKAY OKAY OKAY YOU CAN STOP NOW" and he did not question me for the rest of class, and even explained to the professor what was wrong when she tried to make me popcorn read.

This also works on doctors. When I tell doctors I have PCOS, POTS, or hEDS, they usually hear "oh the crazy women self diagnosis disabilities" and treat me accordingly. So, instead I drop unhinged symptoms until they leave me alone.

"Yes, my last menstrual cycle started on December 12th, 2025 and ended January 28th, 2026." "I have experienced several events where I have passed out randomly, yes." "My hip has subluxated six times in the past week."

It's like in the principles of writing horror. If you name and describe the problem, it's easier for people to minimize and ignore. Don't let them. You live with this fucking bullshit every day. Let your symptoms haunt people. They don't need to know everything about you. Besides, it makes them treat you better than when you give them names.

[lokaror]

i eat your grandads clothes

[flyingsquidzeez]

Macklemoth

[weirdtranssexual]

i mean this in the nicest way possible but some of you need to learn how to be annoyed

[weirdtranssexual]

people are going to annoy you and that’s not a reason to burn bridges or blow up relationships

some people will even annoy you often! some people aren’t good at social cues and will therefore be frequently annoying! still not a reason to blow everything up!